How to get her

[Viper423]

Ok, my best friend recently introduced me to one of his friends which happens to be a girl, and we get along real well. Well, after meeting this girl, I have been thrown into the mix of a new social cirlcle. She is a swimmer, and I have met a lot of her friends and have been hanging out with them a lot lately. They call me and ask me to come over and do stuff. Well, when this girl introduced me to one of her friends and something just clicked, instant attraction. I have hung out with this other girl about 3 times in the past 4 days and I really like her. I recently got out of a bad relationship, girl picked another guy over me, and this attraction I feel for this new girl I met has caused me to completely get over it. The problem...I have only been with this girl in a "group." I guess you could say I have been accepted into their social circle or group of friends and she is always with them. So, how should I go about pursuing her? Should I ask my new "girl friend" if this other girl is into me before trying anything?

 

[Runna13=)]

Don't talk to your "new girlfrind" about her. I know through firsthand experience that this is all bad. There might be miscommunication (what happened to me), lost of mysteriousness, and other shi* that might happen. Be a man. You don't need confirmation that this girl likes you. Talk to her some more to raise the IL and then ask her out on a date.

 

[Bloodsport]

I agree. Leave the "girl friend" out of it. The time will come, probably sooner than later, when you're alone with the one you like and you'll have your opportunity.

 

[white_hype]

1-dont hangout with her 3 of 4 days unless you want to be her best friend that she tells all her stories of hooking up with guys that arent you (unless you have hooked up with her already then do whatever)
2-dont hang out with her with all your/her friends; take her out ALONE; when you take her out kiss her and keep doing this until you get tired of her

is it that hard to realise you sometimes need to "date" a girl to "get her" THINK MAN THINK

 

[xblitz44x]

" I recently got out of a bad relationship, girl picked another guy over me, and this attraction I feel for this new girl I met has caused me to completely get over it."

The problem is that you're NOT completely over it. You may be completely over the girl, but you're not over the way the girl made you feel when you chose somebody else over you. I'm guessing that it invalidated you. It made you feel like you didnt' qualify as a good BF, or that you couldn't sustain a woman's interest long enough. I think THATs why you are searching for "confirmation" from the new girl's friend. Just so that you have that security that the old girlfriend stripped from you when she chose the other guy.

Try to work through that issue. When you see the new girl that you like, try to get your own side-conversation going. When you feel like there is a high-point in the conversation say, "Hey, do you want to get together sometime this week for something to eat?" That's all. She may decline, she may not. But it's better to go to the source than to go through a friend who very well may delude the truth, thinking she's doing you a favor.