How to deal with excuses

[LeChanteur]

Hey all. Just wondering how you would handle the following situation.

I've just started seeing this girl. Things seem to be going really well (high IL etc) but I called her up for another date but she can't for a really good reason.

In fact due to our schedules it is going to be really hard over the next few weeks for either of us to get a chance to see each other outside of just hanging with our mutual friends.

What should I do?

 

[legolas]

Originally posted by LeChanteur
Hey all. Just wondering how you would handle the following situation.

I've just started seeing this girl. Things seem to be going really well (high IL etc) but I called her up for another date but she can't for a really good reason.

In fact due to our schedules it is going to be really hard over the next few weeks for either of us to get a chance to see each other outside of just hanging with our mutual friends.

What should I do?

Give her the chance to miss you!!!

 

[legolas]

Re: Re: How to deal with excuses

Originally posted by GigaloDJ
What do you do when you hang out with her and your other friends?

By the way, i think you're in the friend zone buddy.
Find a new girl.

GigaloDJ....nexts on contact. There you go.

btw, some of us don't have the luxury to pursue 100 women a month, unless we had nothing else to do.

 

[LeChanteur]

we're actors (the whole group of friends are too) and we will be filming a movie over the next few weeks. Hence it isn't really hanging out but we will be seeing each other but without the time to actually go out.

 

[Big Pappy]

being productive...

Hey, she is busy. You are busy. Put your hormones on hold and get to work. If you're keeping the traditional hours for a film, providing a few practical jokes on the set will help her remember what a fun guy you are. (Just don't do it on film, directors don't like that -- costs money!)

Make a date for when the filming is completed.

Break a leg, not a heart.

 

[TesuqueRed]

What are the excuses?

I see where she couldn't go out for a really good reason---either it was or it wasn't. If it was, then the reason isn't an excuse. If it wasn't, then you have an excuse (which is low IL, which means don't waste time, get back out there!)

Is it really a question of "how do I get together with this girl even though our schedules conflict?"

Just ask her out. You may have to be creative--maybe it won't be a traditional date of X hrs long, so maybe it's a "let's grab lunch at this neat seafood place down by the wharf next tuesday" thing. If her IL is high, she'll make time. If it isn't, you'll get that "conflicting schedules" line, which means she's more interested in LJBF and is stalling on going on a real date with you. Move on.