how to control this bullshhiit onetis

[sexy_kuta]

for gay reason i want her back but at the same time id ont wanna go through the same bullshhiit

background: basicly i was the rebound guy,

like i dont wanna go through the same **** again,

is it possible to recover from a rebound relationship? right now we are kept distance from each other and we dont talk much.. she knows it and i know it,

she has baggage and right now she is dealing with that herself,

but iwhat is the right thing to doo,

right now im doing my own thing.. playing in the feild and fuking, without talking to her,

my question is, should i contiue do my own thing and IF she comes back later on.. wanting a real relationship should i go for it..

like shes a confidence girl and the only reason we didnt work out is she got too much baggage... but she chose to deal with it herself. thats a good sign,

part of me wants her back but wants to do it the right way and thats giving her space but the other part is saying Dont even risk it because it might work or might not and i dont even wanna risk it..

is that common, like we didnt leave off bad terms... we were dating and she still had feelings so I myself cut her off.. i told her we need a break until ur ready.. if not then best of luck.. she agreed.. month goes by then she adds me to msn and adds me to the back burner.. then she started disrespecting me so i just backed off withdraw all the anttention..

man im one confused mofo..

and i dont enjoy playing in the feild.. it aint my thing, soo disguted by how many hos and *****es there are out there

 

[sexy_kuta]

bump

 

[sexy_kuta]

now shes trying to contact me out of the blue, on msn, twice, first time which was a few days ago and i just gave her the cold shoulders without relplying back

second time was today, and i can easily tell shes in for the attention,

she talks like nothing happend, she talks to me as if everything is perfect, she thinks i forgot waht happend.

so next time she talk to me like that, i am going to confront her and ask her what she want from me..

 

[sexy_kuta]

143 veiws and no replys wtf!

 

[aznflexxx]

Wow I feel for you man, I am in like the exact same situation almost. It sucks cuz in the back of your mind your thinking, wow it would be great if she was single when you met her right?

From my experiance, if she still contacts you that means theres something she wants, be it physical or mental, big or small, there is something that she has not gotten from you. Once you give her whatever it is she wants, she will manipulate it out of you if you aren't on your guard, she will leave you in the dust without looking back. From what I can see you have some choices. One, you can game her again, but its risky cuz you will prob fall for her again like you did before. Other choice, if your strong enough, and I don't think a lotta guys are when they have feelings, (that damn compassion), you cut off contact, block her of MSN, phone, everything, and talk to her when you DONT have anymore feelings. I am trying to do choice number 2, but damn it is hard, especially when they keep callings you and wanting you back. Like I know this girl wants something from me and her intentions most likely arent pure, but damn, hard to resist when you fell for them.

 

[sexy_kuta]

Wow I feel for you man, I am in like the exact same situation almost. It sucks cuz in the back of your mind your thinking, wow it would be great if she was single when you met her right?

From my experiance, if she still contacts you that means theres something she wants, be it physical or mental, big or small, there is something that she has not gotten from you. Once you give her whatever it is she wants, she will manipulate it out of you if you aren't on your guard, she will leave you in the dust without looking back. From what I can see you have some choices. One, you can game her again, but its risky cuz you will prob fall for her again like you did before. Other choice, if your strong enough, and I don't think a lotta guys are when they have feelings, (that damn compassion), you cut off contact, block her of MSN, phone, everything, and talk to her when you DONT have anymore feelings. I am trying to do choice number 2, but damn it is hard, especially when they keep callings you and wanting you back. Like I know this girl wants something from me and her intentions most likely arent pure, but damn, hard to resist when you fell for them.

****t eh,

well i tried gaming her before but she disrespects me... and i dont like that ****, we had it good for like 1.5 when we were dating. fuk best time of my dating expereinces,
i think she misses the attention thats all, she was the best before, NO mind games, NO disrespect, No thing, everything pure so i know she can do it, she just changed cuz of the baggage, and i think she still has baggage but i dunno wtf to doo, maybe she wants to fuk me cuz we havnt had the chance to do that, last time i tried gaming her she asked me to come to this party she was but wasnt in the mood, and things were moving to fast to be chillin wit her

**** the field sex is overatted thats it is with me, im always emotionless after sex and its boring.. only thing sex does for me is clam me down and brings down my test level, thats all. and after sex its like i dont want nothing to do with the girl.. i've walked away and left the girl naked on the bed many times and its cold for me..

im willing to make this work.. even if it takes anything such as cutting off all contacts and letting her come forward.. im willin to do that and if it doesnt work.. at least i'll know that i tried everything i could and desinty wasnt for us..

 

[sexy_kuta]

well next time she talks to me, r im going to ask her waht she want from me,

because its obviously she doenst know what she wants and shes just rebounding ppl so im going to be straight up and confront her,
and i let her deal with it and let her contact me... so after telling her and explaing that i dont want to deal with anything that has to do with her in this stage while she doenst know what she want and her baggage, i am going to cut off every single contact and just wait it out.. i'll tell her that she can call me in the furture if she wants to hook up again but i'll tell her not to waste my time either

 

[aznflexxx]

Haha more in common, I was like you too, I ended up getting bored of just banging random girls. It is emotionless, and it really isnt me to do that, it was fun at first, but it gets old after a while. Which maybe why your falling for this chick? One thing I you said that stuck out was how she was different, and how she was the "best" before. That is dangerous thinking. I'm no expert but I am in the same situation, and yea, when i first got with my chick everything was great too, and I do think part of it is because they just are getting out of a relationship and are trying to get their mind off it, by giving you ALL this attention.

I don't know exactly how you met this girl, how you define rebound guy, cuz it relly depends on what happened. Have to remember, girls can be straight up evil and break your heart without thinkin twice, which is why there is a place like this site.

 

[sexy_kuta]

Haha more in common, I was like you too, I ended up getting bored of just banging random girls. It is emotionless, and it really isnt me to do that, it was fun at first, but it gets old after a while. Which maybe why your falling for this chick? One thing I you said that stuck out was how she was different, and how she was the "best" before. That is dangerous thinking. I'm no expert but I am in the same situation, and yea, when i first got with my chick everything was great too, and I do think part of it is because they just are getting out of a relationship and are trying to get their mind off it, by giving you ALL this attention.

I don't know exactly how you met this girl, how you define rebound guy, cuz it relly depends on what happened. Have to remember, girls can be straight up evil and break your heart without thinkin twice, which is why there is a place like this site.

well we met through friends, and started talking and ur right she did give me all the attention but i didnt detect any mind games or anything **** like that, she was real to me,

never disrespected me either.. maybe once or twice, small things but i confronted her and she never did it again... she never really bought up her ex in the beg,.. half way through our dating she started talking about him and stated she still had feelings for him.. then once she told me that he picked her up from her work. that was a red flag, so i knew it and i told we need a break because she doesnt know what she wants and i told her to contact me in the furture if not best of luck, so month goes by without ANY contact., (im suprised i even did that, it took balls to do that) no contact at all, not through msn or emails or friends...

then she adds me a month later on msn without talking.. so a week goes by and i started the conver and we picked it up from there,
but she started disrespecting me by not listenign to me on the phone, and saying she would call back but doesnt, and she would use me for rides.. well TRy to use me,

so i shut her down, basicly told her she mistaken me for someother guy.. 3 weeks pass now she tries to talk to me oout of the blue, and she thinks i forgot wat happend.

 

[sexy_kuta]

this has been going since april, well i met her in april

 

[aznflexxx]

I mean if you read what you wrote you should know what to do already. I don't know why you still want to be with her, after she disrespected you like that. I know its hard, I do it all the time, I think about how great the past was with this girl, but thats all it is, the past. You gotta look at the present and how she's acting right now. If you could go one month without any contact, I'm sure you can drop her for good. I know personally I could never go that long wtih no contact with a girl i still had feelings for and then re-establish it again, with the intent of gettin back with her. Are you ok with her having sex with her ex during that month period? cuz odds are she did.

I really don't know how girls can do that, pull some bs and then expect the guy to forget about it. This chick does it sometimes too, and i just tell her straight up, "i know you can not possibly be that dumb". It sucks BIG time trying to cut off contact with em when they try to contact you cuz your thinking to urself, hey maybe it'll work out. From the looks of things tho, it seems like she's still got some issues to workout and keeping you around just in case. I'd say cut off all contact, give yourself time to get over her, don't seem that bad since u could cut off contact before for so long.

 

[sexy_kuta]

I mean if you read what you wrote you should know what to do already. I don't know why you still want to be with her, after she disrespected you like that. I know its hard, I do it all the time, I think about how great the past was with this girl, but thats all it is, the past. You gotta look at the present and how she's acting right now. If you could go one month without any contact, I'm sure you can drop her for good. I know personally I could never go that long wtih no contact with a girl i still had feelings for and then re-establish it again, with the intent of gettin back with her. Are you ok with her having sex with her ex during that month period? cuz odds are she did.

I really don't know how girls can do that, pull some bs and then expect the guy to forget about it. This chick does it sometimes too, and i just tell her straight up, "i know you can not possibly be that dumb". It sucks BIG time trying to cut off contact with em when they try to contact you cuz your thinking to urself, hey maybe it'll work out. From the looks of things tho, it seems like she's still got some issues to workout and keeping you around just in case. I'd say cut off all contact, give yourself time to get over her, don't seem that bad since u could cut off contact before for so long.

yeh your right, i can do it since i did it before without any breaks, it took courage and it was the right thing to doo, and she did contact me again, so im going to tell her again. im just going to wait for her to talk to me and then imma tell her, after that im going to cut her off all contacts and then try my very best to forget her and move on, its gonna take at least a few months though like 6ish

 

[sexy_kuta]

i would cut her off and next her, as i did LOTs to before but something about her ... something tells me that its not offically over and that i cant next her,
shes basicly the first confiddent girl i've met, she played no minds before was straight up

but i'll check her out after a few months goes by to see whenever she changes or not

 

[sexy_kuta]

this has been bugging my mind, if someone would clearly explain it would be awesome,

why did she change? like changed totally, to turn out to be disrespect without me doing anything bad to her, i never got her mad, how could she do me like that

im fine with the whole distance thing, im not trippin over the fact shes not beside me.. its just that how she disrepsect me like that, fuking makes me sick inside, how a girl can do me like that