How to deal with women spreading false malicious rumours

[Stephen89]

Hi all,

I've just been told by my cousin that he overheard someone saying 'I look at women in appropriately' or 'I stare at women too much'.

What the hell?

I think they may be referring to the functions, weddings, parties I go to and there are women dancing in the hall and on the stage. The problem is, everyone, including all the other 200 odd men look at these women because they have to look. Some even take photo's, go by them and take video's from their camcorders and post women dancing on their Facebook.

So why do they pick on me? In fact I'm not even looking/starring at women too much or in approriately, how the hell would they know I stare at women too much? Just because I'm gentle and slighly quiet so they think I'm an easy target.

I go to functions, events, parties and see this 26 year old, she knows about me and I acknowledge her parents and greet her parents wiht courtesy, however, when I try to greet her she turns her face away and she does laugh at me from a distance.

Her other female cousin also starts laughing at me and keeps looking/starring at me for no reason, my uncle took a video shot at a wedding and notice this lady keeps looking at me. Maybe she wants the male's attention? However, sometimes when I accidently look at her, she looks and starts laughing with her female cousins for no reason.

I tried to add her other female cousins on Facebook which they have blocked me.

I don't know why they are spreading false malicious gossip about me? Why are they picking on me? One slip up and they exgaggerate it and pounce on me.

The reason why I'm creating this thread is because it is a lie they are saying and this could ruin my reputation as well how other people see me. Can't believe it, they are good friends with my sister too. They have the nerve to dis-respect me.

 

[Bible_Belt]

The first thing you need to accept is that you fvcked up somewhere, and that's why this is happening. You can't control other people, which is why boo-hooing about the unfairness of it all is not productive, but you can control yourself. It's likely you've been observed looking a little too eager more times that you realize.

I'd say to give up on this social circle for now. Go outside of it to get a new girl, and then let those gossipy women see you with someone else. As soon as they see one woman wanting you, they'll change the way they look at you.

 

[mv.89]

What the heck? what gave you the signal "go ahead add me on facebook"

It's been a long time since i've been on the forum but did something change recently that now goes to demonstrate that if you haven't talked to a girl in-person at a wedding -it's okay to add them on facebook?

I don't have any social media networks at all. So maybe I'm wrong but if you didn't talk to her face to face and she didn't even acknowledge your greetings-what gave you the signal to add ?

Also- if you didn't think of the consequence of getting blocked or rumours before adding them- why even bother worrying about it now. fvck em and move on. In Future- only add women on facebook as long as you are ready to face rejection/blockage.

Right now your ego is going in overdrive-demanding answers and wtf is happening-so let is calm down- you'd realize that sometimes somethings just don't have a rational/logical answer.Sometimes things really are just stupid lol.

Keep in mind- that this here isn't a support group-it's a place where you come to learn- some posters will be supportive -some will criticize and some will point out good and bad.

 

[zinc4]

I think you answered your own question. If you are percieved gentle and quiet, I'm assuming must be seen as some sort of social outcast or not that highly. Not trying to bash you or be negative, just stating what it sounds like this girls viewpoints are.

The fact is, most people and especially most women, are not nice nor are they kindhearted and they are constantly taking their own insecurities out on others, usually people such as yourself.

Politically speaking, you should ignore it altogether.

Now if it were me. And this is just me. I would approach the person or people spreading these rumors and be like you like talking behind people's backs, huh??? This is the only time I will say this, keep running your mouths and you will ****ing regret it.

That's just me, though. Stuff like this I find petty and annoying as frick and reeks of feminism.... I don't tolerate it and will get physical or downright nasty if I have to regardless of its a woman or man. Screw my reputation if it means letting people run me over.

That's just me though. Probably the smartest thing is to just ignore like you could care less.

 

[ubercat]

+1 for BBs post. if this social circle is actually a gossip circle go swimming in other Waters until you are stronger and are ready to get back in the Shark Tank

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Oh come on dude, who gives a ****? I went out to Hooters with my friends and was staring at babes the entire time. I didn't even care if they saw me watching, they knew why. I stare because it's in my nature to do so. I won't let anyone interfere with WHAT I am. Do not deny your instincts. Embrace them.

 

[Stephen89]

Thanks guys, I really, really appreciate the comments and advice here. Yes I am going to fvuk them, ignore them and move on.

I don't really care and I'm not worried, because I have a good life, unlike them, that's why they have to pick on and gossip about me, it's a refection on how good/bad of a life they are living, they have nothing intersting to do. I sense a bit of jealousy because they are single and I'm going to be very succesful.

It's funny how they also look and stare at men too much and over eagrly too, nobody and their friends don't pick on them. I've seen one of her friends starring at me over eagarly I don't see why I should complain. Once again, I feel they are jealous of the options I have which they do not have.

Just today I was looking at one of uncle's videos of a wedding and I seen her best cousin looking at me too much and starring at me, it's on video! I'd like to know how they take it when they see this video accusing me of staring/looking at women too much, karma can be so cruel. That will shut them up.

Anyway I don't care and so what if I look at women? Women provoke attention and we are meant to use our instinctual nature.