How to be smooth and act like nothing matters??

[nvictor]

I tried. It doesn't wrok for me. When I lower my voice, the
old one come up quickly after two or three sentences.

When I act slow, they believe I'm tired or sick. It's hard to
keep it longer.

Do you have a method ? Tell me. I'd really like to be
smoother. Not only for girls, but because I want to be like
that. I admire those who can do it naturally. They keep
their cool in stressful situations.

So what is the secret?

 

[Jackman]

You're breaking out of it because you're not addressing the problem itself, you're just trying to fake the results of a problem solved.

The problem is urgency & nervousness, which is precisely what makes you move faster and talk in a higher tone. When you eliminate that, things will begin to slow down naturally. Your actions and tones will be genuine. It will be a result of urgency being eliminated.

What you're probibly doing is using a deeper voice and slower moves as a tactic to eliminate urgency, which is why it isn't working.

To eliminate urgency, you simply have to level with yourself during everyday trivial actions. When the phone rings, realize that whomever is calling isn't going to normally give up after only two rings, so there is no need to answer quickly. When someone knocks on your door, realize that they expect to have a little waiting to do before a response comes, so you don't have to run over there and whip the door open. When it's your turn to speak, realize you are expected to take the luxury of clearly pronouncing your words because you're not on a game show with clocks ticking and buzzards going off.

Basically, all you're trying to do is understand and accept the fact that you have more time than you think to do these everyday, trivial things. Once you understand there is no rush, there is no race, you'll naturally slow down, move smoother and talk in a deeper tone.

 

[nvictor]

JackMan. The best piece of advice I've ever
had in the forum. Thanks so much. It all makes
sense now.

 

[PigAdlemPimp]

Speaking in a deep voice makes it easier to allure the HBs, though it takes a while to master it, train your voice whilst alone, then try to speak with it when you are being served in shops and around people that you don't know, then it will come naturally whenever you want it to after a couple of months, just continue to do it.
If you don't worry about being rejected by the HB nor become emotionally involved with her you will make a much better impression.
Just treat her like you would your sister, your buddies, and your pet cat, and it will be so much easier.
Remember that there are many more HBs than there are Casinos in every big City and Gamblers always find a place to bet, so never think of the one sole HB as being the Prize, then your success rate will greatly increase.
Sarge for the enjoyment, rather than the reward, expect nothing, never give a HB any power over you, then you will reap the rewards.

 

[the_milkman]

Do a research on autogenic training. IMHO it's better than the other self-hypnosis theories.
It's not hard to learn (not too easy, too), it only takes half an hour a day and these are the benefits:
- it cleans your soul of many (not all, but many) negative influences, thoughts,...
- it makes you realize only a few things matter in life - thus releases you of stress and anxiety
- your ability to cope with everyday problems improves
- and many more, but most importantly:

--> it makes you cool. damn cool. let me put it this way: it makes you feel like you're wearing sunglasses without even wearing sunglasses

you see, you don't have to fake some kind of style, you have to go back to the roots and undergo a radical change

 

[yungone]

Being smooth is not being what everyone say it is. being smooth is being who you are and using your own personality to get what you want. For example you can be shy and smooth at the same time. If a person is shy they should milk that the right way and they get reactions like "aww that is adorable or that is so cute" **** like that. The best game is no game. Be youself, be confident, say the things you will say how you will say it. Keep you emotions under control, you dont have to say everything you feel. Be calm and collective. When you doing all this you are keeping it real to yourself and people will recognize that and you will be smooth. But if you trying to be smooth based on what other people say, you gona be a corn ball cuz its gona be unnatural to you. Pimp your own style playa, thats real smoothness fo ya

 

[PigAdlemPimp]

Do a research on autogenic training. IMHO it's better than the other self-hypnosis theories.
It's not hard to learn (not too easy, too), it only takes half an hour a day and these are the benefits:
- it cleans your soul of many (not all, but many) negative influences, thoughts,...
- it makes you realize only a few things matter in life - thus releases you of stress and anxiety
- your ability to cope with everyday problems improves
- and many more, but most importantly:

--> it makes you cool. damn cool. let me put it this way: it makes you feel like you're wearing sunglasses without even wearing sunglasses

you see, you don't have to fake some kind of style, you have to go back to the roots and undergo a radical change

I will have to look into this, anything that might help is worth a try. :yes: