how to deal with this Attention Wh0re

[navster]

I've known this attention wh0re for about half a year now as she is now part of my regular group of friends.. she's been in only one relationship but super-long term 10 years with her high-school sweetheart, which ended a year ago due to him cheating on her several times, which she put up with. Now she's been speed-dating within our group of mutual friends, rejecting a handful of my guy friends after just one date, leaving them broken. she's super flirty and touchy-feely with the guys making each guy feel he's special but she's like that with every guy so most guys aren't the wiser. After learning about her dating history within our group, i decided to avoid her and kept my distance, pretty much eliminating dating her and initiating anything with her at all costs.

However she's picked up on this and tries harder to get my attention, hugging me more affectionately in front of the other guys in my group, putting her arms around me, grinding me on the dance floor, which is not what she does with the other guys. so i know she's craving my attention, but i'm playing it cool and not giving her much. she finally got my number via a mutual friend, since i never bothered asking her for hers, and initiated texting me, asking me what i was up to on a Friday night. long story short, all of us ended up at a nightclub dancing the night away, with her putting her moves on me. i played along, but also made it known that i was flirting with another girl in our group.

Here's where it gets interesting. at the end of the night, she complained she was too tired to drive home, so i offered her to crash at my place, she accepted. she ended up in my bed, even though i offered to sleep on the couch, she said i could sleep on the bed beside her. So i did. i was expecting her to initiate some heavy kino, but she kept to her side of the bed and fell fast asleep. Woke up 3 hours later it was already bright outside (we were out really late), and she wanted me to drive her back. So NOTHING happened in bed with us, as i did not initiate anything. on the drive home, we talked a bit in the car, but she was quite mellow and soft and not her flirty wh0re self, which was new to me.

So i really don't know what's the deal with this girl? what was her motives for climbing into bed with me? Should i have tried to seal the deal with her that night? FYI i've never asked her out on a date ever, so i'm thinking she resents that and is testing me by dangling sex in front of me but not giving me any yet.

 

[Crazystarf]

This might be a sign where you can basically order her around to do the things that you want (assuming you actually hook up with this girl), OR it could be a sign that she's giving out a **** test.

I've been with these types of girls before; hook up with her, use her, dump her for good. Maybe she'll go away after that.

 

[ChalengeGuyFan]

The same thing happened in my circle of friends.
Hot AW is running game on everyone and is being spoiled by everyone.
New guy comes along, is aloof and plays it cool and ends up fvcking her.

It might be genuine attraction from her side, but do not be seduced easily. If you do, her interest level will drop to zero the next day.

Whatever you do, protect your heart. AWs are cheap.

 

[cola]

You messed up. You took playing it cool too far. You should have made a move.
She was drunk and in your bed.. and told you that you didn't have to go on the couch. She did everything but physically put your penis in her vagina.

You were waiting on her to initiate physical contact but your the man.. thats your job.
Now becaue you didn't attempt to initiate sex she feels insecure about her sex appeal in regards to you..
Which in this case aint good.

Ok this is one of thoes situations that you probably wont be able to get back. Well you could but it may not be worth the effort, by the way you write and describe your demeanor you seem confident and I can tell that your indifferent to if you bang her or not which is cool.
But next time your In this situation here is a suttle way to get it popping..

If she is sharing your bed, insist this:
"I don't expect you to sex but I am going to hold you while we sleep"
Few females will say no to that.. they love being held while they sleep.

Now if she is hot and your holding her you will get a boner.
Make sure she feels it. A few inadvertent dry humps over the next few minutes..
When you feel her "inadvertently" grind on your boner..
You have opened the gateway to sex..

 

[cola]

This might be a sign where you can basically order her around to do the things that you want (assuming you actually hook up with this girl), OR it could be a sign that she's giving out a **** test.

I've been with these types of girls before; hook up with her, use her, dump her for good. Maybe she'll go away after that.

This guy i quoted is a tool btw. Don't follow his advice.

 

[VladPatton]

I agree with cola. She wanted to get boned, man. But hey if you weren't feeling it, it's cool, just realize that you can't easily bang her if you want to in the future. This is the prime reason she is acting this way. You pretty much gave her female blue balls.

 

[navster]

perhaps I missed the opportunity to cuddle but the timing didn't feel right for sex. she passed out on the bed almost as soon as I got in it. it would have felt contrived if I woke her up for my selfish reasons. How far would u guys go if u had a girl sleeping on your bed? she's not a random stranger so I'll be seeing her again that's for sure, so I wouldn't think of comparing this to a ONS scenario where u pretty much try to seal the deal that night for fear of not seeing her again. plus she wasn't drunk, she was tired, not wasted, and so was I. since she is an attention wh0re, I played it slow for fear her interest level might drop to zero if I allowed myself to be seduced easily.

P.S. - I have kino-ed the daylights out of her outside of the bedroom on several other occasions, as she has with me. perhaps that might add more context to this post.

 

[navster]

so i hung out with this girl again last night in my part of town and we had a good time. initiated some kino during our date. got her back to my place with the lame excuse that i needed to use the restroom real quick, and got her in my bedroom again, with no objections. i put on a movie, and told her i'd take her back after the movie, and she was okay with that. got her on my bed and laid down next to her while we both watched the movie.
It took me a good 30 minutes to initiate kino on the bed, but finally got her to lay her head on my outstretched arm around her shoulder. took another several minutes for me to cuddle her with both hands. the movie was almost over by now. i caressed and pulled her hair behind her ears, exposing her ear, and quickly but gently nibbled on her ear. she nervously asked me what i was doing, and i just chuckled it off, and she seemed okay with it. a few more minutes passed and i tried to lean in for the kiss, but was denied. she reminded me she had to go soon after the movie. we lay in bed for a few more minutes cuddling, and she said she had to go again, so i gave her a kiss on her cheek before taking her home.

what do u guys think of this? should i have initiated kino earlier on during the movie? i know this girl is attracted to me, she's told me i'm sexy before. is there a reason why she didn't allow me to kiss her, let alone have sex, but was okay with cuddling?

 

[Plutoman]

I would have told her after she said she had to go soon after "Guess that means we better start quick." and leaned in again while pulling her chin towards me. Set the tone and lead. If you get rejected there, you know what's up and not to bother trying again.

Don't wait for her to follow along, but lead her yourself. You should pull her close to you right from the start, guide her there. Don't let her choose, as her choice is gonna be obvious.

My two cents. Be aggressive in what you want. You've let it sit around and not made moves, she's not going to fall into your hands for you. Especially as she enjoys the attention - you're giving her attention without any sexual responsibility.

 

[youngmack]

Yeah shes A histrionic. I have a lot of experiences with. Its over, you wont be fuccing her in the future.

Your situation reminds me of mines.. I was in her crib.we started to play fight and then started cuddling. But the thing is,i was AFC to the max and i was scared to lead and wanted her make the move.

We ended up not doing sh1t and now we dont even talk. Girls like this,u gotta be aggressive and dont milk it. They just wanna fucck and want it to feel like "in the moment"thing.

 

[MikeOck]

I've known women like this. In fact, I'm going to have to disagree with the other posters here and say that she only wanted you to pursue her so she could shoot you down, a kind of sh!t test. The more she flirted and you didn't pursue, the more interested she got. She would have kept escalating, but as soon as you put the moves on, she knew she had you and lost interest, just like she did with all your buddies.

If you really wanted to sleep with her, you should have kept acting like you were not interested and eventually she would have cornered you and ****ed your brains out. Too late for that, but in my experience you are better off, women like this have issues.

 

[joe henny]

I've known this attention wh0re for about half a year now as she is now part of my regular group of friends.. she's been in only one relationship but super-long term 10 years with her high-school sweetheart, which ended a year ago due to him cheating on her several times, which she put up with. Now she's been speed-dating within our group of mutual friends, rejecting a handful of my guy friends after just one date, leaving them broken. she's super flirty and touchy-feely with the guys making each guy feel he's special but she's like that with every guy so most guys aren't the wiser. After learning about her dating history within our group, i decided to avoid her and kept my distance, pretty much eliminating dating her and initiating anything with her at all costs.

However she's picked up on this and tries harder to get my attention, hugging me more affectionately in front of the other guys in my group, putting her arms around me, grinding me on the dance floor, which is not what she does with the other guys. so i know she's craving my attention, but i'm playing it cool and not giving her much. she finally got my number via a mutual friend, since i never bothered asking her for hers, and initiated texting me, asking me what i was up to on a Friday night. long story short, all of us ended up at a nightclub dancing the night away, with her putting her moves on me. i played along, but also made it known that i was flirting with another girl in our group.

Here's where it gets interesting. at the end of the night, she complained she was too tired to drive home, so i offered her to crash at my place, she accepted. she ended up in my bed, even though i offered to sleep on the couch, she said i could sleep on the bed beside her. So i did. i was expecting her to initiate some heavy kino, but she kept to her side of the bed and fell fast asleep. Woke up 3 hours later it was already bright outside (we were out really late), and she wanted me to drive her back. So NOTHING happened in bed with us, as i did not initiate anything. on the drive home, we talked a bit in the car, but she was quite mellow and soft and not her flirty wh0re self, which was new to me.

So i really don't know what's the deal with this girl? what was her motives for climbing into bed with me? Should i have tried to seal the deal with her that night? FYI i've never asked her out on a date ever, so i'm thinking she resents that and is testing me by dangling sex in front of me but not giving me any yet.

WOW unless she thinks you're gay *she might now* she was expecting to get fvcked by a real man. I don't know how this could be any more obvious of a sign. Next time send her to my address brah.

 

[buzzin_frog]

LMAO this dude has a chick in bed and doesn't make a move and offers to sleep on the couch. What do you expect? This ruined it for him and the chick wasn't even interested.

Histrionic Personality Disorder

I am just coming off a 27 month affair with a self diagnosed BPD who often denies she has BPD.

Yeah shes A histrionic. I have a lot of experiences with.

I really think this girl is not only an AW but a histrionic personality disorder girl.

I am pretty sure she is a BPD case
Just saying

Thanks all. I read the thread about HPD/BPD.

I really think this girl is not only an AW but a histrionic personality disorder girl. Granted my HPD had plausible deniability(drunk people do get tired) but she would be all over me all night, invite me to her bedroom, then pass out immediately.

LOL!!! This is hilarious!!! This is funny how a lot of dudes on here want to tag a chick with a Personality Disorder when she has no interest in having sex with a guy or when she dumps him. They automatically say she is a whack job and has a disorder. LOL

Better get on your tinfoil hats