How To Date And Be In A Relationship With The Quality 10's?

[BobCarlton]

I've been in this game now for over 7 years.

During that time, I've slept with A LOT of women, done thousands of approaches and had a lot of wild and crazy experiences.

However, I have found that I'm really only able to consistently attract what I would consider to be 7's and 8's into my life. I can once in awhile attract a 9, perhaps get a # or go on a date, but it doesn't last.

I'm thinking there is MORE than just "going out and talking to women" and practicing my conversation skills, etc... that will get me the quality, beautiful 10's that I really want.

I'm now looking for more EVOLVED women. I have the skills to pick up women at clubs and have one night stands, etc... but I'm trying to figure out now how I CAN EVOLVE to the next level so that I can attract and KEEP 9's and 10's in my life.

What do you think the next level is for me?

Is it focusing on being financially free?

Is it developing my body, being buff and ripped?

Is it being successful, or spiritually evolved?

OR, is it continuing to go out and approach another 10,000 women and sleep with another 100+ women until I attract 9's and 10's? (going to malls, clubs, etc.. does get tiring over the years though ;-)

What do you guys think?

 

[Serg897]

This is a good post, and it has captured what's been on my mind lately. Im in a very similar mindset. I'd like to see someone comment on this.

 

[typical]

This is just my opinion and nothing more.

Because your still using the 0-10 rating scale in my view your still placing these women in a higher position then yourself.

You need to improve and keep improving everything about yourself, and I mean everything, keep the focus on yourself just yourself. You have to be your worst critic, just don't go mental with it.

Make a list of what you want and work out a solid plan on how to achieve those goals.

Make another list of what you want in the girl that you would like to have a relationship with and be very specific. Now with all the years of experience you have go out and try and date only the girls that fit that criteria be picky be very very picky, you will be called every name under the sun but this is the best way that I found works.

It may not be the only way but it makes sure that if all else fails you at least will always be in a solid position to bounce back and keep going forward in your quest to date and keep the so called 10's.

Maybe after a few relationships with the 9's and 10s as people call them you will realise that they are no different than the 6's to 8's except they are slightly better looking, and you won't have any trouble dating or keeping them because at the end of the day they are just women and they are just human nothing special except for the fact they look really good.

Also I'm not saying aim lower keep aiming high and after a while the rating scale becomes "ugly-good-hot". I only go for "good looking" and "hot looking"

 

[BobCarlton]

Great advice Typical. I agree with you, and will definitely be doing this.

Another idea that came to me would be to FIND the men who are currently dating these quality women, and be around them. That way I can take on their beliefs, values, lifestyle, character traits, etc... to get the same results as them.

Most of my friends range from OK to good with women, but none really get better results than I do, so perhaps to go to the next level I need to find those men at a higher level.

Any suggestions on how to find them?

 

[Boilermaker]

This is just my opinion and nothing more.

Because your still using the 0-10 rating scale in my view your still placing these women in a higher position then yourself.

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This.

All women are 10's and all 10's are 0's. Women don't rank themselves. It is irrelevant. The scale is fabricated for fun. It shouldn't carry any hierarchical connotation. You are limiting yourself.

I don't see a difference between a 7 or a 10. Because the scale is about looks and not status.

If you put status into the picture, well you'll find richer 6's and 7's than broke college 10's.

 

[ThreeStorms]

For me, a '10' is more than physical beauty. It's an aura thing. Truly amazing men and women have that special energy that can transform their surroundings. Have you ever talked to a girl that made you feel really good about yourself, maybe even special, and boosted your confidence?
These is actually the only sort of women I will still put on a pedestal. They are in extreme high demand, but not just for their looks, but for their positive energy.

I believe the best way to get a 'ten' is to do your best you can to become one yourself. There are no tricks or simple solutions. High energy people attract other high energy people. I think it has to do with how cynical the world has become. Genuine positive people are very attractive.

 

[ThreeStorms]

And don't confuse "positive energy" with being a nice guy. Being a truly warm, friendly, still confident person that actually gives a **** about other people is strong. Being a passive nice guy out of shyness or fear is weak.

 

[Burroughs]

The best, most reliable way to keep a 10 in your life?

Be a 12.

 

[The_411]

Best way? Stop rating them for one.

 

[BobCarlton]

OK, forget the "rating nonsense", because I don't really rate women. I just used that as a reference here in this post so that you guys could relate to it.

Instead of "10", I'm talking about beautiful, high quality women.

Not just "average", "cute", or even "beautiful" women without great personalities, etc...

Any more advice?

 

[typical]

The simple answer is to become a handsome high quality man.

A man that does everything in his power to become the best he can in whatever field he chooses to specialize. A man that looks after himself first and his immediate family second everyone else comes third. A man that does not put up with any bullsh!t or drama at all period.

So basically its not how to get/keep a high quality woman its all about becoming the high quality handsome man. This is something this forum can not teach you it has basic guidelines on how to start your journey but ultimately your going to have to do it yourself.

 

[Lexington]

You attract a "10" the same way you attract a woman of any other arbitrarily (and very subjectively) assigned rating. There's no special kind of game that works on them. You just have to get after it and calibrate your game on the fly as you do with any girl. Either it works or or doesn't.

It certainly doesn't help to think of a girl as a 10. There are very few women that most men can agree are "10s" and most of then are actresses or models. Your 10 might be my 6. This rating system is entirely in your head and does not actually exist in the outside world.

I've had 9s give it up easily and 6s that wouldn't give me the time of the day. I've never actually gotten with a girl I rate as a 10, but according to my standards, there are extremely few women I would even consider 10s. But my approach would be the same.

If you were the coach of a football team and you were playing the number one team in the country, would your basic approach be any different than if you were playing $hitbird State? You'd still look at film, come up with a gameplan, try to execute that gameplan and then make adjustments based on what happens. It's the same thing in this Game as that game.