How to game at the club scene?

[thunder_god]

I typically just do daygame and occasionally night street game but I want to be well rounded so started to incorporate club, bar, pub game recently. Until day game, the environment is usually packed, really loud, and also girls I notice ****block you a lot, and have their ***** shields up, and also there is a lot of competition. I'm just wondering how do I game in this type of environment? I tried grabbing girls arms at a pub, but got rejected right after she looked at me, while I tried to open verbally and got no where. Yesterday I tried to open by touching their shoulders and it seemed to work for opening some girls but I didn't know how to take it from there.

Any tips?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

There's just about one thing and one thing only that you need, and that is to lose yourself to dance.

There's little or no 'approaching' in the classical sense, you just have to strut your stuff and if the peahen likes the display by the peac0ck, then she will let him know he is allowed to approach.

This is by far and away the method by which I have achieved most success. Some nights, I don't even talk to a woman but she ends up kissing me. I have an unreasonable affinity for musical rhythm for a white man.

However, you don't necessarily need rhythm as such. A few basic moves can just get the confidence going, which is obviously what the ladies are looking for. My mates and I sometimes just mimic everyday activities for a laugh; like anything, but in an exaggerated comical way. My personal fave is 'casting the fishing line'.... it works wonders as a way to 'reel' a chick over in your direction.

Keep it simple. But don't just stand there. And don't 'approach' in a typical way. It's not a place to hold conversation. It's a place to show off.

 

[Mr Wright]

When it comes to opening at night, the easiest place to do that is by the bar and just talk random situational stuff with girls then quickly change the topic onto something more engaging.

You can test for attraction within the first few minutes, try and see if she will walk about 10 metres away from where you're standing. If she won't even do that then chances are shes not interested. As with most game you want to filter out the girls who are just being friendly, you can easily just get a number or a facebook off these girls if you want to befriend them and follow up later. The last thing you want is to be talking to a girl for 15-20 minutes for her to say "oh I have a boyfriend" or she's just not interested. These little tests just give you something to help you, especially if you're in a loud club designed to screw with your senses. That's just something to work on for now because you don't need an overload of information.

This is by far and away the method by which I have achieved most success. Some nights, I don't even talk to a woman but she ends up kissing me. I have an unreasonable affinity for musical rhythm for a white man.

This is a perfect example of night game, it's flash in the pan stuff. It's superficial and if you want to be successful at it you have to just get over the fact that some girls will be stuck up about meeting you whilst others will make out with you straight away. It won't make sense but don't waste your time with the girls who aren't open to you, move on. Some girls are just open to meet a guy that night and if you want to increase the chances of that being you, you need to be able to escalate.

Kissing girls at night isn't hard, I think it's something you have to go through then once you get over it you don't need the validation of it. I used to be like "score I made out with 4 girls tonight" ...but I wasn't getting laid. When I stopped kissing girls and stopped seeking validation, I got laid a lot more.

 

[Rocky_Wayne]

Go to www.howtoga.me and search "club game" or "bar game". Done.

 

[BraddH]

Straight to the point.

 

[apprenticedj]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to TheMonkeyKing again.


ON POINT!

 

[marmel75]

It's actually kind of funny at the clubs...you have to be ready for any situation...girls will hit on you out of nowhere with some crazy sh!t, like "Hey, don't you remember us??" Any hesitation or standing there like a dumbass and you lost the chance...

Just be ready for anything is all I can say...

 

[TheGambino]

Ye men, dancing especially to reaggaeton, dancehall and latin is extremely sexual. If you can vibe with the music and follow the girl whos dancing to the rhytm you can be in a 'sexual vibe' with her and she will go along with it. Just feel the music and follow the rhytm on the dancefloor, make eye contact and if she laughs to you, you stand behind her and follow her moves. Don't go for the casual chit chat, be flirty and direct in clubs. They aren't going out to talk about their life, they want to have fun, so have fun! You can blablablabla when you take her home. When youre dancing you could ask for her name or tell her shes cute or smell her neck and tell her that she smells good, it will improve the sexual/romantic sense. After the succesfull dance you should grabb her hand and lead her to a private spot in the club, don't talk to much just kino and go for the kiss close. GOODLUCK

 

[Skyline]

There's just about one thing and one thing only that you need, and that is to lose yourself to dance.

There's little or no 'approaching' in the classical sense, you just have to strut your stuff and if the peahen likes the display by the peac0ck, then she will let him know he is allowed to approach.

This is by far and away the method by which I have achieved most success. Some nights, I don't even talk to a woman but she ends up kissing me. I have an unreasonable affinity for musical rhythm for a white man.

However, you don't necessarily need rhythm as such. A few basic moves can just get the confidence going, which is obviously what the ladies are looking for. My mates and I sometimes just mimic everyday activities for a laugh; like anything, but in an exaggerated comical way. My personal fave is 'casting the fishing line'.... it works wonders as a way to 'reel' a chick over in your direction.

Keep it simple. But don't just stand there. And don't 'approach' in a typical way. It's not a place to hold conversation. It's a place to show

I know what you're talking about. Ever since my experience at my HS homecoming dance I just became a monster on the dance floor. Its a hard feeling to explain but I just feel limitless once I'm on the dance floor and start dancing, and I have no idea how to dance. All I really do is random moves in a slow yet stable manner according to the beat of the music, which I guess would look rehearsed. I really feel like I can express my mind through my actions properly when the lights go down and the music turns up- don't know why. Getting this feeling during the day is hard but maybe if I started dancing it would help since it seems to be a catalyst for night game confidence. I might actually try that.

 

[_sideways_]

Not to toot my own horn here but when clubbing, the attractive dude doesnt need to do anything. Girls just walk past me and smack my but, or press the chest on my chest and all i do is smile. I noticed that my good looking friends just stand there and chicks just start grinding them.

So, just get buff. Hair cut...act aloof, etc.

Girls are there to get rubbed up on. Its just a pass time thing.

 

[thunder_god]

Tonight's the big night. I'm hitting up the pub/bar downtown so hopefully I will have some successes utilizing the advice here.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

All the best Thunder!

Remember, carefree attitude and outcome independence. Have fun

 

[thunder_god]

Thanks for the advice guys. I tried out the dancing on the dance floor routine and surprisingly it worked lol. I got approached by a fat blonde chick and we ended up grinding. It was my first time grinding with a chick. Not the greatest experience but experience is experience. Didn't end up getting approached by anymore chicks since the dance floor got really packed. I really need to work on my dance moves since I can't dance for ****. I will try to have fun next time I do it instead of it being forced.

 

[thunder_god]

This is good advice. I'm not a particularly good dancer. I have CRD (Caucasian Rhythm Disorder) and can't move at all on a dancefloor.

I'm meeting my friend at a place in town Friday night that's super busy. I've never been, but I'm confident nonetheless.

If I am forced on a dancefloor, I usually just play up my inability to dance by looking, intentionally, loke a total tool. The confidence exuded from that must show to the ladies.

If I may give a tidbit of advice, just walk up to a girl already dancing, lightly grab her hand, and proceed to start doing the wave while your hands are locked together. It ends up looking like a "fish out of water" type thing...but I run with it and it tends to work for me.

Good Luck! :rockon:

Thanks for the tip, I will try the wave move next time I go. Also I noticed my wing got completely blown off when he tried to grab girls hands to dance with. Is this a poor strategy for club game?

 

[Mr Wright]

Thanks for the tip, I will try the wave move next time I go. Also I noticed my wing got completely blown off when he tried to grab girls hands to dance with. Is this a poor strategy for club game?

Yeah, it's awful. It's strange the guys seem to recommend dancing because whenever I've done well it's when I've not been dancing but vibing with some girl outside in the smoking area or by the bar. I find it's then easier to go and dance with her later, to get that physical closeness after you've already established some rapport.

Grabbing doesn't work, it's too much too soon and shows poor social skills. I mean if he's not even talking to the girl first, they're just going to get creeped out.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Yeah, it's awful. It's strange the guys seem to recommend dancing because whenever I've done well it's when I've not been dancing but vibing with some girl outside in the smoking area or by the bar. I find it's then easier to go and dance with her later, to get that physical closeness after you've already established some rapport.

Grabbing doesn't work, it's too much too soon and shows poor social skills. I mean if he's not even talking to the girl first, they're just going to get creeped out.

Dance yes. Grab no.

Grabbing is not an attraction ploy. Dancing is.

I am glad you got some success on the initial attempt ThunderGod. Yeah, she may not have been to your standard, but it's a start. There will be plenty more better options for you to come. Just keep this experience in mind. Practice your moves in the daytime. My iPod is one of my best friends. I find myself getting down at my desk, walking along the street, anywhere. People everywhere feed off of the positive vibe. Music is a very powerful source of psychological well-being in general.

 

[thunder_god]

So today I hit up three different night clubs. The first two were packed especially the second one. You could barely even walk in the past. I tried the dancing strategy but it didn't work, so I then tried grabbing girls hands or putting my hand on their waist but got rejected. I even got up on the dance stage and started dancing but it didn't work. Do you guys have any other strategies for clubs/bars that are really packed? Obviously talking doesn't work since its so loud.

 

[Mr Wright]

So today I hit up three different night clubs. The first two were packed especially the second one. You could barely even walk in the past. I tried the dancing strategy but it didn't work, so I then tried grabbing girls hands or putting my hand on their waist but got rejected. I even got up on the dance stage and started dancing but it didn't work. Do you guys have any other strategies for clubs/bars that are really packed? Obviously talking doesn't work since its so loud.

I knew this wouldn't work long term. I just have to look at all the guys who I know who are good at club game. I can tell you one thing, they're not dancing. They approach girls on the dance floor but they're not actually dancing. I think when you're dancing you can just end up looking like a drunken fool, which is not a good look unless you are looking for girls equally as drunk and those girls are generally skanky. Plus dancing in nightclubs is a very social activity, girls will dance with anyone who looks like fun, it can be misleading but once you get her to a certain place when you're talking, there is little left to interpretation.

A packed bar is so good for getting girls because it gives you a reason to break the touch barrier straight away. I talk to her in my normal voice but I have an engaging face on, it's loud so she'll get closer if she wants to here. The only next logical step is to talk into her ear. Now you're already in a position which people talk to each other when they're seducing each other. Secondly, if any other girls are watching you talk to her and you're right in her space, it implies trust and thats going to definitely be in your favour in terms of social proof.

Talking actually works great in a loud setting because then you have the excuse to move somewhere more quiet. Remember she won't move with you if she's not attracted or at least a bit interested. You move outside to grab some air, she's away from friends and the loud noise. Then you can do whatever you usually do. From clubs in my life I've probably slept with 15-20 girls and this is usually how I do it. Chat, isolate, escalate. Real simple.

 

[thunder_god]

Also my wings and buddies keep on insisting that I either drink up and get tipsy or get drunk in order to be more successful. What do you guys think?