How To Get Girls To Film?

[jamesfromhouston]

Hi DJs.

Maybe a weird question to some but I need to ask:

I read from some threads that some of you have made sex videos with your girls (and ex girls).

I've actually never filmed a sex video with any of my lays. I'd love to record some of the amazing sex seshes I've had the privilege to enjoy but to be honest, I don't know how to bring it up to them. Just seems awkward to ask them directly: "Hey can I film you?"

Is there a way you guys go about it?

Is it something like physical escalation (kino) where you have to build up to it?

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

If you’re doing ONS, no advice.

If you’re not in the Western World, no advice. Non-western culture women will, to varying degrees be resistant to this, period, full-stop.

If you’re actively seeing a woman you need to normalize sex with her, she needs to see you as the experienced mind blowing lover and has to mean it. In order to be that type of sexual partner you need to learn how to weave your web for them emotionally and physically. Which is beyond the scope of this reply.

Once you have done that appropriately and she’s secure with you and trusts you begin to tell her how utterly attractive she is to you that she’s beautiful and that you’re so into her and have to actually feel it, they know because of your consistency in this. A poor show will not do. And it does not happen overnight.

Compliment all of her incessantly, be consistent. Have a dressing mirror in the room and allow her to get glances of you two going at it, women usually love it once you can get her to look at it, some will take time, for whatever reason. You can try being insistent that she does in a gentle, encouraging way, that “look how beautiful we look together!”

After that you can suggest she film it on her phone or take her phone and do it yourself, but leave the clip in her possession and later ask her if she looked at it and how it made her feel. If she liked it ask her to send it to you. My suggestion is that the first few times you do not include personally identifiable landmarks, it reduces their resistance to it and gets her used to the idea.

Eventually, if you do this correctly it will not be an issue to do it yourself spontaneously. Never admit to having done it with others, if asked a redirect is recommended.

Warning: this is advanced shyte, you could mess things up irreparably. This is all about your trust building skills.

YMMV

 

[jamesfromhouston]

If you’re doing ONS, no advice.

If you’re not in the Western World, no advice. Non-western culture women will, to varying degrees be resistant to this, period, full-stop.

If you’re actively seeing a woman you need to normalize sex with her, she needs to see you as the experienced mind blowing lover and has to mean it. In order to be that type of sexual partner you need to learn how to weave your web for them emotionally and physically. Which is beyond the scope of this reply.

Once you have done that appropriately and she’s secure with you and trusts you begin to tell her how utterly attractive she is to you that she’s beautiful and that you’re so into her and have to actually feel it, they know because of your consistency in this. A poor show will not do. And it does not happen overnight.

Compliment all of her incessantly, be consistent. Have a dressing mirror in the room and allow her to get glances of you two going at it, women usually love it once you can get her to look at it, some will take time, for whatever reason. You can try being insistent that she does in a gentle, encouraging way, that “look how beautiful we look together!”

After that you can suggest she film it on her phone or take her phone and do it yourself, but leave the clip in her possession and later ask her if she looked at it and how it made her feel. If she liked it ask her to send it to you. My suggestion is that the first few times you do not include personally identifiable landmarks, it reduces their resistance to it and gets her used to the idea.

Eventually, if you do this correctly it will not be an issue to do it yourself spontaneously. Never admit to having done it with others, if asked a redirect is recommended.

Warning: this is advanced shyte, you could mess things up irreparably. This is all about your trust building skills.

YMMV

That's very good advice. Thank you!

I know you mentioned it was beyond the scope of your reply, but can you share some insights on how you personally "weave your web for them emotionally and physically"? Curious to know.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I have a camera on a tripod in the corner of the room to 'record sessions' for improving my shibari.
And women like to record themselves masturbating while talking dirty to the camera about what they want me to do to them.

 

[Millard Fillmore]

I've grabbed my phone in the heat of the moment and said "You're so hot, I want to capture this in a photo/video." They usually don't mind. Most women LOVE being photographed or filmed naked.

Once they know you're into it (read: won't judge them) they'll be more likely to do more. Had an ex who would do videos with me, also send me various nudes etc.

If you think she might be unsure, bring it up during sex - most fantasies are best brought up when the temp is up. But anytime is fine - she will generally go along with your kinks or at least not mind you being open with her about them.

Caveat, most will be okay if you keep their face out of it.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

That's very good advice. Thank you!

I know you mentioned it was beyond the scope of your reply, but can you share some insights on how you personally "weave your web for them emotionally and physically"? Curious to know.

That sir is part of seduction, there are many well known tomes on how to do this. Each man must develop his own personal style based on his emotional and physical abilities, it’s part of a man’s maturation if he is interested in it. It simply, in my mind cannot be taught. If sex and connection could be taught it would be, I’m sure many programs are out there to do so, but I’ve never looked.

As with most things anything worth doing takes time and effort and repetition, trail and error. Again it’s based on YOUR abilities.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Caveat, most will be okay if you keep their face out of it.

I also have a variety of masks women can wear during the shibari sessions.

 

[Bingo-Player]

Its like any other kink or fetish you have to make her comfortable and confidently lead her into it

Most women have an anti sLoot tripwire and a nice guy trip wire, You trigger either of those and you can forget about doing anything other than missionary and cowgirl.

So you don't ask .....you just make a statement like

"I'm going to record us tonight so I can learn what makes you c*m "

I trained my last girlfriend to get dress up in nice lingerie for me pretty much every time we had sex, it was a fair bit of effort for her too but she didn't mind because she knew she was pleasing me

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I trained my last girlfriend to get dress up in nice lingerie for me pretty much every time we had sex, it was a fair bit of effort for her too but she didn't mind because she knew she was pleasing me

You know how it goes. Women enjoy dressing up for their man. If you show appreciation for her efforts, she's more likely to invest in lingerie to please you. And herself, of course.

 

[Clockwerk50]

Usually in the beginning stages, when you guys are ****ing like rabbits like 3 times per day, you just say you want take a video. They are usually ok with it.

 

[CBear]

Just like with anything in life, it takes time. You need to be observant of her and her behaviors as you have sex with her over time. Does she seem kinky and crazy over you and the sex that you give to her? would she do it at random places with you such as a car with no shame? Does she start sending you nude pictures of herself? If yes, remind her how hot and sexy she is during and after sex, start taking pictures of her nude, then tell her that she's so sexy and that you love sex with her so much, that you're turned on by the idea of a video of you and her and see how she reacts. Then depending on how confident you feel about the progress and her response, you can slowly introduce it by either taking pictures of both of you nude or start recording it.

 

[Plinco]

This depends a lot on the girl too. I'd say girls who are more confident with their bodies are more likely to do this.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

I jokingly suggested it to a girl I was with. She said it sounded ‘kinda hot.’ But she said she was ‘too shy.’
Honestly. I don’t care about filming. So I didn’t press it.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Hi DJs.

Maybe a weird question to some but I need to ask:

I read from some threads that some of you have made sex videos with your girls (and ex girls).

I've actually never filmed a sex video with any of my lays. I'd love to record some of the amazing sex seshes I've had the privilege to enjoy but to be honest, I don't know how to bring it up to them. Just seems awkward to ask them directly: "Hey can I film you?"

Is there a way you guys go about it?

Is it something like physical escalation (kino) where you have to build up to it?

Just tell her that the session is being recorded for training and quality assurance purposes.