Trump said:
Why do you guys have enough game to sleep with a good looking girl in a few weeks, and then your head spins in circles with one question? If you get this sidetracked and confused over a simple question, what are you going to do when things get a little tough?
And bro, a girl you are having sex with and like said another guy wants to take her out on a date and f her, and you said "no problem?" What the hell?
This is where this site confuses, act all calm and not caring and she will want you more. Give me a break. If you can't stand up and protect her she will lose attraction for you right away.
This is bad advice. She is not your girlfriend. She is not your "girl". If she wants to go out on dates and sleep with other guys, that is her right, just as it is your right to fvck any girl you want when you're single. She is testing you by telling you this, to see if you react and get jealous. The proper response is to be unfazed and encourage her to go out and have a good time.
If you "stand up and protect" a girl you are not in a LTR with against other guys taking her out on dates, you are a whiny, pu$$y beta b!tch, who is so insecure and overprotective that he worries about losing a girl who is not even his girlfriend. And in doing so, you WILL lose her. The only proper time to "defend" a plate is if you are with her and a guy blantantly disrespects either you or her right in front of you. Aside from that..if she's not with you, it's none of your concern what she does with her time or who she spend it with.
But it's okay. Doctor Gravity is here to remedy your malaise and give ya a shot of just what you need...
OP, i had a similar problem, and i managed to string this girl along for
more than six months when she kept asking "where we are at". The most important part is that she becomes aware that you are
willing to walk away. Explain to her that you two are just having fun, and that while you are enjoying her company, you are not looking to jump into anything serious just yet.
If she keeps pressing you, you NEED to be the one to suggest that if she isn't happy with where you guys are at, then maybe you shouldn't see each other any more, because that's how you feel and that is the way it is. No questions asked. THIS IS KEY. If she knows you would rather leave her than be suckered into a relationship because you're afraid of losing you, she WILL lose attraction, and even if you get into a LTR with her, she will have all the power.
Women would rather SHARE a high quality man than have a little beta b!tch all to herself. This is the mentality you need to have.
You are screening her. You are a man of such high quality that you dont just jump into a relationship with any ole girl you've started dating. Your GF needs to go through a rigorous screening process to make sure she's up to par with the type of girl that you'd be willing to settle down for.
This being said, most
high quality girls will not put up with more than a few months of being strung along if you're treating her like a GF and not simply a fvckbuddy. They tend to get ticked off if you are cuddling, spending time together, being all romantic, etc. and she is not exclusive. The social status thing is big because it's awkward to explain to her friends that the guy whose apartment she is staying at 4 nights a week and ditching them for is not even her exclusive boyfriend. She doesn't wanna come off as a slvt.
The only way you can string a high quality girl along is if you are a very high quality (ideally attractive and social) man and you operate from the position of one, never breaking frame, and she is well aware that you A) have other options, and B) are willing to walk away.
However, don't be a doosh and string her along if you just want sex, as you're just going to break her heart (God forbid anyone on this site having any ethical guidelines...) If you honestly have NO intention of dating her in a LTR...try not to string her along for much longer or you will seriously mindfvck her. 2-3 months is a pretty good amount of time to decide whether either she is quality enough to consider for a LTR, or break it off with her to save her some heartbreak. If you choose to pursue her for a LTR, screen her for a bit longer, make sure she's not crazy, you like her personality, your sex life is good, etc. etc. I was at a similar position you are at with my last GF. After about 3 months, i was dead set on not dating. But after about 6 i realized she was really a super chill gal that i loved being with, one who was better than any other girl i was seeing at the time and perfect relationship material, and so I went for it and didnt regret it.
