how to get my g/f to want sex

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Im a senior my g/fs a sophmore, we have done pretty much everything except bang. Although every time I want to go far with her she makes it out to be like a chore. Also she trys to gain control of the relationship and wont except the fact that Im the boss. Anyway how do I get her to be more sexual and want to bang. Maybe she just doesnt have enough attraction for me. When i joke around and say crap like "we should make a porn together" she wont even joke, she'll just say "oh your funny", so pretty much she completely shoots down my idea. Anyway what do i do?
 

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MightyMate said:
Bullthist works on women.
Aside from editing your post so it says "make OUT with her," rather than "make UP with her," I'm going to add this in:

- She must be a complete :cuss: *tard* for it to work that way.

Women can see through BS like you can see through wet white shirts...On a fat chick.
 

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Dude did it ever occur to you that this chick might not be ready yet? So rushing things wont exactly help.

Take things slow. Make her feel comfortable. Dont push it.
 

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you cannot make her want to have sex with you. its her choice.
you can set the scene so it appeals to everything she wants, you can promise her x,y and Z but at the end of the day if you put forward your best self and act smart and give her no reason to say no, you should be allright
 

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yeah spookey i think thats the best advice yet
 

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when i first started going out with her she would give me head and i would get with her alot. well i think i got to nice or something because she started being a spoiled ***** like complaining if we didnt do what she wanted and giving me alot of attitude. Now she wont give me head at all, but I threatened to break up with her and that got her to start being alot nicer.
 

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The queaky wheel doesn't get the oil. It gets replaced.
 

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talking isn't going to get you too far. She has to know/think you love her and you have to TURN HER ON. If she's turned on enough, she'll throw anything else out the window as long as she doesn't feel like she's being used.
 

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Stop going for sex, just stop suddenly at one point in the buildup to it, and go about your day.
 

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2 steps.

first thing you should do is absolutely disregard everything anyone has said before me.

the second thing you should do is break up with her.

she doesnt like you, she doesnt respect you and you dont seem to like or respect her either.

tough cookies.
 

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actually, if you can talk a decent/good bullsh*t 100% of women, that's right I said 100% will fall for it completely. Let her know that you CARE ABOUT HER and RESPECT everything she does and thinks. You will go at HER PACE if that's what she wants. You would normally never say these things, but you are in a relationship, things change. She will think that you want her, not just her body, and that you will wait around with her as long as she wants until she's ready.

Funnily enough, when she thinks those things she will become ready. ***If she thinks you will break up with her because she won't have sex, she will have no problem breaking up with YOU*** to women, that is the ultimate assh*le mindset and every single one in the world hates it.

This advice isn't coming only from me, but also from a very very experienced man I know, so you're not only taking my word, but someone's word who has slept with over 500 DIFFERENT WOMEN in his life. He taught me a lot.

Like I say, tell her you love and respect her, you want her to feel special, and you are going at HER pace. Do this and I GUARANTEE she will be ready to do it SOON.

If not, there is something wrong with her and she should be gone.
 

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first off, thanks to everyone who has posted advice and keep it comming,

kevme - i wish it could be that simple, your advice sounds real nice but i dunno if it will work. The dudes I know who get laid are complete *******s to their chicks, plus from other advice I heard its best not to tell a chick you love her, but I really do care for her and she cares about me. So i am not BSing anything and Im not trying to Bang her and leave her I just want a more sexual relationship. I am a virgin but I dont think she knows that, Im pretty sure she is like 98% but I never flat out asked her. But does everyone else her think I should tell her I care about her and maybe even love her?



I have never asked her if she wants to have sex so I dont know for sure, but my logic has been that If she gives me such a hard time about other sexual things then its probobly not a good idea to try it yet. Also I want to wait for a good romantic night where it seems right and if I do all this and she still wont then I will have to leave her - Even though I will feel like an ass for doing it. I have seen situation where guys are in long term relationships for years, YEARS! with no sex because they are too nice and the girl wont go for it so they continue to spend tons of money and still have desert d*ck.
 

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so I went over her house tonight and instead of trying to get in her pants - I slow played it. I just enjoyed the atmosphere alot more like how nice she smells and how gorgeous her eyes are, we made out alot and I could tell she wanted me to take it further, but she didnt try hard enough haha and I didnt give her what she wanted. But we did lay there and stare into eachothers eyes for awhile and that was nice. I am going to try and reverse the role so that she is the one who is craving sex it will be tough but I will try to hold back and see what happens.

what do u guys think of my idea?
 

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Sounds -great- to me. Plus if you're the one holding off, you won't miss it as much. :p
 

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Although I am no expert.

I think you should wait it out. Eventually time should work.
 

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OMG dude! WDF she is onlky a sphmore. SHE is scared. She thinks she might get pregnant. SHe saw to many movies when teens get pregnant. If i were u I would NEXT her. She is young. and wont have sex un;less u kinda force her. SO NEXT her...Good luck
 

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Heres my thoughts. This is all from experience.

First of all, is she a virgin, or not?

If you rush things, then she will think that you are just after sex. Don't be afraid to be sexual, but don't just put your hand down her pants a minute after you start kissing her. Be a little slower, dare I say, romantic. Get her turned one first. Stroke the back of her neck when kissing her. Kiss her neck, they love that. There are plenty of places you can touch a woman, that aren't the tits or pvssy, that get them turned on.

Aim for small targets first, if you're getting head, handjobs etc, then you'll get there and at least your having some sort of fun. If you have nothing work towards these 1st.

Assuming that you this, then think about why she's resisting sex. Heres some common ones but there are others too.

1) POWER - A very common reason. She wants to make you wait to gain power in the relationship. As I've said regulary, a man should have power, if he doesn't then things go wrong.

2) She feels dirty, uncomfortable with her sexuality, perhaps for religious reasons. Make her realise that sex is perfectly natural and enjoyable act.

3) Shes underage. I do not encourage underage sex and suggest that you don't date underage girls in future.

If she isn't a virgin, then I'd make it clear, in a subtle way, that you can get sex elsewhere without too much effort. Mention other girls that you like, etc. It's more likely to be POWER than anything else here.

If shes a virgin, its more likely to be (2).

Do remember that if you bang virgins they have a habit of being fond of you for a rather long time.

I wouldn't wait longer than 3/4 weeks for a non-virgin and perhaps a little longer, I'd decided in my last relationship with a virgin to wait no longer than about 1.5 months, however I did wait 2 months simply because I knew she wanted it and it was just a case of finding a place to do it!
 

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thanks for the advice and keep it comming, I know that I turn her on because she told me I do haha. I kiss her neck already and she loves it, maybe i need to give a real good massage too.

Some of her spoiledness comes from the fact that she is pretty rich and gets like whatever she wants. She never worked a day in her life and she is the youngest child in her family so I think she has less responsibility. This is both good and bad. Its good because I'm probobly the only person in her life that doesnt give her exactly what she wants. She will do things for me when I tell her to like ill say get me a drink and she will - crap like that.

Anyway thanks to everyone for the advice I will try to hold on longer, but its frusturating because there other girls who arent virgins and like and me alot and would most likely have sex with me. One in particular, who I use to get with, is absolutely obsessed and calls me telling me to break up with my g/f and get with her instead hahaa. Anyway I couldn't have even got half this far without sosuave.com soo thanks for all the information here.
 
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