How to be a Pimp in High school and college
My style is generally heavy on ****y/ funny, push/ pull, and taking girls through many emotions. Emotionally hardcore methods really do it for younger girls. I fractionate alot. Apart from this, my game is heavily reliant on strong identity and social proof gained from working large groups of people in a similar way to that described below.
Firstly, it obviously helps to have a good level of social intelligence, and all other subcommunications and assets which help in pickup apply here to. You're unlikely to go wrong if you're good with people. People are people, and they don't react all that differently to value communications.
These institutions are generally much easier to work than cold approach, or even general social-circles. What can be harder is leading the whole place. Take it easy, and don't place any value on an individual outcome of any social interaction. Afterall, you've got at least three years to work this, you will be able to communicate your personality without effort, and you're unlikely to get rejected in a hardcore way.
Schools are like the outside world, but amplified and more primitive. Value exchanges are more concentrated, and are therefore often easier to see. If you are in the high-value groups will get girls, but if you are the leader then you have a pick of many of the girls in the college.
Genral guidlines and base-rules to social value and standing within and institution:
1. Make yourself known to everyone, in a good way. Say 'Hi' to everyone you meet, and try to avoid becoming too entrenched in a certain group of people
2. Be the guy who arranges things. Merge groups and get people meeting each other. The best way to become a leader and alpha-male in an already established structure is to be the merger of different social-circles. Constantly keep up connections, further friendships, and introduce you friends to each other. You social circle will grow, and you will be central to it.
3. Rumours spread. Use this to your advantage. Don't be the ''kiss and tell'' guy, but allow others to spread rumours, and treat it as a good thing. If you are cool and relaxed about what's being said, then other people will be too.
4. Don't emotionally react to guys messing with you, and try not to seek thier approval. This can obviously be hard if you're just starting out in self-improvement, but it's essential to closed-institution game. You'll hear guys saying ''don't take **** from anyone'', and while these guys are often coming from the wrong mindset, don't take **** from anyone that can only be seen as bad. A more potent thing to do is to frame most things as if they are a play towards your validation, or as if they're quite cool and you're considering whether you want to hang with this person.
5. Give value and fun. It's college/ highschool, and you should be having a blast. If you're good and congruent you could pull off low-energy, but, as a general guidline, be more fun and interesting than anyone around you. That way, people will be drawn to you. Think of yourself as an ever-repleneshing source of fun and confidence for the people around you, but that this is fun and confidence on your own terms. Hi-five guys and girls, intitiate fun conversations, and tell stories; people will see this and want to know you.
6. NEVER qulaify yourself. Sure, it could look cool to have a hot girl on your arm, or to have cool **** going on, but never talk about it. So many guys qualify themselves in these places, and it doesn't work. When you lead social circles, merge groups, define the frame, have a good time, and don't appear to be taking crap, people assume these things.
7. This is often used in the wrong context, and don't sit at home telling yourself this, but you really should be the prize. Read some of TD or Swinggcats' posts on frame-control/ prizability. A kind of ****y confidence, if played right, can work for you very well here, but don't turn the guys off you in the process.
8. Embody what your peers need in their lives. This is a bit more advanced. Be the security your peers seek; be the comfort they seek; be the value they seek. Pacing and rapport are vital to building a social circle around you, but pure leading and embodyment of what your peers need is powerful. This is emotional, not logical, and it is to do with linking your peers deep unconscious desires to you. Advertising and western culture has already done half the job for you, you just need to become the revered all-fullfilling product. This is Freud and Bernaise on a personal level. Remember the October man sequence that Stole mentioned in ''the game''? This, along with timeline distortion and heavy fractionation, was one of the major components. Peoples' identities and needs are set by the consumerist Western culture, you just have to embody the things that these needs were created for. You are the value, comfort, security, and happiness that major buisiness' products were meant to offer but never did. It is hard to convey this without it sounding machievellian or misogynistic, but it is not. It is entirely feasible to lead people and have alot of control over the dynamics of social interactions yet to still be able to relate and be compassionate towards those people.
How to establish yourself as 'leader' with other fresh students:
1. Introduce yourself to everyone. Say Hi, and find some cool friends. Build some rapport with a few girls (preferablly hot, for value reasons), and some cool guys. Invite them all out for drinks etc.
2. Introduce friends to each other. Merge and arrange!!! Arrange meetings/ going out with a few new college people. Everyone will be eager to come becuase they need to establish themselves and make friends in these new places.
3. Carry on arranging and meeting up with these people. You are likely to become the leader of the groups by default, and all of your actions and characteristics will be framed in a more positive way afterwards as a result of this.
4. Keep this up. Although a tightly nit circle of friends where people have to earn YOUR approval to get in can be very effective, you never want to make it appear totally inaccessible to others, as they are likely to grow a resentment towards you. Think Jocks. You don't want to be one, right?
How to gain social standing in a pre-existing structure:
This can be HARD. Depending on the institution, you may very well have to settle for being a cool guy in the Alpha's peer group. If you come across badly at first, forget it. Especially in this enviroment, people build conceptions of you, and everything you do will be fit into these conceptions. Alot of guys will be resistant to you becoming a leader, as they may feel threatened by change in their comforting social structure.
1. Be friendly! Introduce yourself as if you are on the same level as these guys.
2. Befriend the alpha and the hot girls. These people are often actually quite secure, and will be nicer than the people around them. Get their approval, and their followers should start accepting your value as a reality too.
3. Easy and slowly works best. Once you have established yourself, you can start merging groups in small steps. Eventually, you can be a leader in the groups.
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Why all this emphasis on leading and value? Because girls flock to leaders and value givers in these places more than any others. Think of society and it's social dynamics compressed, amplified, and less sophisticated. Once you can play these places, you can play them like a fiddle, and it's not that hard. "Game'' really isn't neccessary, but value is. If you are a cool high-value guy, you will get laid. If you are THE high-value alpha guy, you get what you want.
Some thoughts on specifics of game in these istitutions:
1. Extraction is easy. Just invite her round to your place to hang out and watch some DVDs. If she doesn't want to, wash-rinse and repeat, after demonstrating your value some more, on any other day of the few years you'll be around her.
2. Openers and routines are not essential. Vibing and rapport, with a context of sexual tension, will get you further than these will in such a closed enviroment. You don't want to mess up a routines or technique in these places.
3. Don't put pressure on yourself or her, as you can always try again. In fact, go slowly and build tension and trust over time.
Hope this helps some guys. Certain aspects of these models will probably be more suited to my personality than others, and you will have to calibrate them to work with you. Take what you think is useful, discard that which you think isn't.
My style is generally heavy on ****y/ funny, push/ pull, and taking girls through many emotions. Emotionally hardcore methods really do it for younger girls. I fractionate alot. Apart from this, my game is heavily reliant on strong identity and social proof gained from working large groups of people in a similar way to that described below.
Firstly, it obviously helps to have a good level of social intelligence, and all other subcommunications and assets which help in pickup apply here to. You're unlikely to go wrong if you're good with people. People are people, and they don't react all that differently to value communications.
These institutions are generally much easier to work than cold approach, or even general social-circles. What can be harder is leading the whole place. Take it easy, and don't place any value on an individual outcome of any social interaction. Afterall, you've got at least three years to work this, you will be able to communicate your personality without effort, and you're unlikely to get rejected in a hardcore way.
Schools are like the outside world, but amplified and more primitive. Value exchanges are more concentrated, and are therefore often easier to see. If you are in the high-value groups will get girls, but if you are the leader then you have a pick of many of the girls in the college.
Genral guidlines and base-rules to social value and standing within and institution:
1. Make yourself known to everyone, in a good way. Say 'Hi' to everyone you meet, and try to avoid becoming too entrenched in a certain group of people
2. Be the guy who arranges things. Merge groups and get people meeting each other. The best way to become a leader and alpha-male in an already established structure is to be the merger of different social-circles. Constantly keep up connections, further friendships, and introduce you friends to each other. You social circle will grow, and you will be central to it.
3. Rumours spread. Use this to your advantage. Don't be the ''kiss and tell'' guy, but allow others to spread rumours, and treat it as a good thing. If you are cool and relaxed about what's being said, then other people will be too.
4. Don't emotionally react to guys messing with you, and try not to seek thier approval. This can obviously be hard if you're just starting out in self-improvement, but it's essential to closed-institution game. You'll hear guys saying ''don't take **** from anyone'', and while these guys are often coming from the wrong mindset, don't take **** from anyone that can only be seen as bad. A more potent thing to do is to frame most things as if they are a play towards your validation, or as if they're quite cool and you're considering whether you want to hang with this person.
5. Give value and fun. It's college/ highschool, and you should be having a blast. If you're good and congruent you could pull off low-energy, but, as a general guidline, be more fun and interesting than anyone around you. That way, people will be drawn to you. Think of yourself as an ever-repleneshing source of fun and confidence for the people around you, but that this is fun and confidence on your own terms. Hi-five guys and girls, intitiate fun conversations, and tell stories; people will see this and want to know you.
6. NEVER qulaify yourself. Sure, it could look cool to have a hot girl on your arm, or to have cool **** going on, but never talk about it. So many guys qualify themselves in these places, and it doesn't work. When you lead social circles, merge groups, define the frame, have a good time, and don't appear to be taking crap, people assume these things.
7. This is often used in the wrong context, and don't sit at home telling yourself this, but you really should be the prize. Read some of TD or Swinggcats' posts on frame-control/ prizability. A kind of ****y confidence, if played right, can work for you very well here, but don't turn the guys off you in the process.
8. Embody what your peers need in their lives. This is a bit more advanced. Be the security your peers seek; be the comfort they seek; be the value they seek. Pacing and rapport are vital to building a social circle around you, but pure leading and embodyment of what your peers need is powerful. This is emotional, not logical, and it is to do with linking your peers deep unconscious desires to you. Advertising and western culture has already done half the job for you, you just need to become the revered all-fullfilling product. This is Freud and Bernaise on a personal level. Remember the October man sequence that Stole mentioned in ''the game''? This, along with timeline distortion and heavy fractionation, was one of the major components. Peoples' identities and needs are set by the consumerist Western culture, you just have to embody the things that these needs were created for. You are the value, comfort, security, and happiness that major buisiness' products were meant to offer but never did. It is hard to convey this without it sounding machievellian or misogynistic, but it is not. It is entirely feasible to lead people and have alot of control over the dynamics of social interactions yet to still be able to relate and be compassionate towards those people.
How to establish yourself as 'leader' with other fresh students:
1. Introduce yourself to everyone. Say Hi, and find some cool friends. Build some rapport with a few girls (preferablly hot, for value reasons), and some cool guys. Invite them all out for drinks etc.
2. Introduce friends to each other. Merge and arrange!!! Arrange meetings/ going out with a few new college people. Everyone will be eager to come becuase they need to establish themselves and make friends in these new places.
3. Carry on arranging and meeting up with these people. You are likely to become the leader of the groups by default, and all of your actions and characteristics will be framed in a more positive way afterwards as a result of this.
4. Keep this up. Although a tightly nit circle of friends where people have to earn YOUR approval to get in can be very effective, you never want to make it appear totally inaccessible to others, as they are likely to grow a resentment towards you. Think Jocks. You don't want to be one, right?
How to gain social standing in a pre-existing structure:
This can be HARD. Depending on the institution, you may very well have to settle for being a cool guy in the Alpha's peer group. If you come across badly at first, forget it. Especially in this enviroment, people build conceptions of you, and everything you do will be fit into these conceptions. Alot of guys will be resistant to you becoming a leader, as they may feel threatened by change in their comforting social structure.
1. Be friendly! Introduce yourself as if you are on the same level as these guys.
2. Befriend the alpha and the hot girls. These people are often actually quite secure, and will be nicer than the people around them. Get their approval, and their followers should start accepting your value as a reality too.
3. Easy and slowly works best. Once you have established yourself, you can start merging groups in small steps. Eventually, you can be a leader in the groups.
------------------------------------------------------------
Why all this emphasis on leading and value? Because girls flock to leaders and value givers in these places more than any others. Think of society and it's social dynamics compressed, amplified, and less sophisticated. Once you can play these places, you can play them like a fiddle, and it's not that hard. "Game'' really isn't neccessary, but value is. If you are a cool high-value guy, you will get laid. If you are THE high-value alpha guy, you get what you want.
Some thoughts on specifics of game in these istitutions:
1. Extraction is easy. Just invite her round to your place to hang out and watch some DVDs. If she doesn't want to, wash-rinse and repeat, after demonstrating your value some more, on any other day of the few years you'll be around her.
2. Openers and routines are not essential. Vibing and rapport, with a context of sexual tension, will get you further than these will in such a closed enviroment. You don't want to mess up a routines or technique in these places.
3. Don't put pressure on yourself or her, as you can always try again. In fact, go slowly and build tension and trust over time.
Hope this helps some guys. Certain aspects of these models will probably be more suited to my personality than others, and you will have to calibrate them to work with you. Take what you think is useful, discard that which you think isn't.