How to get her?

[Newcomer]

Hey guys.

I am totally new in this forum, but I am certainly not new to interacting with girls. Unfortunalety I have never really learned how to go about girls that really matters to me.

New years eve I met a girl that totally blew me away. I had talked to her before and I know she also was/is a little attracted to me. However, even through I did my best to get her on the hook, I realised that it wasn't really working that well. In the end, when I was all too drunk, I took the chance and told her straight op that I love her. She looked at me with surprised (and very sweet eyes, and I felt that this was the woman I wanted to wake up next to every morning. However she replyed she was attracted to me, but wants to stay with her boyfriend. Then we got interrupted, and the night was over (damn!!)
It felt really good at that time just to tell her I loved her, but I am not sure if that was a good idea. I want this woman so bad (I have never had a woman I was in love with). But now she know (all too) exactly how I feel.

Have I ruined my chance (and there was a chance, I know it), by telling her how I feel?

How do I increase her actraction towards me?

In short, how do I get her?

 

[chance_]

didn't you just make a thread about this ?

 

[WC2]

You may not be new to interacting with girls, but without a doubt you haven't had much experience actually attracting them.

A lot can be said about your little situation, but how about we just keep it general..

Slow down, be rational. Almost every guy has an experience like this that we call oneitis. You might be attracted to a woman's body or attitude, but you cannot really say you love her until you're actually with her. You're simply just infatuated.

With that said, you need to work with what you have. Attraction. Not love. If you're attracted to the girl, then don't tell her that. Like she really cares if you like her.. she wants to be played with, she wants to laugh at what you say, and most of all she wants to feel your confidence; confidence in body language, confidence in dialogue, confidence in laying her.

If you go into every situation trying to nail a longtime relationship, you will fail 99% of the time. Guaranteed. Now, walk into this type of situation and only look ahead into the night. Don't look anywhere past the day you meet her.

You'd be very surprised.. by tricking your mind into thinking that she isn't all that important, your confidence goes up three fold. Once you land that move and solidify your presence with her, then you can start thinking about seeing her. Then you can start thinking about love.

 

[jonwon]

when I was all too drunk, I took the chance and told her straight op that I love her. She looked at me with surprised (and very sweet eyes, and I felt that this was the woman I wanted to wake up next to every morning.

However she replyed she was attracted to me, but wants to stay with her boyfriend.

Worst move ever in the history of dating, telling a girl you love her you hardly know, what a fu**ing SAP sorry but no other words can describe the lvl of quality here.

How the hell can you love her you dont even know her, oh yes love at first site BS, it does not exist and even if it did no intelligent human being would go for it, it is asking for trouble.

Stop placing women in general on a pedistal which you are.

Telling women you love them when you have just met them is the most anal thing you could ever possibly do, very anal indeed.

Also this women as a BF, think about this for a second, some guy with his heart on his sleave says to some random women he loves her, she as a BF, how exaclty did you think this was going to pan out?

Worst ever attempt at attraction i have witnessed for a long while, no really it is.

she had a BF if she was going to cheat last person she would cheat with is some drunken guy who says he is in love on her first meet, do you think she needs that lvl of drama in her life, a quick fling with this much going on.

You come accross like a sad puppy dog needed attention from any bint out there! you have a very very long way to go.

Yoy fu**ed up and have ZERO chance with this women!

There is NO coming back from this! not with this girl anyway.

sorry i could lie but i will choose not to, the fact is i smell a troll or a guy who really is at a very poor lvl currently, if your not a troll start reading up, you need it.

 

[Newcomer]

Ok

Just to get one thing straight...I know I ****ed up. Big time. But I have known her for almost 2 month, though I did not state that clearly in my thread. And I have felt that there was something going on... And when I look back I spotted some (good) cues which I overlooked during the evening. And often when I talked to her, she stick her tounge out and lick her upper lip in the most sexy way...It may be just a habbit or a test.
I was so nerveus that I just wanted to get as drunk as possible.

Because of this incident I went straight out and bought Neil Strauss "the game". ...I should have bought it before... damned!!!!!!!!!

jonwon: Do you still think I blew it forever?

p.s. I actually live a few meters from her, since I live at a college

 

[lookyoung]

I agree with jonwon 100%. That is the biggest AFC move I have ever heard in my life:crackup: . ANd he says he is good with woman. Any guys that has been with woman and banged chicks would never say anything like that. Not too put you down, but you have much to learn my friend. Read the tips section there is good advice for rookies like you.




You have absolutely zero chance of getting this girl. Hopefully you learn from this mistake in the future.:crackup:

 

[jonwon]

Just to get one thing straight...I know I ****ed up. Big time. But I have known her for almost 2 month, though I did not state that clearly in my thread. And I have felt that there was something going on... And when I look back I spotted some (good) cues which I overlooked during the evening. And often when I talked to her, she stick her tounge out and lick her upper lip in the most sexy way...It may be just a habbit or a test.
I was so nerveus that I just wanted to get as drunk as possible.

Because of this incident I went straight out and bought Neil Strauss "the game". ...I should have bought it before... damned!!!!!!!!!

jonwon: Do you still think I blew it forever?

p.s. I actually live a few meters from her, since I live at a college

You fu**ed it, no idea about the game i am sure it will be a good read but remember alot of these pick up guys are about money even if they do say they get alot of success. But it truth it cant be any worse then where you are at now can it.

2months it still stands, anyway stop posting in this its pointless read the bible and read the struass book it can only help, we all start some-where.

 

[Credos]

You can still say to her you meant that at the beer in you hand