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I know generally in Asian cultures, they want you to get good grades, go to a good school, get a good job, and find a wife and make babies. Your life path is already planned out by them and culture and the pressure is definitely there to please your parents and conform to traditional culture. But ultimately, you have to do what's right for you and be smart about it.

If all you concentrate is the end goal without any real strategy in getting there, you will fail most likely. Do what you can to be a better person and attract like minded gals and take things one step at a time. You still have time being in your early thirties.

Just remember, it is better to marry later and have a better chance at success than to hastily marry young and end up in divorce or misery.
You will always be able to make babies no matter how old you are. Marketing wise as far as looks, continue taking care of yourself and improving yourself and you should still be marketable to younger and fertile gals until you're 45 or so. Women are the ones that have the biological clock ticking, not you. Remember that
That is not true. You begin to feel old in your 40s as the youthful spark is in decline the minute you hit 30 onwards. The equpment does not work the same then you may need Viagara rather than it happening naturally. Also do you want to your childs father or grandfather? You start having kids in your 40s then you are 65 -70 years by the time they are 18. You wont have to ger them to move out the house after 18 since you might be gone by that time. You are just as likely to divorce older just as yonger. Maybe she might divorce you if you need Viagara in order to have sex. Yonger is bettee than older to marry.
 

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That is not true. You begin to feel old in your 40s as the youthful spark is in decline the minute you hit 30 onwards. The equpment does not work the same then you may need Viagara rather than it happening naturally. Also do you want to your childs father or grandfather? You start having kids in your 40s then you are 65 -70 years by the time they are 18. You wont have to ger them to move out the house after 18 since you might be gone by that time. You are just as likely to divorce older just as yonger. Maybe she might divorce you if you need Viagara in order to have sex. Yonger is bettee than older to marry.
You can keep it going if you do certain things.
 

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Marriage is cucked.

Being alone != Loneliness

If you aren't happy alone yet, you aren't even remotely ready for a marriage yet.
 

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That is not true. You begin to feel old in your 40s as the youthful spark is in decline the minute you hit 30 onwards. The equpment does not work the same then you may need Viagara rather than it happening naturally. Also do you want to your childs father or grandfather? You start having kids in your 40s then you are 65 -70 years by the time they are 18. You wont have to ger them to move out the house after 18 since you might be gone by that time. You are just as likely to divorce older just as yonger. Maybe she might divorce you if you need Viagara in order to have sex. Yonger is bettee than older to marry.
How old are you?

It maybe not true for some. It depends on your health and how well you take care of yourself. I'm talking from my own experience as well as some of my friends. As others say around 28 is when some gals start hitting the wall. For guys it's in their 40's. Personally for me 45 was when I noticed the biggest difference.

Also you are basing marriage on the physical stuff and we know that fades away. But to have a successful marriage, people should also look at the mental compatibility side as well as that lasts longer and is what makes marriages fail or succeed in the long run.

I do agree that it's definitely better to marry young when it comes to Physical health and sex but mentally, I don't think people mature fully and know what they want in life until after 35yo or so. Problem is girls in their early 30's start feeling the pressure of having a baby and start a family so the more they wait until after 35 to have a baby, the more risky it can be in both conceiving and having a healthy baby.

I had my youngest kid when I was 42 and it's actually helped me feeling young surprisingly. My other two kids I had when I was 37,38 respectively.
 

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How old are you?

It maybe not true for some. It depends on your health and how well you take care of yourself. I'm talking from my own experience as well as some of my friends. As others say around 28 is when some gals start hitting the wall. For guys it's in their 40's. Personally for me 45 was when I noticed the biggest difference.

Also you are basing marriage on the physical stuff and we know that fades away. But to have a successful marriage, people should also look at the mental compatibility side as well as that lasts longer and is what makes marriages fail or succeed in the long run.

I do agree that it's definitely better to marry young when it comes to Physical health and sex but mentally, I don't think people mature fully and know what they want in life until after 35yo or so. Problem is girls in their early 30's start feeling the pressure of having a baby and start a family so the more they wait until after 35 to have a baby, the more risky it can be in both conceiving and having a healthy baby.

I had my youngest kid when I was 42 and it's actually helped me feeling young surprisingly. My other two kids I had when I was 37,38 respectively.
I am 44 years old and was briefly married when I was 38 years but a change of libido or youthful sexual energy was noticed at 32 years, which also included hair loss. I dont feel substantially worst than after 32 but at any point prior to that year.

Within the marriage itself the equipment did not work properly and the youthful vigor just was not there. I had to see a doctor about it and the testosterone count was good but the free testosterone was low. Somerhing along that line. But this was one out of other factors, but it certainly does not help if you need to use herbals.

I live with very old folks so I probably feel older than I am. But even you dont have kids that old in your example. Like I said I was married not far from the time you had kids.

Unless you are going a miracle route then yonger is generally better.
 
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I am 44 years old and was briefly married when I was 38 years but a change of libido or youthful sexual energy was noticed at 32 years, which also included hair loss. I dont feel substantially worst than after 32 but at any point prior to that year.

Within the marriage itself the equipment did not work properly and the youthful vigor just was not there. I had to see a doctor about it and the testosterone count was good but the free testosterone was low. Somerhing along that line. But this was one out of other factors, but it certainly does not help if you need to use herbals.

I live with very old folks so I probably feel older than I am. But even you dont have kids that old. Like I said I was married not far from the time you had kids.

Unless you are going a miracle route then yonger is generally better.
Ok cool. Yeah I know libido can definitely be an issue the older you get and it will vary from person to person. I've found out staying healthy with nutrition/exercise definitely helped me. I'm still having sex 3-4 times a week(albeit with different gals). Biggest thing that helped for me was researching the proper exercises and nutrition focused on maintaining or increasing testosterone for 40+ males. One size does not fit all when it comes to nutrition/exercise. There's a lot of info out there on Youtube for 40+yo male nutrition/exercise. FWIW, I had an ED issue for a little over a year until I switched up my nutrition/exercise.

I do agree that younger can be better for some things. However it's a catch 22 IMHO. Younger will give you good libido and the strength to raise a family. However younger(under 35yo) may mean mentally, you are not ready or know exactly what you want and can lead to higher chance of divorce or not being able to communicate or live well with your partner/wife.

Would you say that mentally, you know more of what kind of person you are and want to be with vs when you were younger than 35?
 

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Ok cool. Yeah I know libido can definitely be an issue the older you get and it will vary from person to person. I've found out staying healthy with nutrition/exercise definitely helped me. I'm still having sex 3-4 times a week(albeit with different gals). Biggest thing that helped for me was researching the proper exercises and nutrition focused on maintaining or increasing testosterone for 40+ males. One size does not fit all when it comes to nutrition/exercise. There's a lot of info out there on Youtube for 40+yo male nutrition/exercise. FWIW, I had an ED issue for a little over a year until I switched up my nutrition/exercise.

I do agree that younger can be better for some things. However it's a catch 22 IMHO. Younger will give you good libido and the strength to raise a family. However younger(under 35yo) may mean mentally, you are not ready or know exactly what you want and can lead to higher chance of divorce or not being able to communicate or live well with your partner/wife.

Would you say that mentally, you know more of what kind of person you are and want to be with vs when you were younger than 35?
Not really. Everything is just better off younger. I think I was less cynical and pessimistic when I was yonger so I think I am worst off mentally than before. The whole world seems nicer when I was yonger. You did not have pandemics, climate change with overflowing lakes and catestrophic forest fires, extremely divisive politics, PUA was in full swing and was not suppressed, etc.... Its not that I am getting older the whole world feels like its getting old too.
 

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Not really. Everything is just better off younger. I think I was less cynical and pessimistic when I was yonger so I think I am worst off mentally than before. The whole world seems nicer when I was yonger. You did not have pandemics, climate change with overflowing lakes and catestrophic forest fires, extremely divisive politics, PUA was in full swing and was not suppressed, etc.... Its not that I am getting older the whole world feels like its getting old too.
Well everyone leads different lives and I hope you can find things to improve yours. I did like my younger years too but partly because I had less responsibility, more fun, saw the world in a more blind/ignorant perspective(ignorance is bliss) and let's face it, younger gals/crowd are just more fun. Unfortunately I missed the PUA wave and jumped in afterwards but I'm ok about it. Still learned a lot and continue learning.
Hang in there brother and focus/invest on yourself so you can bring in and attract the things you want in life.:up:
 

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Thailand,Indonesia or the Philippians is ur best bet.
Those Russian women will only want ur wallet
And in asia her whole fvcking family back in the village will rely on your wallet lol
 

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@corrector seriously get on the pomegranate juice and eat 3 dates daily. Gives u an antioxidant blend that works synergistically. I m 54 YO plenty of lead in pencil. Try it for 2 weeks then u will know.
 

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Shaddi sounds Indian. If so pretty rare for an Asian girl to be interested.
 

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Not really. Everything is just better off younger. I think I was less cynical and pessimistic when I was yonger so I think I am worst off mentally than before. The whole world seems nicer when I was yonger. You did not have pandemics, climate change with overflowing lakes and catestrophic forest fires, extremely divisive politics, PUA was in full swing and was not suppressed, etc.... Its not that I am getting older the whole world feels like its getting old too.
WIth social media and internet it's easier to continue the negative conversations and viewpoint. We need to create the sort of real life that has a lot of joy, good times and fellow ship.
 

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@corrector seriously get on the pomegranate juice and eat 3 dates daily. Gives u an antioxidant blend that works synergistically. I m 54 YO plenty of lead in pencil. Try it for 2 weeks then u will know.
Co-signed on pomegranate juice, it boosts blood circulation.
 

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I am 44 years old and was briefly married when I was 38 years but a change of libido or youthful sexual energy was noticed at 32 years, which also included hair loss. I dont feel substantially worst than after 32 but at any point prior to that year.

Within the marriage itself the equipment did not work properly and the youthful vigor just was not there. I had to see a doctor about it and the testosterone count was good but the free testosterone was low. Somerhing along that line. But this was one out of other factors, but it certainly does not help if you need to use herbals.

I live with very old folks so I probably feel older than I am. But even you dont have kids that old in your example. Like I said I was married not far from the time you had kids.

Unless you are going a miracle route then yonger is generally better.
When you communicate with folks often, your metabolism and energies will start to align. So yes it is a problem.
 

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@corrector seriously get on the pomegranate juice and eat 3 dates daily. Gives u an antioxidant blend that works synergistically. I m 54 YO plenty of lead in pencil. Try it for 2 weeks then u will know.
I'll keep this in mind if I end up getting married again or something like that. Maybe I'll have a more understanding wife where I'll feel more comfortable with her. If you have a woman who is asking you "did you ejaculate" too frequently or is impatient for you to ***, or if the financial circumstances or overall set-up are too toxic then this could be another reason behind ED.
 

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Work can help you keep a young outlook. I manage millennials. Well try and lead. You can't manage those precious snowflakes. So sometimes I youngspeak. I never go as far as 'tots' but 100% , same same, instahot and mashie are in my vocab. At 54 deadly to be characterized as old fossil unless you're senior management
 

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@corrector I d suggest do it now. Having lead in pencil will keep u much more motivated with chicks and engaged with the world.
 

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Amino acids are also good for erections. L Argenine makes my blood vessels more pronounced within 30min.
 
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