everywomanshero
Master Don Juan
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1) Not being open to rejection
2) Not being available
3) Not being honest with yourself
4) Needing to be right
5) Not having a plan
6) Goals that you cannot control
7) Refusal to re-write a human algorithm
8) Not celebrating tidbits of success
9) Refusal to be Reflective
10) Not seeing failure as a good thing
I'll also post my thoughts on each of these ten habits below, and how to correct them where I think I have a quality answer.
1) Not being open to rejection
If you constantly feel like women are waging war against you, or that all women like to argue I believe you are refusing to be open to idea of rejection. You are going in with your gloves up, and this is actually provoking the very things you're trying to avoid.
2) Not being available
If you do not go out often, then you are going to suffer on so many levels. Your phone game will be off because you have so much pent up energy and need to communicate. You'll come across ineffectively because you cannot calibrate. You'll seem desperate and needy and weak even though you cannot see it yourself. In fact, you may feel more confident all the while this is happening.
3) Not being honest with yourself
Women do have the uppser hand by default. Don't get so mad about this just yet. Women have courts, social services, odds, and even numbers in their favor. Below about mid-30s there is actually more men than women. Immigration brining in more men than women in the younger age brackets makes the situation ever worsening. We need wars. Please support as many ****ing wars as we can get our country into. LOL. Divorce doubles the suicide rate in men, and does not affect the suicide rate of women(1). Men fall in love before women(2). You've got to become one of the few guys out there women chase or you're going to be in for a living hell for all enternity. There is no safe passage. Most marriages result in divorce. You'll be broke and still without a clue how to get women. You guys just don't know how many married women I've done in their husbands own beds. When she asks you to babysit so she can go out with her friends... she is really going to my house or out looking for one of the few guys like me you get it.
4) Needing to be right
Yep. Happens all the time! You have to have it your way, and women ain't no Burger King sweetcheecks. Face it, none of us know it all, and we all need as much knowledge and understanding as possible to utilize our new found skills. Being right, or rather the fear of being wrong, stops guys from marking progress all the time. Let the ego go. You';re hear because you don't have all the answers, and neither do I.
5) Not having a plan
Do you want to be the guy who climbs the ladder only to end up on the wrong building? You need to have some idea what you're trying to accomplish. Do you see yourself at the end of your journey? Do you envision the steps needed to get from here to there? Do you spend ten minutes a day thinking about improving confidence?
6) Goals that you cannot control
Great now you have a plan. All your goals are geared towards reactions in other people? Well, that won't work. Settings goals you have little control over isn't effective. What you need to do is set goals for how YOU behave. You need to theorize what will make you be more effective with other people and set those goals ONLY for influencing your actions IRRESPECTIVE of the other people. You can change again latter if you have selected the wrong changes to make in yourself. The goal is always changing yourself, not focusing so much on other people yet
7) Refusal to re-write a human algorithm
This goes along with having to be right. If something isn't effective and it's been fully proven to be a bottleneck in your seduction system, then we have to nuke that part of yourself. Interactions are like a computer program, if you always do the same things you will always get the same results.
8) Not celebrating tidbits of success
If you're so caught up in the game that you feel like any interaction other than an instant fclose is a failure, then it's time to sit back and take a long, hard look at the past few months/years. I bet there was a time when you couldn't even approach a strange woman and have a conversation. Look how many times you do that as a matter of course now! Dude, you are so far above the average guy's game you cannot even remember what being an AFC was like anymore. You've gotten some success and now you're actually hurting your game and yourself with unrealistic expectations that no one could ever live up to. Celebrate the battles, not just the wars won.
9) Refusal to be Reflective
Take a moment at the end of each day
to look back on what went well and what didn't. Try to incorporate fixes for the problems, and remember to keep the things that worked well. Do not beat yourself up!
10) Not seeing failure as a good thing
Everyone says this and you really have to do it. When you are failing, it's time to get really excited because you've identified a bottleneck in your system. Once you find the cause and remove it, you will be more effective with women for the REST OF YOUR ENTIRE LIFE! Now that's something to get excited about. I cannot wait to fail with more women and remove another negative trait so I can get mo poon for the rest of my natural existance on earth. Ya baby!
1.http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/suicide.html#divorce
2. KISS Guide to Sex, 2000. p. 72.
2) Not being available
3) Not being honest with yourself
4) Needing to be right
5) Not having a plan
6) Goals that you cannot control
7) Refusal to re-write a human algorithm
8) Not celebrating tidbits of success
9) Refusal to be Reflective
10) Not seeing failure as a good thing
I'll also post my thoughts on each of these ten habits below, and how to correct them where I think I have a quality answer.
1) Not being open to rejection
If you constantly feel like women are waging war against you, or that all women like to argue I believe you are refusing to be open to idea of rejection. You are going in with your gloves up, and this is actually provoking the very things you're trying to avoid.
2) Not being available
If you do not go out often, then you are going to suffer on so many levels. Your phone game will be off because you have so much pent up energy and need to communicate. You'll come across ineffectively because you cannot calibrate. You'll seem desperate and needy and weak even though you cannot see it yourself. In fact, you may feel more confident all the while this is happening.
3) Not being honest with yourself
Women do have the uppser hand by default. Don't get so mad about this just yet. Women have courts, social services, odds, and even numbers in their favor. Below about mid-30s there is actually more men than women. Immigration brining in more men than women in the younger age brackets makes the situation ever worsening. We need wars. Please support as many ****ing wars as we can get our country into. LOL. Divorce doubles the suicide rate in men, and does not affect the suicide rate of women(1). Men fall in love before women(2). You've got to become one of the few guys out there women chase or you're going to be in for a living hell for all enternity. There is no safe passage. Most marriages result in divorce. You'll be broke and still without a clue how to get women. You guys just don't know how many married women I've done in their husbands own beds. When she asks you to babysit so she can go out with her friends... she is really going to my house or out looking for one of the few guys like me you get it.
4) Needing to be right
Yep. Happens all the time! You have to have it your way, and women ain't no Burger King sweetcheecks. Face it, none of us know it all, and we all need as much knowledge and understanding as possible to utilize our new found skills. Being right, or rather the fear of being wrong, stops guys from marking progress all the time. Let the ego go. You';re hear because you don't have all the answers, and neither do I.
5) Not having a plan
Do you want to be the guy who climbs the ladder only to end up on the wrong building? You need to have some idea what you're trying to accomplish. Do you see yourself at the end of your journey? Do you envision the steps needed to get from here to there? Do you spend ten minutes a day thinking about improving confidence?
6) Goals that you cannot control
Great now you have a plan. All your goals are geared towards reactions in other people? Well, that won't work. Settings goals you have little control over isn't effective. What you need to do is set goals for how YOU behave. You need to theorize what will make you be more effective with other people and set those goals ONLY for influencing your actions IRRESPECTIVE of the other people. You can change again latter if you have selected the wrong changes to make in yourself. The goal is always changing yourself, not focusing so much on other people yet
7) Refusal to re-write a human algorithm
This goes along with having to be right. If something isn't effective and it's been fully proven to be a bottleneck in your seduction system, then we have to nuke that part of yourself. Interactions are like a computer program, if you always do the same things you will always get the same results.
8) Not celebrating tidbits of success
If you're so caught up in the game that you feel like any interaction other than an instant fclose is a failure, then it's time to sit back and take a long, hard look at the past few months/years. I bet there was a time when you couldn't even approach a strange woman and have a conversation. Look how many times you do that as a matter of course now! Dude, you are so far above the average guy's game you cannot even remember what being an AFC was like anymore. You've gotten some success and now you're actually hurting your game and yourself with unrealistic expectations that no one could ever live up to. Celebrate the battles, not just the wars won.
9) Refusal to be Reflective
Take a moment at the end of each day
to look back on what went well and what didn't. Try to incorporate fixes for the problems, and remember to keep the things that worked well. Do not beat yourself up!
10) Not seeing failure as a good thing
Everyone says this and you really have to do it. When you are failing, it's time to get really excited because you've identified a bottleneck in your system. Once you find the cause and remove it, you will be more effective with women for the REST OF YOUR ENTIRE LIFE! Now that's something to get excited about. I cannot wait to fail with more women and remove another negative trait so I can get mo poon for the rest of my natural existance on earth. Ya baby!
1.http://www.menstuff.org/issues/byissue/suicide.html#divorce
2. KISS Guide to Sex, 2000. p. 72.
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