the_stig
Senior Don Juan
Her calls/texts aren't as often, as enthusiastic, she isn't as eager to see you or please you. What's the most effective move a DJ can make to salvage the situation?
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
No truer words were ever spoken.Mantis Toboggan said:Attention is currency.
charlie647 said:I'm in a similar situation - my question is how much to back off? I mean, you can go all the way from just flat out waiting for her to contact you, to maybe sending her a text every few days just to say "hi". If you completely back off, will she get the impression that YOU have no interest and in return lose interest herself?
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I had to bold big all of those reasons!!! That sh*t needs to go in the bible! For the perfect answer that will fix things perfectly; Fame and fortune.bukowski_merit said:Falcon got it right.
But, if her IL is down - there's a reason, and you need to figure out what that reason is, and MAKE SURE you work on that with the next one! There's generally 4 reasons a girl loses interest: 1) You're too nice/too much of a push over. --- 2) You're too available to her. --- 3) You're not leading the relationship (letting her make all the choices.) --- 4) You're too needy/crowding her!.... There's also a 5th reason, and that one is ANOTHER GUY! (i'd say this is 50% of the time, but is' out of your control; the other 4 are in your control.)
In short - you're not a challenge to her.
Falcon said to make her jealous. And honestly, in all my years - that is the only sure fire way to get things done. IF she sees you with another woman - the beast will be unleashed! You will not see a gradual increase in her IL, you will see a huge increase in her IL. ~Field Tested~
If you're looking for the perfect answer, that will fix things perfectly - there isn't one.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Here's a good read on the subject:Rollo Tomassi said:In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least.