Ok guys I've got a situation here. Lately I've been seeing this girl that I met last semester. When I first met her she had a long term boyfriend of 4 years. This semester I find out that she is broken up with this guy and so I do my thing and get her to feel attraction for me. It's been 2 weeks now we have had sex 3 times and she calls me almost every day. You'ed think there wouldn't be a problem right? Well her ex-boyfriend has been trying to win her back with his wussie ways. She talks about him alot and it's starting to aggravate me. I've been thinking about how to handle this. Should I just leave this situation entirly or should I increase her attraction even more? Let me know what you guys think! Thanks!
How to deal with the Ex-Boyfriend?
- Thread starter Valei
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I've had the same problem. The way I see it, is the only way you win is by not getting into her and just fvcking her as many times as you can.
She's on the rebound...so she's mentally screwed up. Don't invest emotional energy in her, stay detached and be happy to be in it for as long as it lasts
She's on the rebound...so she's mentally screwed up. Don't invest emotional energy in her, stay detached and be happy to be in it for as long as it lasts
Remulak
Senior Don Juan
Dealing with the exboyfriend is a tricky situation, just gotta play it cool and not let him get to you. If you show any sign that you fear him YOU ARE DONE because he already has 4 years on you.
It's actually the other way around. 2 nights ago she called me talking about how her ex was "intimidated" and "insecure" about her being around me. It probably has something to do with little marks I left on her neck. Anyway he's definatly not someone I fear he's just an annoyance. On another note I managed to get a number from some other girl today. I'll keep this chick around just to see what happens with her boyfriend. This should be fun!
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
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TruthHurts
Don Juan
Font and Jay made good points....
Also, keep in mind, there are 3 objectives really.. 1)to bang her... u did that
2)to have a woman better yourlife.. Note "she betters your life" not aggrevates it... and 3) is the passing of genes.... doesnt concern u.. ur on step 2... so if its starting to bother you, its not good, give it space... find things that make you happy.. dont get attached and then turn into an AFC and get hurt... focus on you...
Also, keep in mind, there are 3 objectives really.. 1)to bang her... u did that
2)to have a woman better yourlife.. Note "she betters your life" not aggrevates it... and 3) is the passing of genes.... doesnt concern u.. ur on step 2... so if its starting to bother you, its not good, give it space... find things that make you happy.. dont get attached and then turn into an AFC and get hurt... focus on you...
BlackJackal
Master Don Juan
Dont be surprised when she withdraws back to her ex. And I'll leave it at that.
I think you got the right idea here. Always be spinning plates and thus if this one annoy's you too much (damaged goods) you can drop her for another. Do what you are currently doing and don't worry about her ex boyfriend. I would however tell her stright up that you don't want to hear about her previous relationships and if she doesn't stop then you can just casually start telling her about your previous relationship's or current one's if you dare :nervous:.Valei said:
ive been there. this ch1ck was in a 3 yr ltr. we met like once or so before. then one night at the bar she took me to her house and we fvcked. then she called me the next day and every day from then on out. we hung out everyday and fvcked like everyday. then she was getting close to me. after 1 month she wanted to tell me she loved me she actually didnt say it but i knew. i surely didnt though but i liked her. anyways she got distant out of the blue i was like wtf. got into some sh!t with her then it ended for no legit reason except she was probably scared of having her heart hurt. when we were together she would tell me her ex was calling her still and stalked her etc. i heard a convo with him on the phone one time. she was like i still need time be patient etc then we fvcked right after hahaha. anyways when we stopped talking she ran to her ex. moral of the story is dont get too close you should push her away first if everything get a little distant dont answer all her calls first etc. do this if you want more attraction for her cause youll look like a pimp and her ex will look like a chump if you push her away a little bit.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
font said:I've had the same problem. The way I see it, is the only way you win is by not getting into her and just fvcking her as many times as you can.
She's on the rebound...so she's mentally screwed up. Don't invest emotional energy in her, stay detached and be happy to be in it for as long as it lasts
I've dealt with the situation you're describing many times and I can testify this is the best course of action. Everytime things were going great and we had a ton of fun together but then she would start to become distant and then suddenly she a) went back to her ex, b) doesn't want to get hurt again (uh huh...), or c) both.
If she's on the rebound (which she probably is) don't let her consume your mind. Leave the emotions at the doorstep and try not to get too attached (continue having fun with her though
). I'm not saying it won't work out, but just in case she decides to go MIA on you you'll be able to walk away laughing at how you got the better half of that deal. And hey if it does work out, you'll get the better half anyway. Either way you win!Now the hard part is not getting attached.
When the ex came back into the picture i would have dumped this chick anway.
granted if he was not trying it on with her and she was ‘avoiding’ him then sure I would give her the benefit of the doubt.
But this seems to me clearly ‘she is in contact with the ex’.
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It's actually the other way around. 2 nights ago she called me talking about how her ex was "intimidated" and "insecure" about her being around me
This shows she is in active communication with the ex, I.E she is seeing you but still on contact with another man who is after banging your chick. Ex or not.
I am a big believer In SELF RESPECT and so far this chick is showing little to no respect.
Now you can play it cool, you can do what the hell you want tbh.
But when a chick crosses the line and starts to talk about and entertain the notion of going back with the ex and with an added respect killer, tells you about it, would be enough to kick that drama out of my life.
She sounds like she is deriving attention from both of you, even so the fact that the EX is an Issue is clearly something that would fail MY shi* test.
At this stage one major strike and YOUR OUT, to me she would out of the door and looking for more.
I dont care what her past was, her past is HER business it is when she makes it MY business in a negative way, then that to me is a line they should not cross.
Put yourself in her shoes, if YOU was in communication with your EX who wanted you back, do you think she would be all smiles and nice about it.
Dump her and save yourself a HUGE headache later on, trust me
Drop her and tell her when she decides she can give you the RESPECT you EXPECT from your GF and not entertain EX bf! to then call you up, otherwise GOODBYE and goodluck.
If she does choose you, you need to lay a few ground rules and NUMBER fuc*ing one is for her to get the EX well out of her life, HE is nothing but stress and negative shi* for you! Regarldess how MACHO you want to be.
granted if he was not trying it on with her and she was ‘avoiding’ him then sure I would give her the benefit of the doubt.
But this seems to me clearly ‘she is in contact with the ex’.
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It's actually the other way around. 2 nights ago she called me talking about how her ex was "intimidated" and "insecure" about her being around me
This shows she is in active communication with the ex, I.E she is seeing you but still on contact with another man who is after banging your chick. Ex or not.
I am a big believer In SELF RESPECT and so far this chick is showing little to no respect.
Now you can play it cool, you can do what the hell you want tbh.
But when a chick crosses the line and starts to talk about and entertain the notion of going back with the ex and with an added respect killer, tells you about it, would be enough to kick that drama out of my life.
She sounds like she is deriving attention from both of you, even so the fact that the EX is an Issue is clearly something that would fail MY shi* test.
At this stage one major strike and YOUR OUT, to me she would out of the door and looking for more.
I dont care what her past was, her past is HER business it is when she makes it MY business in a negative way, then that to me is a line they should not cross.
Put yourself in her shoes, if YOU was in communication with your EX who wanted you back, do you think she would be all smiles and nice about it.
Dump her and save yourself a HUGE headache later on, trust me
Drop her and tell her when she decides she can give you the RESPECT you EXPECT from your GF and not entertain EX bf! to then call you up, otherwise GOODBYE and goodluck.
If she does choose you, you need to lay a few ground rules and NUMBER fuc*ing one is for her to get the EX well out of her life, HE is nothing but stress and negative shi* for you! Regarldess how MACHO you want to be.