You have to have boundaries and being yelled at crosses the line. If you tell her that you don't want her to do it, then back it up, and she won't do it anymore. If she wants you in her life, she will watch what she does, and all you have to do is back it up. Back it up by backing off, and when she brings it up, tell her exactly why you're not the same. Then when she has stopped, you reward her by giving her attention once again.
