How to get or maintain the "I don't give a F what women think" frame?

[Mike32ct]

This is a powerful frame to have, and I've used it here and there, though not consistently. A lot of naturals already have this.

I mean in the context of approaching and also dealing with women on a day to day basis. We know how cold and condescending they can be if they aren't attracted to you. They can even be difficult sometimes when they ARE attracted.

What does the "I don't give a F what women think" frame mean to you? If it is something you use, how did you get there and how do you maintain that?

When my game is "on," nothing bothers me. But during my "off times," I still take rejections and snubs personally. That's one sticking point I'm working on.

I'm not talking about being an as*hole, just being unphased/unaffected by slights, snubs, rejections, sh*t tests, etc.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Mike32ct,


Your best chance at accomplishing your "I don't give a Fukk" mission in regards to women is is to focus at least TWICE as much on giving a Fukk about OTHER THINGS in your life.

Time is a rare commodity. And Mental energy is in shorter supply than you realize. And it's BECAUSE of these two facts of life that occupying yourself with OTHER things that you're GENUINELY interested in is a great way to maintain your emotional equilibrium around women---------even the MOST attractive of women.

 

[Mike32ct]

Thanks VU.

 

[Solomon]

Mike32ct,


Your best chance at accomplishing your "I don't give a Fukk" mission in regards to women is is to focus at least TWICE as much on giving a Fukk about OTHER THINGS in your life.

Time is a rare commodity. And Mental energy is in shorter supply than you realize. And it's BECAUSE of these two facts of life that occupying yourself with OTHER things that you're GENUINELY interested in is a great way to maintain your emotional equilibrium around women---------even the MOST attractive of women.

VU 4 PRESIDENT!!!

:rockon:

This is why these days I'm focused on the gym, I think about working out more then puzzy, I get a boner when I think about jogging or lifting weights, going to the gym is my new bi*tch

I'm dead SRS

 

[Strelok]

First of all well done Mike, this is a very interesting thread.

About the question I think the point is a little bit deeper than what we realize.

There are two reasons I can recall for being concerned about what women thinks:

1) the desire to have sex with her
2) the desire to get validation and reputation thanks to them

In both the cases the most obvious winning card would be to already have a girlfriend that provide sex with no mind games or sh1t tests and that is good looking enough to show ourselves and to others that we are "worth" the attention of a hot babe.

Although even being convinced through past experience of being good enough to get hot girls could work in this direction.

So the main point is our mind as usual as many guys look approval from girls they dont find attractive just for being validated (some sort of confirmation of self worth) or get the prize of being popular.

From this point of view being a high status man or have something to be proud about could be a great starting point that could match perfectly with the self confidence coming from past conquers.

I think most of the men are more concerned about the mind thing than the satisfaction of the sex drive, the average AFC is usually being taugh that in order to be considered a "real man" he needs a woman....one of the biggest lies ever told.

 

[Mike32ct]

Thanks Solomon and Strelok.

Anybody else is welcome to jump in with their thoughts on this.

 

[st_99]

I think its one of those things you develop over time because you are a) aware of this goal and b) hopefully working on other things that develop your confidence like victory mentioned. As long as you keep at it, it will happen.

When it comes to women its way more imporatant to focus on the game and less on the outcome like most other
things in life that are frustrating. I was so bent over my last oneitis but snapped out of it when I just realized that my
game was so off with her (actually it was perfect before sex, terrible after), then i didn't take it personally and I actually can laugh about it now.

 

[EvilAgenda]

You got it, Mike.

What does the "I don't give a F what women think" frame mean to you? If it is something you use, how did you get there and how do you maintain that?

I'll take this further and say "I don't give a F what OTHERS think" To me it means that it's the mindset of a guy who is on his path and just doesn't have the time to give a damn about what the world thinks. A guy who can be trusted and doesn't get rocked off-course by feminine energy.