How to better deflect the age question?!

[DJDamage]

I was at a party over the weekend and I ran into this nice blonde chick from Germany who has only been here for like 4 months. Anyways I am 30 but I look about 24-25 and this chick I think was around 18-20 years old. So we started talking and she was digging me, lots of IOI's and I ended up closing her and getting her number.

Now the only small hitch that has happen during the interaction was her asking me how old I was. I realised recently as I was getting up a bit in age and still try to mack on women in their early 20's (what can I say I love them younger) that if a girl is younger then me by at least 7 years or more and me being 30, that stating my real age has lowered their interest in their eyes because they assumed that I was much younger then that and closer to their age.

The conversation with the German chick went something like this (after I took her number)

German chick: "hey by the way how old are you?"
Me: "I am 57 years old"
German chick: "haha noo really how old are you"
Me: "ok ok you got me I am a bit younger I am 42 years old but I look younger because I discovered the fountain of youth in South America"
German chick: "why don't you want to tell me your age?"
Me:" some things are more personal just like asking a person you barley know, how much they weigh but when you will get to know me better then I promise will let you know"
German Chick: "but i really want to know now!!??"(still smiling)
Me: (changing the topic) "hey what are you drinking? my cup is all empty and yours is all full, that's not fair!, let me get something to drink first!

so there was some deflection which wasn't very smooth from my part but if I see her again this topic will come up again, so should I just be honest right away next time I see her? and what should I have said from the get go?! I really want to tell her my real age after I raise her interest levels then me even higher.

 

[DavenJuan]

LIE

The likelyhood of her being 100% honest with you and an open book is slim anyway. IMO, it doesnt really matter what you say to any chic if you dont plan on starting a relationship and just trying to get laid.

on the other hand, if you are looking for something a bit more serious then be honest. what good will come if you tell her a lie and then later on she finds out and its a dealbreaker?

im curious though, where are you going where you are around tons of 18-20 year olds anyway?

 

[DJNiceGuy]

I feel like deflecting makes it seem like a bigger deal when it is brought up later. I've had this issue too, where older girls try to screen me out especially. I usually just say it, then move right on. Now if you are definitely just looking to get laid that night then you could lie if it seems believable. I'm 27, and if I were to lie, I'd feel comfortable with 24-30 range.

 

[CGE333]

I had one woman asking me that when I was around 33 and she was early 20's. I told her to guess and she said 26-27. I told her that was a good guess and left it at that. That was a woman I just wanted to have some fun with- not LTR material.

If she is LTR material, go ahead and tell her like you are proud of it. For all you know she is sick and tired of dating immature punks that are her own age.

 

[amoka]

Yup, I brought a 19 y.o home couple of weeks ago and put me in the "24-26" age bracket. I told her, "nice guess. just turned 25".

 

[Slickster]

tell the truth and bug her about being too young for you.

 

[jonwon]

tell the truth and bug her about being too young for you.

Slickster is spot on here.

Just break this down:

German chick: "hey by the way how old are you?"
Me: "I am 57 years old"
German chick: "haha noo really how old are you"
Me: "ok ok you got me I am a bit younger I am 42 years old but I look younger because I discovered the fountain of youth in South America"
German chick: "why don't you want to tell me your age?"
Me:" some things are more personal just like asking a person you barley know, how much they weigh but when you will get to know me better then I promise will let you know"
German Chick: "but i really want to know now!!??"(still smiling)
Me: (changing the topic) "hey what are you drinking? my cup is all empty and yours is all full, that's not fair!, let me get something to drink first!


Your effort was complimentary trying to be ****y and funny, but it also has undertones of seeking approval, like you really care about the outcome and her opinion of you. An Alpha guy (the term is useful), would not care about how she felt about him, he is more concerned about how he feels about her.

Hence has slickster said, the best way to handle this is to flip it around and make her qualify herself.

Here are things I have used.

Her
How old are you.

You
Guess

She could be spot on or be a few years younger, if she is a few years younger, say with a smile, yeh your right i am that age. One girl told me I was 29, I said, "Yeh i'm 29".

If she say's your older, look at her with that sort of 'you didn't just say that look'.

If she guesses your exact age, look at her without any apology and say, great guess that's spot on.

You'll be suprised how often younger girls will say 'I like an older Man'. But only when the man is comfortable and doesn't make apologies for who he is.#

Tust me her interest level was high enough already, otherwise after this:

German chick: "why don't you want to tell me your age?"
Me:" some things are more personal just like asking a person you barley know, how much they weigh but when you will get to know me better then I promise will let you know"

She would have got bored or walked. She probed further meaning this bump, was ignored due to her high interest level. Seriously though, keep the ****y stuff, but drop the serious stuff over something so trivial. It comes across like you have hang up's, it shows weakness.

 

[jophil28]

A couple of years ago I was in a club chatting to a late 20 something HB who acted as if she were doing me a favor by gracing me with her royal presence.

HB, "So how old are you Jophil." ( with that smug look on her face)

Jophil," Hmm, i usually only divulge that to women who are in my life."

HB, " OH, so I am NOT in your life? "

Jophil," Are you applying for a position? How old are you BTW?"

HB, " I am almost 30. Actually, I'm 28 ."

Jophil," I prefer women with more experience. What your mother's email ?"

HB," MY mom is happily married to my dad. I am old enough to date you... look here " (she produces DL )

Jophil ( checks her DL details )," I was going to offer you a chance to drive me to the Casino later but you look too ill to drive ..ha ha . Can I see some other ID with a better photo - maybe your Blockbuster card?"

HB," You are a real AZZ....I still want to know how old you are ? "

Jophil," Here is a clue - when I am as old as Clint Eastwood I will be 79." ( Jophil grins and walks away)
HB and friend look at each other trying to figure out what I just said.

 

[synergy1]

I am in the same situation as people usually guess between 5-7 years lower. I make them guess, and if they don't get it right I don't even tell them. By the time girls are asking my age, they are already into me so it doesn't really matter I suppose.

How to deflect? Have fun. Your only in your 30s once

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Her: "How old are you?"

You: "Oh, don't worry, I'm legal now."

 

[Mike32ct]

This is field tested. Ask her to guess your age. She will tell you how old she wants you to be. If she guessed super low, bump it up by one year. See below.

HB: How old are you Mike?
Mike: Guess.
HB: 25.
Mike: <yeah right. No way.>. You're close. I'm 26.
HB: ok cool.

 

[zekko]

Jophil," Here is a clue - when I am as old as Clint Eastwood I will be 79." ( Jophil grins and walks away)
HB and friend look at each other trying to figure out what I just said.

Jophil, your stories seem to always end with you one-upping the girl somehow, or outwitting them, blowing them off, or chucking them into the friend zone just to mess with them. But where's the F close? Where's the part where you sweep the girl off her feet back to your bedroom? I'm not saying you're not getting any, because that's not what I mean. I'm just saying I'd like to see a story with a "happy ending" once in a while.

 

[jophil28]

Jophil, your stories seem to always end with you one-upping the girl somehow, or outwitting them, blowing them off, or chucking them into the friend zone just to mess with them. But where's the F close? Where's the part where you sweep the girl off her feet back to your bedroom? I'm not saying you're not getting any, because that's not what I mean. I'm just saying I'd like to see a story with a "happy ending" once in a while.

Ha ha - yeah Zekko,

Actually I did have such a "happy ending" last Friday night.,but I am way too modest and too 'ole school to reveal the intimate details ...he he.

DANGER rightly recognized the rapid 'qualifying' switch that happened . She started off trying to 'frame' me into dancing to her tune- it seems to be an habitually ploy by attractive women.
Then she spent most of the convo qualifying herself to me.
Thanks, SS.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

if she asks how old you are, she's interested, but she's qualifying you. The trick is to quickly sieze control of the frame, and qualify her, but indicate that she may be too young, and make her try and qualify herself. This can be done in a variety of ways depending on the situation. If you try and "deflect," then you're buying into her "qualifying" frame.

As if it's a valid question, as if she even has the right to quality you.

She doesn't.

You are older, successful, and realize there are plenty of girls out there, so naturally you only spend time with girls that aren't going to run you through a list of items on an imaginary sheet to satisfy their insecurities.

Her: How old are you?
You: Pause. "yea, I was thinking the same thing. You're probably right."
Her: huh?
You: "You probably are too young for me. Do you have have any older friends?"

Give a different meaning to her question before you even decide to answer it, in such a way that if she presses the question, she automatically disqualifies herself.

Another trick is to keep in mind a couple of celebrities that you are pretty she'd have sex with if they came walking in, that are a couple of years older than you.

Her: How old are you?
You: a year younger than (celebrity she'd fukk if given the chance)

And then change to a qualifying question of her, so you're not standing there like a doofus waiting for her approval of your answer.

You're world, you're frame. She is lucky to get in. Have that attitude, and you won't have a problem.

 

[DJDamage]

update:

well I called her and the conversation wasn't very good.

- She forgot who's number was it that was calling, I had to tell her my name.

- her answers were short and snappy.

- When I suggested we should do something for a particular day, she said she is thinking that she is doing something with a friend that day and she needs to ask him and she will get back to me through text or facebook (she doesn't even have me on her facebook).

basically B.S all the way.

I guess I learned a few things and the age part wasn't as important as the rest of my gaming strategy with a much younger woman:

- During the party I left her talk to other people and lost the momentum of the convo, what I should have done is to increase my kino and maybe try to escalate for a kiss close in the party, she may have in fact also got other numbers and did something with someone when I left the party 2 hours earlier thus losing out.