How to get off the phone with your gf at night?

Happy_Camper

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Hi everyone heres the situation: My gf always calls me when her parents are asleep (11:30p.m.-12:30a.m.) to talk about her day or chit chat. Sometimes i have work or school the next day (school i also see her) and i get really tired the next day cause i dont get enough sleep. Ive read advice here not to talk on the phone every night otherwise the relationship will get very boring. She is also very controlling too, because when i want to get off she says no or she wants to keep talking. And often times when my cell phone battery is dead and that is when the conversation ends (cell lasts for 3 hrs). She knows i have unlimited evenings and weekends as well. Also, i can't call her because her parents don't like it when guys and generally friends call her so she can only call me.
Sometimes you just want to sleep early or dont feel like talking.
Any advice on what to say or do? thanks
 

ARrocket

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You HAVE to put your foot down. Tell her that you get tired during the day, and you need the sleep. Limit the conversation to a half hour at the most.
 

carlitos

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compromise..dont just say u dont wanna talk to her but at the same time suggest something else like u'll see here the next day or something
 

Axcell

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Judging from your post, one would assume you are in high school. Why not just say your parents grounded you from the phone during the night because they feel too much talking on the phone is affecting your school grades? Don't give more information that is neccessary to avoid her catching your lie, but let her know it's affecting your school performance, and you should stop, or limit the times she calls you per week.

Once you have developed a continuous pattern (precedent) of talking on the phone daily at night for hours, it's often very difficult to remove yourself from the situation. That's why it's best to ensure you are on a pedastal from the beginning of a relationship to ensure none of this happens, that the initial spark remains alive between you and that special girl, and to ensure she remains a part of your life, NOT your life.

Best bet is to gradually slip away from her in terms of "picking up" your phone. One day, just don't bother to pick up your phone. Next day, in school, she will ask you why you didn't pick up and just let her know that you were super busy. If you played your cards right from the beginning, she won't over react to the issue, pick up, and leave. Keep doing this, maybe once this week, twice next week, etc. She will sooner get the message - trust me! Remember, it doesn't hurt not to pick up her calls once in a while. The anticipation to talk to you the next day will be enormous if you stop picking a few of her calls! You are making yourself WAY too available to her, somebody needs to get off that whip!

Now, there is an alternative method you can use. However, I'd only use it if you and the girl in your post are in a LTR and there is a special intimacy between you two. Most relationships fail because of a lack of communication. If you feel that you and this girl communicate effectively with each other, just tell her the HONEST truth. Let her know that you have other things to do with your time, and you can't stay up talking to her because you have school the next day! Oh, and if there isn't good communiation between you two, be prepared to answer back to comments such as: "Oh, so you don't want to talk to me anymore?" and "If you wanted to ignore me, you could have just said so." I'll pray, for your sake, that this doesn't happen.

Best of luck - let us know what you decide to do!
 

Teh_Wolf

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Dude why bother with the work of lying when its not something you should lie about. Its not that big of a deal and lying probably is the wuss' way out of this one. This is where you show your dominance and just say sorry babe i gotta sleep later. if she argues dont let her win just say your gonna be tired and you really need to sleep. Might even have to hang up on her, but i have no idea how that would go :p

my 2 cents
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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baurman

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"I'm gonna let you go....I'm getting tired and I need to get up early tomorrow morning. I'll give you a call tomorrow, alright?"

If she doesn't accept this, FVCK HER! You're the man. Don't EVER let her tell you what to do. Either she respects that you have to get off the phone and get to bed because you're tired or you don't want to be tired in the morning or she gets the boot.
 

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"I've got to go. I'll call you later."
"I think I'm gonna go take a shower, call me tomorrow."
"I'm really tired, can we talk about this in the morning?"

Not that hard bro.
 
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