How to change while staying myself?

[GuyWithAProblem]

I can say that I really enjoy my life and until something terrible happens I will continue to do it. Previously I was usually depressed for no reason until something cool happened. Now I am usually happy (also for no reason) and when something cool happens, I'm simply euphoric.

Sometimes I think I could be totally happy if I became asexual. I obviously want to have success with girls, but honestly I'm not feeling very optimistic about that, because I don't see many signals from girls. They're like "yeah, you're a funny guy and you can be cool, but you get very irritating sometimes and I wouldn't like to spend a lot of time with you".

I don't really believe that having a fun and positive personality is enough to get girls. I need to buy some better clothes (I really have no taste at all) and get more serious about working out.

About wanking - I lasted 6 days without it. That's too short to feel effects, but yesterday I became too horny to focus on learning, so I simply had to wank.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

You're right about being positive and fun isn't gonna get you girls alone. Why would they be anything else than friends with you then?
You gotta provide the dominance and leadership and all that yada. Not clothes.

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

Yeah, leadership, that's a tough thing. Now even my 13-year old sister tells me what to do. You need to have competence to be a leader in anything and I definitely lack that.

So sometimes I think it's good that I don't have a girlfriend, because she would be ruling me in the same way that my little sister does. That's quite pathetic : /.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

You live and learn, eh

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

I suppose I can provide leadership if I become a real man first. I can become truly confident only if I keep on working on my goals. Most of people I know are convinced that I won't get a driver license, I'll prove them wrong. Only if I become a man I'll really start to think about getting laid (I strongly believe that sex is NOT for children, and by "children" I don't just mean people under 18. I also believe that being sexually successful can't make anyone a real man).

I see a gradual change in the way I behave. If, as Mystery said, "the number one characteristic of an alpha male is the smile" then I'm definitely the meanest mother****a in my school. It's actually a honest smile, because now I can get happy with no reason. Because of this, I became even more annoying for some people, but I don't care. Some people are like "why the **** are you so happy and contend with yourself?" or "why are you feeling so too-cool-to all-to-give-a-**** of a sudden?".

While I have a more positive image of myself now, people who already know for me some time but aren't my good friends (i.e. everyone from my class) still mainly remember my embarassments and notice my weird quirks. When I embarass myself I show them that I don't really give a damn and I even laugh along with them. But while I don't think much about this stuff anymore, they remind me of this things all the time. Eh, after all it's just two more months with them.

I can't convince everybody to have the same opinion of myself as I have. After all, I'm the same guy as I've always been, I'm just no longer apologetic about it in any way.

I have one friend who helped me A LOT, but when I show him a chick that I would like to spend some time with, he's like "nah, she's too cool for you". I guess that's just his realism, but too much realism is sometimes bad.

It's much better with people who don't know me very well. I can make a good impression on them, being fun and smiling. My friends introduced me to some younger cute chicks and they obviously enjoyed my presence. I would like to meet some new people but my city is small, weather have been constantly crappy for the last few months and my mobile phone broke down, so I can't go too far away from my home.

I changed the way I behave, but the things I do remained more or less the same. I'm still what you call AFC and honestly I'm not surprised that I don't get much respect - what did I do to earn it? I need to achieve my goals and become more manly. I need to have more manliness in the very core of me. I don't know, maybe I should start to work out harder and get ripped like this Anthony Ellis guy.

It's hard with girls, because I simply don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I want to have a "serious" girlfriend or just meet girls casually. The problem with the former is that most girls I meet seem to don't have the kind of personality that makes me want spend a lot time with them. The problem with the latter is that I don't have any experience. I don't know how to dance or kiss. I only know how to talk (all my friends tell me this).

I don't know, maybe I just need to wait until spring starts. Now I'll probably just continue doing what I'm doing now.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Are you aware of how much you've changed since you started this thread!? Keep it going!

I think your main focus right now should be to continue taking right action IN THE MOMENT. I think you might be focusing (and possibly postponing?) too much on the future. Realize that it's what you do now, every day, that matters in the future.

As for the girls, just continue meeting new ones. Put in some effort and actually set up a meet up with one you seem to like. If you end up not liking her, then end it. Its completely your choice.

 

[lifejourney]

Hey guys,

as you can see from my nickname, I'm a guy with a problem. In fact, I have A LOT of problems and none of them are big - it's just that somehow even small problems somehow become big for me.

I'm a 18 years old guy from small town in Poland. Since I remember, I always been the worst at everything. When I was a young child, everybody was better at sports, better at games like checkers or scrabble. I couldn't stand constant losing, so I just stopped competing. I was often acting weirdly and talking to myself loudly, so older boys were making fun of me. In elementary school, I was bullied by boys from my class.

I hated my peers, so I escaped into my own world. Just like most boys, I started getting interested in computer and computer games, but my real passion became books. I started to read a lot, and after some time I realized that I'm not really inferior to my peers - I'm more knowledgeable, more creative and more sensitive than all of them (I know many of you propably think that sensitivity is a bad thing, but I disagree).

When I was 6-13, I was scared to death of girls. I still don't understand why - they weren't mean to me and they always wanted to talk to me, but I was very shy and I didn't know how to act around them.
In junior high I wasn't bullied anymore. I just couldn't get any respect. I've became friends with older boys who protected me from bullies, but I was unconfident and I looked like a freak. Once again, I realized that I hate most of my peers. In junior high, I already became sort of a young intellectual, but people in my school were terrifyingly shallow. It seemed like everyone was only interested in stupid things. At this time, I wasn't really interested in girls. A lot of my friends had girlfriends, but the only thing I did with girls was insulting them. At times, I just couldn't stand their shallowness. Unfortunately, in small towns there aren't many young girls who are interested in anything other than parties and boys... There were some intelligent girls, but they were older and I was afraid to talk to them. There was one girl I was attracted to, but I was afraid to say "hi" to her! She was a year older than me, so I obviously I was too scared to talk to her, even though she seemed to like me. Because of this shyness, lack of confidence and less-than-satisfactory grades my self-esteem was very low. I was like "yeah, I'm super-educated, but I can't even talk to girl I like and I can't get decent grades!".

Now I'm in the last year of high school, and I haven't even kissed a girl! My personality developed into a weird mix of stubborn indivuality and annoying clumsiness. I'm a guy who just can't do anything right - I often forget about important things, I can sometimes get lost in my small city, I can't talk to people and I always say the least appropiate things.
Over the years, I stopped caring about myself. I only washed myself one or two times a week and I didn't get any sport. It all changed when I became horny. I started to practice 3 times a week and I wash myself everyday. To be honest, I wouldn't do it if not for my friends. They convinced me to take care of my hygiene and forced me to practice. Yeah, one of my friends forces me to do it, because often I just don't want to practice! Of course, I'm always grateful to him after we finish.

I often try to convince myself that I don't need a girl to be happy, but the truth is that I masturbate at least once a day. I really want to have a girlfriend, but most girls seem to hate me! I really don't know what to do. I'm still a stubborn individualist and I don't really want to change that, but people seem to can't stand me because of that. I usually really don't care about stuff most people find very important, and I might seem carefree, but that attutide always gives me terrible results. Sometimes I get so depressed that I want to erase myself from existence.

Recently I've started to read all those sites with advice how to get women and I became absolutely terrified. What I learned is that the only way to have success with girls is to completely change who I am! They told me that I need to become an arrogant bad boy and honestly, I'm not sure that's who I want to be. I respect women and I don't want to treat them as nothing more than sex objects. I don't need to get laid with different girl every week, I only want to meet one girl with whom I would be happy! In other words, I don't want to become something I'm not, I just want to become a better version of who I am now. I really like my geekiness and sensitivity, I don't want to completely get rid of that!

I said that I don't want to change who I am, but sometimes I think there is something wrong deep inside of me and girls instinctively recognize that. After all, there must be a reason why I was never able to succeed at anything and that's why girls don't want to have anything to do with me! I'm afraid that even if I'll make my body look great and start to dress fashionably and appear confident, they will always recognize a loser inside of me. You tell me to become more sure of myself, but that won't make my flaws go away! So what, should I just pretend that they don't exist? Everytime I try to do that, it ends badly but when I try to think what to do about them, I just can't find any solution. For example, today I had to practice traditional polish dance with my studniowka partner (studniowka is something like polish version of prom night) and she is embarassed with my lack of dancing skills. She doesn't want to go with me anymore, and she's one of the least popular girls in my class! It's not like many boys want to go with her. I may pretend that I don't care, but that won't improve my dancing skills! I may also just learn to dance, but I'm not optimistic about that. There are some boys who never danced this dance before, but somehow managed to avoid embarassing themselves. I know this is not a big problem, but I'm just that kind of person - small problems always become big for me.

So, I would like to get some advice from you. I really want to stop being an enemy for girls and I want to find a girlfriend, but I don't want to start pretending to be someone I'm not. I just want to show girls my best qualities!
If you're interested, I can tell you about tell about some girls in my school, including one that I really want to get. But this post is already very long!

Alright buddy, I've been through everything you just wrote in your first post. I was just like you high school, didn't have many friends, shy, etc. I was also intimidated by girls. I've read all the self help books, and seduction stuff.

Honestly the best thing to do is to be yourself, but really embrace who you really are at the root. At the core, I too am a bit of a geek before my only interest was computers. But I also like cars, dancing, singing, martial arts, and working out and much more. You have to round out your personality and interests. Of course taking care of your hygyene is a great way to start.

You say you want a girl friend, but to do so you must be able to talk to "a girl". Back in my high school days I could barely talk to a girl. Now I'm in college and I talk to all the girls, hell valentines day was not too long ago. I knew a girl in my class for less than a week and I gave her flowers for valentines day and she went on a date with me. You just have to be more social, eventually you just the hang of it. Then talking to girls or anyone for that matter becomes easy.

I admit I'm a bit hardcore, I live life as if everyday we're my last day on Earth. If I see a girl I'm interested in, I will approach her, talk to her, and get to know her. Whatever happens next depends on whether I like her or not.

Honestly, just don't worry about it too much, theres a light at the end of the tunnel just hang in there.

 

[lifejourney]

Hey guys,

as you can see from my nickname, I'm a guy with a problem. In fact, I have A LOT of problems and none of them are big - it's just that somehow even small problems somehow become big for me.

I'm a 18 years old guy from small town in Poland. Since I remember, I always been the worst at everything. When I was a young child, everybody was better at sports, better at games like checkers or scrabble. I couldn't stand constant losing, so I just stopped competing. I was often acting weirdly and talking to myself loudly, so older boys were making fun of me. In elementary school, I was bullied by boys from my class.

I hated my peers, so I escaped into my own world. Just like most boys, I started getting interested in computer and computer games, but my real passion became books. I started to read a lot, and after some time I realized that I'm not really inferior to my peers - I'm more knowledgeable, more creative and more sensitive than all of them (I know many of you propably think that sensitivity is a bad thing, but I disagree).

When I was 6-13, I was scared to death of girls. I still don't understand why - they weren't mean to me and they always wanted to talk to me, but I was very shy and I didn't know how to act around them.
In junior high I wasn't bullied anymore. I just couldn't get any respect. I've became friends with older boys who protected me from bullies, but I was unconfident and I looked like a freak. Once again, I realized that I hate most of my peers. In junior high, I already became sort of a young intellectual, but people in my school were terrifyingly shallow. It seemed like everyone was only interested in stupid things. At this time, I wasn't really interested in girls. A lot of my friends had girlfriends, but the only thing I did with girls was insulting them. At times, I just couldn't stand their shallowness. Unfortunately, in small towns there aren't many young girls who are interested in anything other than parties and boys... There were some intelligent girls, but they were older and I was afraid to talk to them. There was one girl I was attracted to, but I was afraid to say "hi" to her! She was a year older than me, so I obviously I was too scared to talk to her, even though she seemed to like me. Because of this shyness, lack of confidence and less-than-satisfactory grades my self-esteem was very low. I was like "yeah, I'm super-educated, but I can't even talk to girl I like and I can't get decent grades!".

Now I'm in the last year of high school, and I haven't even kissed a girl! My personality developed into a weird mix of stubborn indivuality and annoying clumsiness. I'm a guy who just can't do anything right - I often forget about important things, I can sometimes get lost in my small city, I can't talk to people and I always say the least appropiate things.
Over the years, I stopped caring about myself. I only washed myself one or two times a week and I didn't get any sport. It all changed when I became horny. I started to practice 3 times a week and I wash myself everyday. To be honest, I wouldn't do it if not for my friends. They convinced me to take care of my hygiene and forced me to practice. Yeah, one of my friends forces me to do it, because often I just don't want to practice! Of course, I'm always grateful to him after we finish.

I often try to convince myself that I don't need a girl to be happy, but the truth is that I masturbate at least once a day. I really want to have a girlfriend, but most girls seem to hate me! I really don't know what to do. I'm still a stubborn individualist and I don't really want to change that, but people seem to can't stand me because of that. I usually really don't care about stuff most people find very important, and I might seem carefree, but that attutide always gives me terrible results. Sometimes I get so depressed that I want to erase myself from existence.

Recently I've started to read all those sites with advice how to get women and I became absolutely terrified. What I learned is that the only way to have success with girls is to completely change who I am! They told me that I need to become an arrogant bad boy and honestly, I'm not sure that's who I want to be. I respect women and I don't want to treat them as nothing more than sex objects. I don't need to get laid with different girl every week, I only want to meet one girl with whom I would be happy! In other words, I don't want to become something I'm not, I just want to become a better version of who I am now. I really like my geekiness and sensitivity, I don't want to completely get rid of that!

I said that I don't want to change who I am, but sometimes I think there is something wrong deep inside of me and girls instinctively recognize that. After all, there must be a reason why I was never able to succeed at anything and that's why girls don't want to have anything to do with me! I'm afraid that even if I'll make my body look great and start to dress fashionably and appear confident, they will always recognize a loser inside of me. You tell me to become more sure of myself, but that won't make my flaws go away! So what, should I just pretend that they don't exist? Everytime I try to do that, it ends badly but when I try to think what to do about them, I just can't find any solution. For example, today I had to practice traditional polish dance with my studniowka partner (studniowka is something like polish version of prom night) and she is embarassed with my lack of dancing skills. She doesn't want to go with me anymore, and she's one of the least popular girls in my class! It's not like many boys want to go with her. I may pretend that I don't care, but that won't improve my dancing skills! I may also just learn to dance, but I'm not optimistic about that. There are some boys who never danced this dance before, but somehow managed to avoid embarassing themselves. I know this is not a big problem, but I'm just that kind of person - small problems always become big for me.

So, I would like to get some advice from you. I really want to stop being an enemy for girls and I want to find a girlfriend, but I don't want to start pretending to be someone I'm not. I just want to show girls my best qualities!
If you're interested, I can tell you about tell about some girls in my school, including one that I really want to get. But this post is already very long!

Alright buddy, I've been through everything you just wrote in your first post. I was just like you high school, didn't have many friends, shy, etc. I was also intimidated by girls. I've read all the self help books, and seduction stuff.

Honestly the best thing to do is to be yourself, but really embrace who you really are at the root. At the core, I too am a bit of a geek before my only interest was computers. But I also like cars, dancing, singing, martial arts, and working out and much more. You have to round out your personality and interests. Of course taking care of your hygyene is a great way to start.

You say you want a girl friend, but to do so you must be able to talk to "a girl". Back in my high school days I could barely talk to a girl. Now I'm in college and I talk to all the girls, hell valentines day was not too long ago. I knew a girl in my class for less than a week and I gave her flowers for valentines day and she went on a date with me. You just have to be more social, eventually you just the hang of it. Then talking to girls or anyone for that matter becomes easy.

I admit I'm a bit hardcore, I live life as if everyday we're my last day on Earth. If I see a girl I'm interested in, I will approach her, talk to her, and get to know her. Whatever happens next depends on whether I like her or not.

Honestly, just don't worry about it too much, theres a light at the end of the tunnel just hang in there.

 

[lifejourney]

I suppose I can provide leadership if I become a real man first. I can become truly confident only if I keep on working on my goals. Most of people I know are convinced that I won't get a driver license, I'll prove them wrong. Only if I become a man I'll really start to think about getting laid (I strongly believe that sex is NOT for children, and by "children" I don't just mean people under 18. I also believe that being sexually successful can't make anyone a real man).

I see a gradual change in the way I behave. If, as Mystery said, "the number one characteristic of an alpha male is the smile" then I'm definitely the meanest mother****a in my school. It's actually a honest smile, because now I can get happy with no reason. Because of this, I became even more annoying for some people, but I don't care. Some people are like "why the **** are you so happy and contend with yourself?" or "why are you feeling so too-cool-to all-to-give-a-**** of a sudden?".

While I have a more positive image of myself now, people who already know for me some time but aren't my good friends (i.e. everyone from my class) still mainly remember my embarassments and notice my weird quirks. When I embarass myself I show them that I don't really give a damn and I even laugh along with them. But while I don't think much about this stuff anymore, they remind me of this things all the time. Eh, after all it's just two more months with them.

I can't convince everybody to have the same opinion of myself as I have. After all, I'm the same guy as I've always been, I'm just no longer apologetic about it in any way.

I have one friend who helped me A LOT, but when I show him a chick that I would like to spend some time with, he's like "nah, she's too cool for you". I guess that's just his realism, but too much realism is sometimes bad.

It's much better with people who don't know me very well. I can make a good impression on them, being fun and smiling. My friends introduced me to some younger cute chicks and they obviously enjoyed my presence. I would like to meet some new people but my city is small, weather have been constantly crappy for the last few months and my mobile phone broke down, so I can't go too far away from my home.

I changed the way I behave, but the things I do remained more or less the same. I'm still what you call AFC and honestly I'm not surprised that I don't get much respect - what did I do to earn it? I need to achieve my goals and become more manly. I need to have more manliness in the very core of me. I don't know, maybe I should start to work out harder and get ripped like this Anthony Ellis guy.

It's hard with girls, because I simply don't know what to do. I'm not sure if I want to have a "serious" girlfriend or just meet girls casually. The problem with the former is that most girls I meet seem to don't have the kind of personality that makes me want spend a lot time with them. The problem with the latter is that I don't have any experience. I don't know how to dance or kiss. I only know how to talk (all my friends tell me this).

I don't know, maybe I just need to wait until spring starts. Now I'll probably just continue doing what I'm doing now.

Honestly high school, screw what people thing of you and just do your thing. Its like 2-3 years since I graduated. You'll never see those people again.

You have to workout, you have to embrace your masculine core. Real men, go out do physical things, we lift **** all day, hell I work on my car my arms gets sore every day.

Getting rid of awkwardness for me took a long time, me and my friend would go out to clubs and dances. Even with girls I screwed **** up many times. But hey thats how you learn. And even to this day I wouldn't regret any of it. The price of the lesson learned is usually worth the moment or two of embarassment.

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

Wow, I didn't think that my new attitude will make me enemies. I was walking through a hall with a wide smile on my face and one guy who always disliked me told me something like "why the **** are you smiling so wide? you're such a loser!" and I replied him that a guy as *****-whipped as he is shouldn't be criticizing anyone. So he threatened that he will beat my ass (he's rather wimpy so it's not like I was scared). I started to do everything to annoy him - smiling even more widely and going to him and telling him to chill out. Now he told me that I shouldn't even come to school tomorrow because he'll totally beat my ass with few friends. WOW, HE'S SUCH A GANGSTA. I'M SO AFRAID OF HIM.

But to be honest, I'll try to avoid fighting cause I'm not much a tough guy, but if it won't be possible I'll try to do my best to beat this loser's ass.

Lifejourney, you're right. I won't be seeing those people again and I know I can't do anything to make them like me. I mean, in first two years of high school I didn't even bother to care about my hygiene. Now I do it, but some people still don't want to even shake my hand because they worry that it's dirty.

There's just a million things that I screwed up at first. I can't repair all of it. It makes my situation hard (remember that I live in small town where everybody knows me) and that's why I mainly stick to caring about myself, studying and preparing for university. My newfound positivity is partly caused by the fact that there are only two months left.

But then, even my family tells me that my smile is unnatural. I am definitely overdoing this.

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

I went to a concert in my town's only club and I really enjoyed it. I tried to do something with chicks and once again I failed. I had such a great time overall that I can't complain.

I don't want to analyze this stuff too much, it's really not that complicated. I'll just try again until I'll have some success. As I've said, I'm really good at talking but not very good at taking action. When I have a conversation with girls, I can make them laugh and all that, but when it comes to asking for something as simple as a goddamn dance, I'm totally hopeless. When I manage to make people interested in me, I can make most of it, being entertaining and witty. Girls love my freestyle rapping. I'm not saying I'm a great rapper or anything, but I when I see a girl, I get a lot of inspiration. If I sit right beside a girl, I try to sit as close as possible and touch her a lot, but that's the only kind of 'kino' that I can do.

I had this situation - I wanted to ask a girl (who's sort of a cool friend of mine) for a dance, but she was very drunk and it seemed like she was totally in her own world. I tried to ask her for a dance, but she didn't seem to hear me. Then a guy came and just took her to dancefloor. I should have been furious at him, but this site taught me one thing, which is not to be angry at guys who are more successful than me.

If something like that happened to me few months ago, I would just start whining for next three days. But damn, it's not what I do anymore, there's just too much good stuff in the world to complain. I just need to man up. I don't know, I probably need more testosterone, but I don't know how to increase it. Maybe I still don't do enough sports or maybe still I have too low self-esteem. Or maybe I wank too much. What I know is that my lack of success actually motivates me in a weird way.

Right now I'm something like 'happy loser'. Some people think that I have a miserable life, because I don't have a girlfriend and my status is not very high, but I make most of every positive thing that happens in my life and I will keep on improving myself.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Keep on going dude, I like where you're heading. Just remember that you do have to take action before you gain the confidence to do it. Just this will make you improve much faster.

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

It's been a few weeks since I wrote anything here. I didn't made any progress. I have a lot of learning to do, but honestly I could be learning more or I could spend some time chasing girls and still learn enough.

I don't know, I just can't feel confident around girls (man, it's getting so old). I'm always thinking that I could do something cool in presence of a girl and then something tells me "it would work if SOMEONE ELSE done that, but you're not good enough".

My only idea of 'kino' is hugging girls. I basically go and hug every girl that doesn't hate me. Maybe it's getting creepy. There was one girl that was cute and nice to me, but when I asked her if she wants to go out with me on weekend, she replied negatively. Maybe I'm asking in a wrong way. I didn't have an idea where to take her and I didn't have any money, so I asked her if she would like to come to my house, that was propably stupid idea.

Today I saw a girl and told my friends that she has a great ass. They told me to tell it to her and eventually I did it, but I didn't do or say anything afterwards.

I'm always afraid that I don't look or smell good enough. I may be right when I think that I don't smell because I do have a little problem with holding my urine. I know I should go to doctor and buy some perfume, but I'm too busy with learning right now.

I can't say I'm not pissed off about this. Even a biggest idiot can get a girl, it doesn't require superhuman skill. It makes me look a total fool.

 

[lili19771]

brb while i read your little novel

 

[Theminatar]

**** we're almost similar, lol. Who cares if you're a loser, are you happy?

 

[lili19771]

Good stuff, you've changed a lot. You should keep up with that positive attitude. Maybe the reason girls enjoy you but won't even do a dance is because they see you too much as a friend.

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

Few days ago a girl from my class (her name is Martyna) was absent, so I asked her friend "where is she? she always cheers me up!". So Martyna found out about this and now all she's telling me is "you're so nice and sweet!". Yesterday she wrote about that on my facebook wall. I wrote "remember that a man can't be too nice and sweet... now I will have to annoy you somehow!" and she responded "you are not capable of doing that to me".

I'm afraid she's right. I really like her - she's bright, positive and energetic. I think that maybe I could try to make her my girlfriend, but I will probably just end up as a friend.

I know that you will tell me that being called "nice" is not such a good thing, but maybe it's not such a bad starting point?

I also know that I shouldn't be paying that much attention to what girls say and more to what they do. I remember when I wanted to ask her for a dance (she was drunk as ****) and I did it like a total *****, so she ignored me and few minutes later she was dancing with another guy.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

I'm afraid she's right. I really like her - she's bright, positive and energetic. I think that maybe I could try to make her my girlfriend, but I will probably just end up as a friend.

Do not see your logic.

What will happen if you dont do anything?

Now go do it.

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

Forget about her. I tried to touch her just a little bit and she was absolutely terrified (and I really didn't overdo it, trust me).

Next week will be last week of high school for me. Finally I won't be forced to meet people who don't like me (I mean of course most of my class) and I can focus on people who enjoy me, including girls who don't find me creepy.

 

[GuyWithAProblem]

After few months of unsuccessful drunken advances to various girls, I decided to call a girl from my class for a meeting. I've spent almost two hours sitting in a park with her, which is not exactly my idea of an exciting afternoon. She's definitely willing to spend some time with me again, though.

I'm not sure I'm in her friend zone. I used to try to get her, but she was always with a really annoying guy who always followed her and was pretty obsessive about her. Now she doesn't hang out with him often, so it's now not so difficult to have a talk with her.

I wonder how to get her all flirty. I tried to establish some kino, but it was a rather shy attempt.