How to focus on your ambitions and FORGET girls?

[themusicman]

Hey guys, first poster here.

I know where I want to go in life and the things that I want to achieve. And, in fact, I truly believe that I want those things more than I want women. I can honestly say that if I were pursuing my dreams I wouldn't care if I was single the rest of my life. But for some reason, I have trouble making my actions reflect that. I still waste time chasing after girls, spend too much time on social media trying to get likes and chat with girls, etc etc...I really just want to forget about them and do me, at least for now. I think that 23 years of being an AFC has conditioned me to think I need to have a girl on my arm to feel happy. Any guys have experience with just letting women go? If so, how'd you do it?

Thanks bros! Happy to be on the forum.

 

[skinnyguy]

I feel u bro. What I've found is that having a lot of male friends and fun hobbies can help. Find something you're truly passionate about and make that your life. Also realize that you're lucky to be where you are and many people aren't as fortunate. Volunteer, travel, and read good books.

 

[Suspens]

Cut your dlck and feed it to feminizombies.:cheer:

I still waste time chasing after girls, spend too much time on social media trying to get likes and chat with girls, etc etc

Like most of guys you are suffering from Affection Deficit Disorder. Keep chasing bro, but do it the right way.

 

[Rival]

Hey guys, first poster here.

I know where I want to go in life and the things that I want to achieve. And, in fact, I truly believe that I want those things more than I want women. I can honestly say that if I were pursuing my dreams I wouldn't care if I was single the rest of my life. But for some reason, I have trouble making my actions reflect that. I still waste time chasing after girls, spend too much time on social media trying to get likes and chat with girls, etc etc...I really just want to forget about them and do me, at least for now. I think that 23 years of being an AFC has conditioned me to think I need to have a girl on my arm to feel happy. Any guys have experience with just letting women go? If so, how'd you do it?

Thanks bros! Happy to be on the forum.

The biggest thing in my opinion is to take women off the pedestal. Realize there just another animal, like you. There's truly nothing special about them, there flesh and blood and die just as easy.

Imagine a dog, yeah it's cool...may even look "pretty" but do you really care what it's thinking? Most likely not. If you're normal you view the dog as just a pet/animal and nothing super amazing. Try to see women in a similar way. At least at the start.

 

[Dhoulmagus]

Hey guys, first poster here.

I know where I want to go in life and the things that I want to achieve. And, in fact, I truly believe that I want those things more than I want women. I can honestly say that if I were pursuing my dreams I wouldn't care if I was single the rest of my life. But for some reason, I have trouble making my actions reflect that. I still waste time chasing after girls, spend too much time on social media trying to get likes and chat with girls, etc etc...I really just want to forget about them and do me, at least for now. I think that 23 years of being an AFC has conditioned me to think I need to have a girl on my arm to feel happy. Any guys have experience with just letting women go? If so, how'd you do it?

Thanks bros! Happy to be on the forum.

sounds like you are in that situation where you do not want women out of your life because of constant disappointment. There's really nothing you can do lol to ignore them. My friend is fine with not having sex for months while I start getting after 2-3 days. It's hardwired in your brain lol. The only thing I can suggest is that you find out a more efficient way of getting women. Also, having a life helps. If you do nothing all day than of course you will feel like ass.

 

[Pogba]

Find something you are passionate about and do it.
Try new things as well.

 

[backbeat]

Hey guys, first poster here.

I know where I want to go in life and the things that I want to achieve. And, in fact, I truly believe that I want those things more than I want women. I can honestly say that if I were pursuing my dreams I wouldn't care if I was single the rest of my life. But for some reason, I have trouble making my actions reflect that. I still waste time chasing after girls, spend too much time on social media trying to get likes and chat with girls, etc etc...I really just want to forget about them and do me, at least for now. I think that 23 years of being an AFC has conditioned me to think I need to have a girl on my arm to feel happy. Any guys have experience with just letting women go? If so, how'd you do it?

Thanks bros! Happy to be on the forum.

dude u 23 years old n u should b focusin on ur career n wut u wanna do with ur life. u can have girls round u but make sure u get ur sh@t done so u can get a good job n make that money bro cuz then u can be the sh@t when u makin the money n can call the shots. that should be ur goal gettin ur sh@t done now man. then u can go after the broads n get laid like a boss. wastin ur time now doin nuthin is wut ur gonna regret when u get older n havnt got ur sh@t done man.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Super insightful.

Almost zen-like.

Also follow your heart and live for today. These 2 are my favourite since they are so wrong.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Well if you forget girls you become:

1. A monk.

2. A faggot.

If you want this OK, the only true alpha males are asexual anyway I think.

The rest of us must prioratise, meaning never sacrifice time for girls, if you got **** to do, do it.

 

[zekko]

dude u 23 years old n u should b focusin on ur career n wut u wanna do with ur life. u can have girls round u but make sure u get ur sh@t done so u can get a good job n make that money bro cuz then u can be the sh@t when u makin the money n can call the shots. that should be ur goal gettin ur sh@t done now man. then u can go after the broads n get laid like a boss. wastin ur time now doin nuthin is wut ur gonna regret when u get older n havnt got ur sh@t done man.

I agree with this. Sounds like the OP has things in life he wants to accomplish right now and doesn't want women getting in the way. When you are in your 20s, that is the time when you need to take to set yourself up on the right path for success in life. I've always said the 20s are for self improvement.

For a lot of us, I think we come to a time when we have to put women aside and get our business taken care of. I went through a period when I worked full time and went to school full time. I didn't have time for girls (except in the summer). It was hard, and a sacrifice, but it was the best thing I ever did for myself.

 

[themusicman]

I agree with this. Sounds like the OP has things in life he wants to accomplish right now and doesn't want women getting in the way. When you are in your 20s, that is the time when you need to take to set yourself up on the right path for success in life. I've always said the 20s are for self improvement

This is it man. I guess I shouldn't have said forget, I don't want to be celibate or anything, but I want them at the bottom of my priority list. I really don't think I'm craving affection, I think I've just had it in my head so long that having women hang off of you is a crucial element of success for men. It's not been easy for me to let that affection go.

It's also a validation thing. If I have girls blowing up my phone it's probably a good indication that I'm doing well in other areas of my life (business fitness etc)

 

[Dhoulmagus]

I don't agree at all with this mentality of focusing on ambitions in order to forget girls.

Women ARE my passion. I'm a guy who LOVES chasing women. I like investing time and money in women and don't want to imagine life without them.

I'm 44 and I never get tired of meeting new women. I want to fvuck as many of them as I possibly can before I leave this earth.

No excuses. Aspire to do it ALL.

I have ALWAYS made time for women and my other passions. I work hard; I make pretty decent money; I drive a nice car; I stay in shape. I do all of things so that I can discover the world and chase girls.

What else is there to life, really?

This!!!! You can argue with me all you want, but I have never met or heard of a successful man that sucked with women unless he was some foreign fob engineer or doctor.

 

[PeasantPlayer]

Don't get caught in the trap of finding your passion. CREATE YOUR PASSION, do things you love to do

 

[mangotot]

Well if you forget girls you become:

1. A monk.

2. A faggot.

If you want this OK, the only true alpha males are asexual anyway I think.

The rest of us must prioratise, meaning never sacrifice time for girls, if you got **** to do, do it.

Well said. Could not have put it better myself.

 

[zekko]

I'm 44 and I never get tired of meeting new women. I want to fvuck as many of them as I possibly can before I leave this earth.

Aren't you relatively new to DJing though? Plus you're 44. What were you doing when you in your 20s? Yeah, I'm sure we all spent a good deal of time getting laid. But did you go through a phase where you were mainly focusing on your career?

I'm not saying you HAVE to drop women to build a career, but some of us found it practical.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Hey guys, first poster here.

I know where I want to go in life and the things that I want to achieve. And, in fact, I truly believe that I want those things more than I want women. I can honestly say that if I were pursuing my dreams I wouldn't care if I was single the rest of my life. But for some reason, I have trouble making my actions reflect that. I still waste time chasing after girls, spend too much time on social media trying to get likes and chat with girls, etc etc...I really just want to forget about them and do me, at least for now. I think that 23 years of being an AFC has conditioned me to think I need to have a girl on my arm to feel happy. Any guys have experience with just letting women go? If so, how'd you do it?

Thanks bros! Happy to be on the forum.

Getting burned by a woman is an excellent way of getting a guy to "let women go" (at least for a period of time), but not entirely necessary either. I fall in this camp, and both times it has activated this so-called IDGAF attitude which has both permitted me to pursue what I want while also, funny enough, making it far easier to get a girl (or at least seeming so.)

It doesn't sound as if you're going after what you really want, because if you were, your post would be completely superfluous. Figure out what you truly want and then you'll get to make a better assessment as to where women stand on your list of priorities.

 

[ositosucio]

this is a good question...


im not bragging but I have actually that problem. Never had a problem attracting young girls and that even cost me my marriage.

The other side of the coin is also a problem guys.

I slack at work and life in general because I am constantly jumping from one girl to the next. Plate spinning can get addicting and detrimental to your life as well.

 

[Skyline]

The thing that preoccupies me from women is a lot of things actually... I plan on doing a lot within the next 5-7 years and, I don't know how I did but, I've promised myself that nothing is going to stand in my way. My dream life is going to happen, so that's ONE drive so far that preoccupies me from women.

The second is the stuff leading up to that dream life. Which includes work, school, working out, and making sure I stay away from hard drugs and keeping my mind open and healthy.

The third is cars. Some guys have dogs and then some guys have cars. I'm the car guy. You can't fvck either one of those but the amount of time and effort put into either one is worth it in the long run. I think it's more of a loyalty thing, like a woman can't think or feel this way about an object and probably not a person either.

At this moment, I'm going through a dry spell. But I'm no way desperate or weak/needy. I'm just focusing on myself and what I want to happen in my life. My routine isn't very outgoing so women don't normally "walk in" but when they do, I try and make something out of it. If nothing happens or it ends, then I still have my goals to cater too.

I feel like women, for me at this moment, are just a luxury for making the days go by faster. I won't lie, whenever I'm chasing or with a girl it just makes the days go by a lot quicker. I'm not changing any of my behavior that I would normally do either. Having a passenger in your life makes it better especially when you're the pilot. I think this is a normal and natural masculine thing by the way.

It could just be because my path in life is more important than anything but who knows...

 

[captain55]

Focusing on other hobbies and interests isn't a solution to the problem its a distraction, and IMO its the ***** way out for guys who can't handle rejection. A man needs women, not necessarily a girlfriend but quality consistent sex with a woman who he is attracted to. Throwing yourself into work and your gym while staying home jerking off is not the way.....

 

[Skyline]

Focusing on other hobbies and interests isn't a solution to the problem its a distraction, and IMO its the ***** way out for guys who can't handle rejection. A man needs women, not necessarily a girlfriend but quality consistent sex with a woman who he is attracted to. Throwing yourself into work and your gym while staying home jerking off is not the way.....

Who said it was a problem?

This post makes me question where you place women in your life to be honest.