how to become the man of my dreams?

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I was talking to my friend who I respect a lot as far as psychology and girls.

I told him that when I see a hot girl I get nervous talking to her because I feel like I am beneath her or she is higher than me in value.

He said "you should become the man of your dreams and all of that will go away"

I don't know what that means. On another occasion, I told him to clarify and he said "when did I tell you this? what were we talking about when I told you this?" I told him about the nervousness and he said something vague that I dont understand, he said "do things that you enjoy" he made me even more confused because I don't know what that has to do with becoming the man of my dreams.

What does he mean by "become the man of your dreams?"
 

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I was talking to my friend who I respect a lot as far as psychology and girls.

I told him that when I see a hot girl I get nervous talking to her because I feel like I am beneath her or she is higher than me in value.

He said "you should become the man of your dreams and all of that will go away"

I don't know what that means. On another occasion, I told him to clarify and he said "when did I tell you this? what were we talking about when I told you this?" I told him about the nervousness and he said something vague that I dont understand, he said "do things that you enjoy" he made me even more confused because I don't know what that has to do with becoming the man of my dreams.

What does he mean by "become the man of your dreams?"
He doesn't mean anything by it. Want he's basically telling you is that you can't have someone else to teach you how to overcome your awkwardness. You have to do it yourself, through trial and error. There are no shortcuts for things like that.
 

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This is just a form of "the power of positive thinking" and the fact that you must think you can achieve before you can achieve.
 

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”A lion doesn’t fear a gazelle”
”Be a lion”
 

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I'm guessing what he meant was to imagine the ideal man, the man who wouldn't be beneath that girl, the man you would like to be.
Then become that man.
 

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No need to overAnaliyze op. Just improve in all areas of your life
 

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Kudos for asking this.

Pick a notebook.
Divide it into:
- Physique: General fitness
- Wealth : Financial fitness
- Love : Current rotation/approaches
- Style : Fashion/Voice

Write down what you worked on a particular day, measure changes/growth every month.
 
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