This is one of the biggest things that keeps new guys and even some more experienced guys from approaching, approach anxiety. How do you know you have approach anxiety? You see a girl you want to approach, but you don't go up to her because you're scared. People with approach anxiety are usually going for outcome or overanalyze the situation. Unless you're a natural or something, every guy's gone through this at one phase, even Pick Up Guru's like Mystery had approach anxiety at one time. So here I'm going to give you some tips that will help you get over approach anxiety...
1. Don't overanalyze the situation.
This is what a lot of guys do that keeps them from approaching, they overanalyze. "Oh, what if she doesn't like me?" "Oh, what if she ignores me?" "What if I fail?" are all common overanalyzations. Best way to get over this is to not THINK about it, but simply go up to the girl and say something. Even if you only say "Hey" to her and nothing else, you had the balls to approach her.
2. If you're a newbie, you probably shouldn't use routines.
If you're a newbie to the whole approaching thing and you have approach anxiety, you should probably stay far away from routines. The reason routines are bad if you have bad approach anxiety, is because you'll be concentrating too much on getting the line out perfectly. And if you DO finally get the balls to approach her, let's face it, it's probably not going to come off as real and she won't be interested. You'll be concentrating more on the line than just having a good time with the girl. I know when I tried to use routines, most of the time I wouldn't go up there and when I did, it came off as fake.
3. "What do I say to her?"
This is a question a lot of guys asks and my answer to this is, SAY ANYTHING. Yes walk up to her and just say anything. Don't think about what you're going to say before you go up there, just say SOMETHING when you get up there. The reason I say this is because if you think about it too much, you start overanalyzing and will probably NOT go up to her.
4. Don't expect the perfect approach.
Don't expect the perfect approach, it's not going to happen.
And those are my tips on overcoming approach anxiety.
1. Don't overanalyze the situation.
This is what a lot of guys do that keeps them from approaching, they overanalyze. "Oh, what if she doesn't like me?" "Oh, what if she ignores me?" "What if I fail?" are all common overanalyzations. Best way to get over this is to not THINK about it, but simply go up to the girl and say something. Even if you only say "Hey" to her and nothing else, you had the balls to approach her.
2. If you're a newbie, you probably shouldn't use routines.
If you're a newbie to the whole approaching thing and you have approach anxiety, you should probably stay far away from routines. The reason routines are bad if you have bad approach anxiety, is because you'll be concentrating too much on getting the line out perfectly. And if you DO finally get the balls to approach her, let's face it, it's probably not going to come off as real and she won't be interested. You'll be concentrating more on the line than just having a good time with the girl. I know when I tried to use routines, most of the time I wouldn't go up there and when I did, it came off as fake.
3. "What do I say to her?"
This is a question a lot of guys asks and my answer to this is, SAY ANYTHING. Yes walk up to her and just say anything. Don't think about what you're going to say before you go up there, just say SOMETHING when you get up there. The reason I say this is because if you think about it too much, you start overanalyzing and will probably NOT go up to her.
4. Don't expect the perfect approach.
Don't expect the perfect approach, it's not going to happen.
And those are my tips on overcoming approach anxiety.
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