How to find a wife

Sim2335

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I live in the uk and am 33 Asian and looking for a wife.

Similar age, any religion who lives in uk

I have no idea, how I can find one, I’m on shaddi.com and been to a few speed dates but can’t find anyone

I don’t know how some people find it so easy.
To me having a wife and kids is just as important as having a job,

What else can I do to find a wife?

Thanks
 

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Stop looking for a wife. It seems like a law of nature that looking for a person to marry is doomed to fail. You're skipping a few steps by looking for a wife, you might end up marrying just to divorce later as the act of marrying took priority over what actually matters in a marriage.

You should look for a woman you truly enjoy spending time with, then you should gradually take the relationship more seriously if you continue to enjoy her over a longer period of time. You should know her well inside and out a good while before marriage is even a thought on your mind.

Your fear of missing out will be your downfall, be careful.
 

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I live in the uk and am 33 Asian and looking for a wife.

Similar age, any religion who lives in uk

I have no idea, how I can find one, I’m on shaddi.com and been to a few speed dates but can’t find anyone

I don’t know how some people find it so easy.
To me having a wife and kids is just as important as having a job,

What else can I do to find a wife?

Thanks
Why are you looking for a wife??
 

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I’m trying to find someone who I could potentially marry.

I’m stressed out because soon it will be too late if I was younger I would not be.

I want to marry as it just seems so natural to me , and for me a pointless and lonely exetince alone, I want to share my life good and bad.
 

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If you want a wife just for the sake of having a wife, go rescue a girl from Thailand. She’ll end up resenting you and you’ll be miserable. If you want a fulfilling relationship with a woman who is actually attracted to you, you need to improve all aspects of your life to become attractive. Good luck.
 

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I’m stressed out because soon it will be too late if I was younger I would not be.
As I said, fear of missing out will be your downfall. Imagine you found someone to marry tomorrow, you rush it and overlook a ton of red flags because you don't want to keep searching. Now some years pass, she doesn't give a fvck about you, you find out she has been cheating for a long time and now she wants a divorce, but you have a kid together. Your world will fvcking crumble to pieces, you feel a deep sense of regret for following your desperation instead of the sage advice of this forum.

Your desperation may lead you into a life situation that's many times worse than your current loneliness is. It's fine that you want to marry, but DO NOT rush it, you really don't want to marry incorrectly.
 

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I live in the uk and am 33 Asian and looking for a wife.

Similar age, any religion who lives in uk

I have no idea, how I can find one, I’m on shaddi.com and been to a few speed dates but can’t find anyone

I don’t know how some people find it so easy.
To me having a wife and kids is just as important as having a job,

What else can I do to find a wife?

Thanks
Why do you think you want a wife? You want companionship and steady sex? How is marriage within the culture that you life?
 

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Why do you think you want a wife? You want companionship and steady sex? How is marriage within the culture that you life?
not for the sex, for companship
I don’t want to go home to a empty house once I move out, I don’t want to travel alone etc
 

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not for the sex, for companship
I don’t want to go home to a empty house once I move out, I don’t want to travel alone etc
OMG... You better get sex in a relationship, you are a RETARD if you don't. Women WANT to have sex with men they desire, they want to GIVE it. Sex is one signal, one communication that says "I like you ALOT".

On relationships, when a marriage goes bad, it's much better to be ALONE. Less LONELIER to be alone than with someone who doesn't want to be with you. Experience will teach you that.

FOr now, worry about spending time with women who value your time and like you ALOT ( they are giving you puzzy ). And let it grow from there.

In the last 10 years, trying to bypass the natural order leads to men being used for their attention, while the woman really desires someone else. ( she's fvcking him )
 

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I live in the uk and am 33 Asian and looking for a wife.

Similar age, any religion who lives in uk

I have no idea, how I can find one, I’m on shaddi.com and been to a few speed dates but can’t find anyone

I don’t know how some people find it so easy.
To me having a wife and kids is just as important as having a job,

What else can I do to find a wife?

Thanks
I live in Canada and I have met many Asian men, and they are two types , either came to Canada already married , and these are the happy ones, who seem to have stable families with sane wives , or come her single, and they stayed single for simple reason , they are not programmed to go after women , they used to more traditional marriage, they dont know how to make themselves good in the eyes of women which is required in the west.
My advise to you , go back to China or from where you came , marry someone there and come back. otherwise you will stay single until you get too old to get married .
 

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Beta. Very Beta
 

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Stop looking for a wife. It seems like a law of nature that looking for a person to marry is doomed to fail. You're skipping a few steps by looking for a wife, you might end up marrying just to divorce later as the act of marrying took priority over what actually matters in a marriage.

You should look for a woman you truly enjoy spending time with, then you should gradually take the relationship more seriously if you continue to enjoy her over a longer period of time. You should know her well inside and out a good while before marriage is even a thought on your mind.

Your fear of missing out will be your downfall, be careful.
x1000

I know generally in Asian cultures, they want you to get good grades, go to a good school, get a good job, and find a wife and make babies. Your life path is already planned out by them and culture and the pressure is definitely there to please your parents and conform to traditional culture. But ultimately, you have to do what's right for you and be smart about it.

If all you concentrate is the end goal without any real strategy in getting there, you will fail most likely. Do what you can to be a better person and attract like minded gals and take things one step at a time. You still have time being in your early thirties.

Just remember, it is better to marry later and have a better chance at success than to hastily marry young and end up in divorce or misery.
You will always be able to make babies no matter how old you are. Marketing wise as far as looks, continue taking care of yourself and improving yourself and you should still be marketable to younger and fertile gals until you're 45 or so. Women are the ones that have the biological clock ticking, not you. Remember that
 

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I live in the uk and am 33 Asian and looking for a wife.

Similar age, any religion who lives in uk

I have no idea, how I can find one, I’m on shaddi.com and been to a few speed dates but can’t find anyone

I don’t know how some people find it so easy.
To me having a wife and kids is just as important as having a job,

What else can I do to find a wife?

Thanks
Would probably recommend you to read The Rational Male, give it a chance and be open minded.

Try to think of the reading experience more like a debate with some other man over some argument you not agree about then an actual guide to find a wife. It doesnt matter what you think about it while you read it, just try to finish the book
 
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