How to deal with my gf's best friend

[SpeedRunner]

I'm alittle concerned about my girlfriend's best friend. She is a major biotch, but I try my best to be friends with her... i honestly do. But everytime I talk to her she acts like she hates me and calls me an idiot every now and then. Obviously I dont want her to screw up my relationship... what should I do?

 

[SpeedRunner]

one time i tried saying something funny to her... and she looked at me straight faced and said "im not laughing"

and i thought to myself... "wow, thats cold"

 

[Maybnoob]

She probably a jealous ***** who is only hating on you because she has nothing going on in her life. Ibet shes single. Shes just jealus she aint getting no **** so she would like for her friend to break up with so they can be lonely together.
If you have done nothing to her then thats probably the reason.
Another reason although could be that she fancies you and because of loyalty she does not want her friend to knoe so she acts like sho does not like you.
Women are crazy. Good luck

 

[Climax]

Some advice...

One day just take her aside, and ask her what she has against you, tell her that u cannot recall ever saying or doing anything wrong to her, so what is up with all the attitude and name calling! Ask er why she is trying to make your life hard when all you are doing is going out with her friend.

What I think/know the problem is, is that your gf's friend doesnt like you BECAUSE of the fact that your gf is spending alot of time with you and not having much time for her friend as apose as to the amount of time she had for her friends BEFORE she became ur gf. So you need to tell ur gf's friend that you are not trying to take her away from her friends, and that you will try invite her with more often if it really gets to her THAT much. So just let her know that you are not the "bad guy who is taking my friends away", you are the "guy that likes my friend, but isnt trring to take my friend away" and "the guy that is a good guy and even offered to invite me with so that I dont feel left out anymore" etc... U catch my drift?

Good luck...


Laterz...

 

[jprjrjr]

Re: Some advice...

Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
One day just take her aside, and ask her what she has against you, tell her that u cannot recall ever saying or doing anything wrong to her, so what is up with all the attitude and name calling! Ask er why she is trying to make your life hard when all you are doing is going out with her friend.

What I think/know the problem is, is that your gf's friend doesnt like you BECAUSE of the fact that your gf is spending alot of time with you and not having much time for her friend as apose as to the amount of time she had for her friends BEFORE she became ur gf. So you need to tell ur gf's friend that you are not trying to take her away from her friends, and that you will try invite her with more often if it really gets to her THAT much. So just let her know that you are not the "bad guy who is taking my friends away", you are the "guy that likes my friend, but isnt trring to take my friend away" and "the guy that is a good guy and even offered to invite me with so that I dont feel left out anymore" etc... U catch my drift?

Good luck...

Don't kiss the bytch's ass. She acts like a bytch, and you should reward her for it? Fvck that!!!!

Tell you GF not to bring the cvnt around you. If she acts all offended, tell her to hit the road.

I never understood why guys would take shyt from a cvnt friend. It sets a precedent that puts you in a weak position. BE A MAN, and don't tolerate any bullshyt from anyone. If you treat her with respect, that respect should be reciprocated. If not, certainly don't ask her what YOU did.....

Good luck.


Laterz...

 

[jprjrjr]

Whoa..what the hell just happened in the above thread? I tried posting a response, but it's my words under the other guy's name?

MODS???

 

[Maybnoob]

Originally posted by Maybnoob
She probably a jealous b*tch who is only hating on you because she has nothing going on in her life. I bet she's single. Shes just jealous because she aint getting no Dik so she would like for her friend to break up with you so they can be lonely together.
If you have done nothing to her then thats probably the reason.
Another reason although could be that she fancies you and because of loyalty she does not want her friend to know so she acts like she does not like you.
Women are crazy. Good luck

 

[Climax]

jprjrjr: you are not kissing her ass, you are simply telling her what she wants to hear, noone said u have to MEAN what you are saying, just say what she wants to hear so that she will be off your back.

Tuning her or acting in the way that u suggested will only make her hate you more and therefore try her best to convince ur gf to leave you and/or just cause more sh!t for you.

There is a saying: "Pat the head that you want to slice off" and "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemy's closer" ... Those sayings arent well known for nothing ya know


Laterz....

 

[McKindley]

Here's what I would do:

I would ask the girl (the best friend, that is) to hang out one on one. Just spend time with her and do your best to generally be her friend. That little bit of effort should make her like you more. Act interested in her life and what she's doing.

Before you do this tell your girl you want to do this. Get some info from your girl about what her friend is into. What her interests are.

When you spend time with the girl act really interested in what she's into.

If people are nice to us and we learn that we have things in common, we can't help but like them. The reason she feels it is ok to treat you like this is because you let her. If you spend a day with her and are nice to her, she can't be mean to you anymore.

OK, every moron who thinks this is AFC flame away.

 

[Lost In Translation]

similar post this week
steal the ideas i posted here
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=73983
and bend them to your situation

Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[jprjrjr]

Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
jprjrjr: you are not kissing her ass, you are simply telling her what she wants to hear, noone said u have to MEAN what you are saying, just say what she wants to hear so that she will be off your back.

Tuning her or acting in the way that u suggested will only make her hate you more and therefore try her best to convince ur gf to leave you and/or just cause more sh!t for you.

There is a saying: "Pat the head that you want to slice off" and "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemy's closer" ... Those sayings arent well known for nothing ya know


Laterz....

I totally disagree. If your girlfriend is going to leave you because of what her friend thinks, she's an untrustworthy bytch, and you wouldn't want to be with her anyway.

Never reward someone for being a cvnt.


P.S. She already hates you. Being nice to her isn't going to change that. Showing her you don't take **** might.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by SpeedRunner
...and calls me an idiot every now and then. Obviously I dont want her to screw up my relationship... what should I do?

You should have backhanded this ho for disrespecting you!! SLAP THAT HO!!!!!!!!!!!!! Where is that website?? Hold on...

HoSlap.net I love this site... because the cyber Hor can't call the police on you!!!

When a woman disrespects you then you must correct her right away or else she continues her disrespect as this ho is doing to you!!

Give her a verbal lashing and tell this hor to step off and to mind her own business - if you lose your girl then good -- but you have kept your dignity as a man!!!!

Do not sell out your dignity for a girl!!!! This would be a crucial and costly mistake -- your girl will respect and like you more if you stood up for your self and held on to your dignity!!!!

Be a man!!! Women like men but hors don't!!!!!!

 

[diplomatic_lies]

Tell her to join in a 3some.

 

[MindOverMatter]

Originally posted by SpeedRunner
I'm alittle concerned about my girlfriend's best friend. She is a major biotch, but I try my best to be friends with her... i honestly do. But everytime I talk to her she acts like she hates me and calls me an idiot every now and then. Obviously I dont want her to screw up my relationship... what should I do?

first of all, grow some balls. when someone is an a$$hole/b!tch to you, don't be nice to them, it's positive reinforcement. when you give someone positive reinforcement when they treat you like sh!t, it encourages them to keep doing it. learn to stand up for yourself. like PRL said, losing your girl isn't as bad as losing your dignity.

next time she calls you an idiot, tell the b!tch flat out that if she spent half the time jogging that she does talking sh!t to you, she wouldn't have all that disgusting fat on her stomach (every girl thinks she's fat) and that while she's at it, she should shave those whiskers (every girl has hair there that's barely noticable and is too lazy to shave it since she figures no one will notice it), cause it's obvious she's growing a moustache, and that whitening her teeth wouldn't hurt either (who has perfectly white teeth anyway? also if she has crooked teeth, tell the b!tch to get some braces too while you're at it).

basically keep talking sh!t about her appearance, if she has a flaw, point it out. make the b!tch break down and lose it. it will spell the end of your relationship, but who gives a f*ck. it wasn't much of a relationship in the first place if your girl let your friend act this way to you.

think about it. if one of your boys was an a$$hole to your girl all the time, and called her idiot and sh!t, would you put up with it? or would you put him in his place?

your girl isn't supportive of you, and your relationship is weak. don't be afraid of losing it. as PRL said, don't compromise your dignity. this way you at least get to leave knowing u have balls, and the satisfaction of knowing that b!tch into an anorexic moustache shaver.

 

[Climax]

Let me explain...

..

Originally posted by jprjrjr
I totally disagree. If your girlfriend is going to leave you because of what her friend thinks, she's an untrustworthy bytch, and you wouldn't want to be with her anyway.

Never reward someone for being a cvnt.


P.S. She already hates you. Being nice to her isn't going to change that. Showing her you don't take **** might.

Have YOU, or anyone that is saying that "slapping" this girl and "tuning the sh!t" out of her ever DONE that and have it work for them? If so, then go ahead and keep on doing it, but from personal experiences (my own AND those that I have seen) by "tuning the sh!t out of them" etc only makes her hate you MORE, causes MORE sh!t for you, AND in some cases have the guys girlfriend tell him to stop being such an @sshole to her friends.

In my post I did NOT say that your girlfriend would LEAVE you, I said that she will TRY get your girlfriend to leave you buy only having bad things to say about you and constantly trying to brainwash your girlfriend that you are "bad" etc. And yes, I have seen situations where the girlfriend had to leave the bf because her friends were giving her hell about it and she couldn’t take it anymore (this is after a 1 and a half year HAPPY relationship) The girlfriend in most cases WONT leave her bf because of friends, but having her friends hate you is a big minus, as appose to having them LIKE you.

This has nothing to do with "dignity", "pride", or "being a man", this has to do with you being clever and coming out on top.

I'll give you an example:

Burglers (thieves) that want to rob a house, but there is this god that they just wished would die, because that would save them a lot of trouble.... but they don’t let the dog chase them away... What do they do?

a) Aggregate the dog (girlfriend's friend) more, slap it around causing it to bark (speak badly about you etc) even MORE?

or

b) ACT friendly to the dog (girlfriend's friend), give it a piece of tasty meat (act nicely to her) so that it will like you and wont bark at you, and therefore make your time robbing the house (going out with your girlfriend) a lot easier.

Now you don’t have to LIKE the dog, deep inside you probably still hope that the dog would just f*ckoff and die, but you ACT towards the dog in a way to get it off your back.

Anyways, I hope you understand what I am trying to say, and I guarantee you, this way DOES work, I have been down this road before, and tuning her and putting her in her place and all that bullsh!t might make u feel/seem like a man, but in essence all you are doing is making her hate you more, causing her to try even harder to convince your girlfriend that u are bad news etc, which will lead to making your life harder. I learnt that these 2 sayings ("Pat the head that you want to slice off" and "Keep your friends close, but keep your enemy's closer") hold more truth in them than what people think.

And one more thing... Get the idea of "you are rewarding her" out of your head, you aren’t rewarding her for anything, you are doing what YOU need to do to get what YOU want, so you might give her that piece of meat (refer to the example that I gave above), but its a small effort for achieving what you want to achieve, and if you are not going to be willing to do THAT much, then that’s just your ego speaking, but unlike her, you need to think ahead, and at the end of the day, you are the one coming out on top, not her, because she will still be your girlfriend's friend, but she just wont be trying to cause sh!t for you anymore, and all that, just because u threw her a piece of "meat" to shut her up. You are doing it for YOURSELF, NOT for her, remember that.

If you STILL disagree with me, then that’s fine, you are entitled to your opinion, I am just saying what i have experienced, seen, and found to work, with MANY situations like/similar to this, not just my own.


Laterz...

 

[Climax]

Just to clarify things....

MindOverMatter: You are not taking sh!t from anyone, you are making her LIKE you in order for her to shut up and have her off your back.

Let me explain what I fully mean by "being nice to her". ...

Example:

If she starts calling you an idiot or whatever, simply start talking to her and ask her "why in the world did you just have the erge to call me an idiot?" , then she will probably give you attitude, then you slip in the "you know what, me and (your girlfriends name) are going to (name of place), I want you to come with." <--- That alone is winning you the "battle", because that will already start making her think in a different way, thinking that maybe you are a kewl guy (I say this cause it has worked for me, more than once) and then the more time she spends with you/around you/you being nice to you, the more she will grow to being fond of you. You don’t have to invite her all the time, just a few times here and there so she doesn’t feel so left out, then after time goes by (a few weeks?) you get to a point where you hardly ever ask her to join you, but she still thinks that you are a great guy.

Notice that you DONT take her sh!t though, if she calls you something, just act as if you couldn’t give a sh!t what she thinks of you, and MAKE her think that you are a great guy, by doing the above, or something similar to the above. .... When I was with my last chick in my 6 month relationship her friends were at a point where they wished I would die, they would text me telling me to f*ckoff etc, because I was "stealing their best friend away", and using things similar to what I have said in the last 2 posts, I got them to love me (not literally), but they would always invite me with them, text me (good things this time), etc, and today, even after me and my girl aren’t together anymore, I'm still friendly with her friends etc.


Laterz...

 

[the phenom]

yeah, it's a fine line, but get the friend to like you, and then respect you. Otherwise, if you verbally beat her all the time, she'll sit back and quit giving you sh!t, but she'll be in your girl's ear all the time. All your flaws, all your ****, and how much better such and such guy is than you. So yeah, how does it go, you catch more flies with honey.

 

[JackPrescott]

Originally posted by SpeedRunner
I'm alittle concerned about my girlfriend's best friend. She is a major biotch, but I try my best to be friends with her... i honestly do. But everytime I talk to her she acts like she hates me and calls me an idiot every now and then. Obviously I dont want her to screw up my relationship... what should I do?

It's the whole "Hoes before Bros" Bullcrap. She is obviously pissed off that you are boffing her best friend, and making her moan at night....this, for some strange, primordial reason bothers her....I'd ignore her, and tell your GF that you think her best friends a moron, and I'd tell the best friend that as well.

 

[Climax]

errr....

Originally posted by JackPrescott
It's the whole "Hoes before Bros" Bullcrap. She is obviously pissed off that you are boffing her best friend, and making her moan at night....this, for some strange, primordial reason bothers her....I'd ignore her, and tell your GF that you think her best friends a moron, and I'd tell the best friend that as well.

And where do you think THAT will get you? Not far! Her friend will just think even LESS of you, therefore hating you more, therefore trying to cause MORE problems for you.... And your gf might get offended by you calling her best friend a "moron", and if not, then whats the use of telling ur gf that anyways?


Laterz...

 

[JackPrescott]

Re: errr....

Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
And where do you think THAT will get you? Not far! Her friend will just think even LESS of you, therefore hating you more, therefore trying to cause MORE problems for you.... And your gf might get offended by you calling her best friend a "moron", and if not, then whats the use of telling ur gf that anyways?


Laterz...

Well, at that point, as a DJ we see who the girlfriends loyalties go towards....if her biatch arsed best friend is more important, I'd move on. Personally, I could care the **** less what any girlfriend of mine's buddies think of me, there is going to be a natural form of "Bros before Hoes" jealousy involved anytime I am monopolizing time with my GF, and making naked love to her, when she could be on the town, "clubbin' with her female buddies.