Hi
Story so far -
Me and a cpl of friends had gone on a 3 day trip. Overnight journey
Met a girl on the bus ride. She was with her mother.
I kind of ended up talking with her mother first and eventually talked to her.
cracked a few jokes....decent time pass...
we even saw a movie together on a portable dvd player on the bus ride.
The chick and her mom were going to the same place for a 3 day trip.
In the morning ( still in the bus ), the mother took my phone no. ( I am a doc and work at a hospital near to the place she lives )....that was understandable..
then the Chick took my phone no, saying that we could hook up in xxx place and plan our outings together.
We did on second day of the trip...we spent an entire day together ( her mom also accompanying and my 2 friends too )....The trip was fun...the chick seemed very friendly....nice..
Last day when we were supposed to leave, we spoke on phone a cpl of times...She suggested that we catch up once we r back home...and then she suggested we could possibly meet up when we r back....I never initiated..i only said...yeah..sure...why not.
Now.., am back in town...spoke on phone with her 2-3 times. She seemed pretty cold and distant.
The first time i spoke to her was the day we had reached back. She seemed pretty nice and friendly...and she said she wasnt able to text me ( I had txt her earlier in the day )....So i said thats better...she could always call me..she laughed and said...she is lousy at calling ppl...so i should call her...i said ok..
Second time, I called her....we talked a cpl of mins and she said she was out with someone.
Third time...again...we talked a cpl of mins ..she was out with some friends...and then I asked her...she was pretty lousy at replying to emails also... ( I had dropped a small mail with the trip pics...she figured in those pics..)....She suddenly went a bit cold..and again it was like...friends are waiting..so can i catch up with you later...
So my and my friends analyzed all the conversations that we had with her on the trip and we realized she was kind of an attention seeker, everything she used to say...was revolved around impressing us and making us ask more questions...
Future POA -
Now I think i know how to play the game...but am open to better suggestions.
The chick had mentioned that she knew almost all restaurants and hangout places in town....So i could call her....and just ask " i am in xxx area....can u suggest some good restaurant"...she ll ans....i say thank you and dump the phone. Get her to seek validation.....I have a feeling that something like this could work...
Another approach I could try is...call her and straight away ask for her mom's phone no. ( her mom was going on another trip and I can pretend that I am planning to go to the same place myself and thats why I need her no. ). When she gives me the number...I say..thank you and cut the call.
Bottomline - call her...directly ask for some "specific" information... ( which I know she has or can provide )....and then say thank you and cut the call..
do it a cpl of times...and get her to seek validation...so that the third time I call...she is a bit insecure....
Do you folks think an approach like this will work ?
Any suggestions ?
Story so far -
Me and a cpl of friends had gone on a 3 day trip. Overnight journey
Met a girl on the bus ride. She was with her mother.
I kind of ended up talking with her mother first and eventually talked to her.
cracked a few jokes....decent time pass...
we even saw a movie together on a portable dvd player on the bus ride.
The chick and her mom were going to the same place for a 3 day trip.
In the morning ( still in the bus ), the mother took my phone no. ( I am a doc and work at a hospital near to the place she lives )....that was understandable..
then the Chick took my phone no, saying that we could hook up in xxx place and plan our outings together.
We did on second day of the trip...we spent an entire day together ( her mom also accompanying and my 2 friends too )....The trip was fun...the chick seemed very friendly....nice..
Last day when we were supposed to leave, we spoke on phone a cpl of times...She suggested that we catch up once we r back home...and then she suggested we could possibly meet up when we r back....I never initiated..i only said...yeah..sure...why not.
Now.., am back in town...spoke on phone with her 2-3 times. She seemed pretty cold and distant.
The first time i spoke to her was the day we had reached back. She seemed pretty nice and friendly...and she said she wasnt able to text me ( I had txt her earlier in the day )....So i said thats better...she could always call me..she laughed and said...she is lousy at calling ppl...so i should call her...i said ok..
Second time, I called her....we talked a cpl of mins and she said she was out with someone.
Third time...again...we talked a cpl of mins ..she was out with some friends...and then I asked her...she was pretty lousy at replying to emails also... ( I had dropped a small mail with the trip pics...she figured in those pics..)....She suddenly went a bit cold..and again it was like...friends are waiting..so can i catch up with you later...
So my and my friends analyzed all the conversations that we had with her on the trip and we realized she was kind of an attention seeker, everything she used to say...was revolved around impressing us and making us ask more questions...
Future POA -
Now I think i know how to play the game...but am open to better suggestions.
The chick had mentioned that she knew almost all restaurants and hangout places in town....So i could call her....and just ask " i am in xxx area....can u suggest some good restaurant"...she ll ans....i say thank you and dump the phone. Get her to seek validation.....I have a feeling that something like this could work...
Another approach I could try is...call her and straight away ask for her mom's phone no. ( her mom was going on another trip and I can pretend that I am planning to go to the same place myself and thats why I need her no. ). When she gives me the number...I say..thank you and cut the call.
Bottomline - call her...directly ask for some "specific" information... ( which I know she has or can provide )....and then say thank you and cut the call..
do it a cpl of times...and get her to seek validation...so that the third time I call...she is a bit insecure....
Do you folks think an approach like this will work ?
Any suggestions ?