Durden Tyler said:
I have been coming to this site for years and have done some soul searching (why it took years to figure anything out, who the fvck knows) and realized my main issue is not approaching but being able to converse, having something creative to talk about. Then I thought more and really realized, I'm not a creative person in general.
Neither am I. If a girl is interested in you she'll laugh at the "Why do firemen wear red suspenders" joke. I used to think that stories you told a girl when you first met her had to be true. But then I realized that not every guy is an adventurer whose been to the north pole. Sometimes it's ok to take a story you've heard from someone else and fit it to yourself. When I was younger I used to write good stories down in a little notebook. Then when I was sitting around bored I'd read the stories and change them a bit to make them fit to me. After reading them over and over they'd become a strong part of my memory and I'd be able to pull them out when I needed them.
Here on this site, I read what ones ideas are and think, man that's an intelligent person, how in the hell did he come up with that? Being ****y and funny is all a bunch of sh!t if you can't come up with something quick. There are so many post conversations that I'll think to myself, I should have said that or this AFTER I knew how the other responds to our conversation.
It takes practice. Most guys aren't as quick as Davey D. But the more you hear good wit the bigger your wit vocabulary becomes. Remember this, it's ok to use a phrase over and over again as long as you're using it with different people. For instance, my roommate always uses the quote "Mother Father" when he wants to say "Mother f**ker". Now to someone just hearing it for the first time, it's witty, but because I live with the guy I see he uses it all the time and it becomes cliche. Once you have something that's witty and works, keep using it. Over time you'll build up a vocabulary of witty statements and you'll start to sound like you're quick witted. There's no rule that says wit has to come from the tip of the tongue every time.
So then I thought, maybe I'm just an ignorant fool. I can't understand shakespear for sh!t. Been to the theater a few times and don't get that either (not the movie theater). But then I thought, I can read Einstiens books and know what it means. He had plenty of idea's, however I just read his ideas which stem from study. They weren't mine but I understood his. It appears I can get someting and apply it if there is a factual bases behind it, but if there is not, I don't get it, therefore I can't apply it. I know the theory of relativity is just a theory and not factual, I hope you know what I mean.
You sound a lot more left brained instead of right. You can understand analytical stuff; numbers, formula, computers a lot more then you can understand art and creativity. Not saying you're not creative, but you know what I mean. Well I believe a left brained person can learn to use his right brain a lot easier then the other way around. Instead of looking at art for it's "beauty" analyze it. You'll start to see the beauty in it from analyzing the color, the brush strokes, etc...
There is some kind of cause and effect thing going on here I can't put my finger on.
Sure there is, I'm glad you see that. Many people will disagree with what I am about to say, but you're analytical, and if it works... like Ockum (sp) said "The simplest solution is usually right". Humans are just animals. We have the same basic mating instincts are most of our ancestors and cousins. If you watch a pair of mammals in their mating routine you can see the similarities simplified.
A buck struts around with his head held high and fights other bucks to win over the females. Is there any difference between that and watching a couple of guys in a social situation; for instance playing pool or some other game? They're fighting, competing. Subconsiously the winner is in a way more attractive to a female. There's more to it because we have critical thinking, but simplified it's basically the same.
The blue bower bird will build a nest on the ground to impress the females. A female comes a long and inspects the nest then decides if she wants to be with that male. A girl comes over to your apartment and inspects it to see if she wants to be with you. There are similarities everywhere.
What I am trying to say is that you can pick up on a lot good strategies by watching nature work.
About relativity. The only part of relativity that's really been proven is time dilation. There are two different types of physicists; theoretical and observational. It's very easy to prove things when you're an observation physicist. You observe something working and you've basically proven it. This is how they proved time dilation. The took two clocks, one on the ground and one in an airplane and observed the one in the airplane ticking slower then the one on the ground.
Theoretical physics is a different story. It works by proving things using formula. Since math always works 1+1 always =2, pi always = 3.1417... you can use that to show how things might work. The problem with it is just because 2+2=4 doesn't mean you've proven anything, 1+3, 0+4, -1+5, etc... can also equal 4.
Einstein, like Hawkings are/were theoretical physicists, they use formula to prove their theories. There is no physical/observational proof that most of it is actually true, but because the math works and the math has never been proven to be WRONG in nature the scientific community pretty much accepts it as truth.
-Al
