How to deal with a break up?

[mikey2012]

If the evil biatch breaks up with you:

1. Act indifferent
2. Don't ask what went wrong.
3. Don't ask her to come back
4. Ignore her
5. Magnify her bad points
6. Think if you were billionaire . Would you still want her?
7. Good riddance

 

[In2theGame]

If the evil biatch breaks up with you:

1. Act indifferent
2. Don't ask what went wrong.
3. Don't ask her to come back
4. Ignore her
5. Magnify her bad points
6. Think if you were billionaire . Would you still want her?
7. Good riddance

If SHE decided she wanted to break things off, Ignore her. Basically no contact even though deep down you will be hurting, Go hang out with friends to try to talk and get things off your chest or make private time for yourself and cry if you have to. Do not answer her calls or text messages. I'ts a double sword actually because if you dont want to be with her then its good you ignore her but if you wanted her back, ignoring her will get her going crazy trying to get in contact with you in anyway possible and you will hold the upper hand in a way. IMO the number one weapon against female's or ex GF bullsh*t is ignoring them, they hate it to an extreme.

 

[adam225]

What about if they don't love you anymore or have found someone else ? Will NC still hurt them ?? I hope so....

 

[Dance]

@adam225
NC will still affect them, it will make them think why you aren't contacting them. They will want you to try to get them back, it is an ego boost. If she dumps you for someone else and you seem perfectly cool with it.
Even on the odd chance it doesn't hurt them, NC is for YOU!! It is to get you over her, and back into the real world.

 

[adam225]

Yeah you're right man. With my ex I was the one who she travelled the world with and had the greatest of opportunities. All her other boyfriends weren't a patch on me when it came to opportunities lol. I really do see it as her loss. I just want to make sure I hurt her for what she did to me... B1tch...

 

[jeffreylebowski]

Those things are all easy to say, but you should also take the time to figure out what you can improve upon going forward, otherwise, in many cases, the same thing will happen in your next relationship.

Eventually, you should get to a point where you don't hold bitterness to an ex. The only thing that prevents you from interacting with an ex in the same way as any other woman are your emotions.

 

[PlayHer Man]

What about if they don't love you anymore or have found someone else ? Will NC still hurt them ?? I hope so....

The only legal way to hurt a woman is by ignoring her. Men don't realize how important attention is to women. Its #1.

You can hurt a woman more by ignoring her than by slapping her around or verbally abusing her. For most women.. as long as they are getting attention of some kind from you.. they are validated.

Cutting off attention is the only way to neutralize any and ALL power they have over you. All relationships are a game to women and they can't win a game with someone who refuses to play.

 

[fuzzball]

If the evil biatch breaks up with you:

1. Act indifferent
2. Don't ask what went wrong.
3. Don't ask her to come back
4. Ignore her
5. Magnify her bad points
6. Think if you were billionaire . Would you still want her?
7. Good riddance

i agree i have a friend who just spent 2 months breaking up with some because

1. he did not act indifferent at all. he cared about every little thing she said(While not inherently bad i suppose....when you start caring about BS its a problem and there was a ton of BS to be sure)
2. he asked what went wrong......that changed by the hour
3. he asked her to come back repeatedly....she said no repeatedly....she went out with guys repeatedly instead
4. he tried ignoring her for 2 weeks....and strangely thats when she went ape**** for him
5. nope didnt do that. it was all always his fault. never hers. and still is. even though shes the one that cheated.
6. i like this point a lot actually lol.....ill bring it up next time i hear him whine.
7. well we havent hit that point yet as he still thinks its not.

my social life is still dead....still working on cleaning myself up(i swear creating good habits is a nightmare to do but bad habits takes 0 effort) so figured why not test these theories on my friend via "giving advice". when he took the advice it seemed to go better....when he didnt he just got abused repeatedly.

they still arent completely broken up. supposedly they have a date for friday. why i dont know. i expect that to be a new level of fail.....im trying to convince him to stand her up and just no show and not answer the phone. but she played yet another card of power. she inexplicably got a new kitten and dropped it off at his place and he took the kitten so friday he wants to see her to find out if she wants the kitten rather than just getting rid of it.

its quite amazing the mind games being played.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

In2theGame and PlayHer Man said it all.

Once a broad breaks it she is DONE with you, woman DO NOT break up with you if they like or are in love you.

Ignore her move on, she might try to get back with you (b/c N/C) but don't do it she made up her mind already. They have already thought it through weeks in advance prior to dumping you.

And then there's the pity sex after they break up with you!? (some woman make no sense/or well they're just horny slvts?) Hit it good one last time and immediately move on bro it's over. Ok some may say don't give her the time of day or whatever start healing, spinning plates..etc.....might as well end it with a BANG!

 

[fuzzball]

In2theGame and PlayHer Man said it all.

Once a broad breaks it she is DONE with you, woman DO NOT break up with you if they like or are in love you.

Ignore her move on, she might try to get back with you (b/c N/C) but don't do it she made up her mind already. They have already thought it through weeks in advance prior to dumping you.

And then there's the pity sex after they break up with you!? (some woman make no sense/or well they're just horny slvts?) Hit it good one last time and immediately move on bro it's over. Ok some may say don't give her the time of day or whatever start healing, spinning plates..etc.....might as well end it with a BANG!

probably depends on what that sex will cost you. if its a LTR break up that sex probably aint worth The BS Drama you just reinvited

 

[Zhanie]

If SHE decided she wanted to break things off, Ignore her. Basically no contact even though deep down you will be hurting, Go hang out with friends to try to talk and get things off your chest or make private time for yourself and cry if you have to. Do not answer her calls or text messages. I'ts a double sword actually because if you dont want to be with her then its good you ignore her but if you wanted her back, ignoring her will get her going crazy trying to get in contact with you in anyway possible and you will hold the upper hand in a way. IMO the number one weapon against female's or ex GF bullsh*t is ignoring them, they hate it to an extreme.

What if you broke up because she felt you were ignoring her???

 

[In2theGame]

What if you broke up because she felt you were ignoring her???

I'm not saying to ignore the girl if two people are still together or trying to work things out but what i am saying is if a girl decided to give you the "I need space" line or tells you she doesnt think you two are workin out then its time to vanish immediately. What happens when a girl breaks up with a guy, The guy keeps trying after her, she will keep justifying the break up with more Bullsh*t lines than you can imagine. Even excuses that would make absolutely no sense only to mind F*ck you.

The no contact is for you to ignore her games she may try to play or for all you know, trying to keep you on the side by saying shes "confused" about everything while trying to decide if the next guy shes seeing behind your back is worth it. If she cuts you off then you cut her off even if its very hard. Let her go for the "new great guy" and if he plays her or it doesnt live up to what she thought, F*ck it, she made her own bed.

Woman get in their own way many times with their clouded and emotional judgement and as a Man, you have to put her in her place and let her know, You either want to be together or you dont. There is no middle. Woman like to play it in between so they have their cake and eat it to and that is where you come in to take charge as a Man.

 

[Dan08]

My 2¢ is that ignoring and the ignorance that comes from it is the ultimate aim. I still have mutual buddies that are in my ex's circle and I essentially only do sh!t with them now and cut the rest of the circle out. I have nothing to do with my ex, she's asked once to meet up and talk for a catch up, my response was sure, gimme a bell and left it all on her to do the running around and it feels great!

My buddy says the circle is always asking about me and it's such a good feeling to be outside of all that bullsh!t and being able to live my life without them.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

probably depends on what that sex will cost you. if its a LTR break up that sex probably aint worth The BS Drama you just reinvited

Yeah, I get what you are saying. The last thing you want to do is get her pregnant or whatever. It's probably best to take the high road str8 to N/C.