how to be an a**hole?

[Mrpua]

I dont understand what it means when they say you have to be an a**hole to get girls - like where do you draw the line?
example: if I go up to a girl and tell her "you are so fat and disgusting" I am obviously being an a**hole but that won't get me the girl.
so what does it mean to be an a**shole? how does it work?

 

[mrgoodstuff]

"assh0les" just means he has huge confidence and doesn't put up with her bullshyt .

 

[The Diver]

how to be an a**hole?

I don't know, I strive to be a great guy, not an a*hole.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

how to be an a**hole?

I don't know, I strive to be a great guy, not an a*hole.

Do u let females jerk u around and flake on you?

 

[The Diver]

Do u let females jerk u around and flake on you?

I give a woman one lifeline,(the benefit of a doubt ) after that, it's Next, and if you screening hard, then flaking minimised, but you can't avoid some flaking.
Being "Great guy" doesn't mean being a Sucker afc

 

[Glassguy]

You dont have to be an A hole. You just have to have boundaries and not do things that don't benefit you when dealing with women. Basically don't be a door mat and stand up for yourself.

Having several women that you are railing keeps you from giving one woman too much attention and she will compete for more. If one earns more attention you give it. Any disrespect or doing things that dont really benefit you and you take it back away. That's the reason women love players. They have to compete for them because players have options and they will work their butt off to remove those other options.

Do what you want and if they get on board great, if not then you dial up the next one. It keeps most women on their best behavior because she will be earning your time and attention, making her invest in you. If they have to work at it and invest in you they will value you more.

 

[zekko]

The @sshole that PUAs describe is not an @sshole at all. The idea is that any guy who does not supplicate and pander to a woman is displaying @sshole-like behavior. This sounds ridiculous to me, because it just means that you have some self respect, which is something you SHOULD have.

Tyler from RSD says it's being an @sshole to just ask for a girl's number. Because only an @sshole would believe that a hot girl would want to go out with him. I don't believe that is true either. Nothing wrong with going for what you want. That doesn't make you a jerk.

 

[The Diver]

@ohrein in described it great a few months ago: (the credit to Ohrein)

"A great guy is a man who lives his life and purpose and stands up for himself and others while treating those who deserve it with respect and love. A great guy does not put women on a pedestal, does not tolerate poor behaviour in exchange for pvssy and will expect the best in himself and others."


At that stage in my life, and considering the type of women I deal with, the above description suits me the best, been an a*hole won't benefit me at that point in my life.

 

[Spaz]

An @sshole is a term to describe males that don't toe socially acceptable norms, that's being put forth by women and defended by white knights - gentleman's aka men who r gentled.

At least that's my take as I've been often been describe as one for the better part of 3 decades.

Both women and men either loves you for it or hates you, there's no middle ground.

 

[JonnyX]

This is another example of ugly men trying to get success by copying what good looking men do, even though it doesn't work that way.

Good looking men are often @ssholes BECAUSE THEY CAN AFFORD TO BE. Women will date them no matter what they say. Don't believe me? Set up a Tinder account with a male model's photos. You can literally make your opening line "you are so fat and disgusting" and they will still reply and you can easily turn it around to a # close or date in 4-5 more messages.

So ugly guys see good looking men acting like @ssholes, women lapping it up, and then think "Hey! Maybe being an ******* is the secret!" Well no it's not.

Being an @sshole only works for those guys because women don't actually care that much about personality.

Really as a man, some general points are:

- Try not to be too supplicating in your behavior, body language, or demeanor
- Stand up for what you believe in
- Don't appear too needy or weak
- Be assertive about what you want in life
- Bust her balls on things like you would a male friend - tease her, make fun of her, but in a light way like you would to a buddy

None of those things have anything to do with being an "@sshole". Wanna get laid by really being an @sshole? Make sure you're 6'+ and look like a male model first. Otherwise you're as likely to get banned from the online dating service, kicked out of the club, or beaten down by one of her "male friends".

This is not a real or generalizable strategy.

Examples of @sshole game (ie. be ridiculously handsome and then say anything you want game):

This is what "game" looks like when you're a physically attractive man.

 

[RickTheToad]

Do men really message women as an intro, I want to fck you. What's your number? I cannot see that going over well IRL. I'd be concerned that she'd contact the site or cops for a threatening message like that.

I cannot believe that works for women in their late 20's thru 40's.

 

[Spaz]

This is another example of ugly men trying to get success by copying what good looking men do, even though it doesn't work that way.

Good looking men are often @ssholes BECAUSE THEY CAN AFFORD TO BE. Women will date them no matter what they say. Don't believe me? Set up a Tinder account with a male model's photos. You can literally make your opening line "you are so fat and disgusting" and they will still reply and you can easily turn it around to a # close or date in 4-5 more messages.

So ugly guys see good looking men acting like @ssholes, women lapping it up, and then think "Hey! Maybe being an ******* is the secret!" Well no it's not.

Being an @sshole only works for those guys because women don't actually care that much about personality.

Really as a man, some general points are:

- Try not to be too supplicating in your behavior, body language, or demeanor
- Stand up for what you believe in
- Don't appear too needy or weak
- Be assertive about what you want in life
- Bust her balls on things like you would a male friend - tease her, make fun of her, but in a light way like you would to a buddy

None of those things have anything to do with being an "@sshole". Wanna get laid by really being an @sshole? Make sure you're 6'+ and look like a male model first. Otherwise you're as likely to get banned from the online dating service, kicked out of the club, or beaten down by one of her "male friends".

This is not a real or generalizable strategy.

Examples of @sshole game (ie. be ridiculously handsome and then say anything you want game):

This is what "game" looks like when you're a physically attractive man.

Hahaha

Yes, this is true.

Sadly not all men can pull this off, you'll need to have 2 ingredients; a good looking face and a natural inclination towards dominance which i suspect more often then not contributes towards @sshole-ness.

 

[IKO69]

Do men really message women as an intro, I want to fck you. What's your number? I cannot see that going over well IRL. I'd be concerned that she'd contact the site or cops for a threatening message like that.

I cannot believe that works for women in their late 20's thru 40's.

****'s probably fake or all the profiles belong to same person. If it sounds too good be true, guess what? It probably isn't. I'm surprised how easily guys get suckered by this crap that is conjured up by degenerates. You can't even ask a woman "You're really going to go out wearing that?" but you can just open one by telling her you are going to **** her lmaoooo.

Anyway onto the *******s. If you have to ask how to be one, then you can't be one. *******s don't become *******s, they simply are. You need to forget about what other guys are doing and become a man people like and want to be around.

 

[Red Legg]

Act like a man and just be manly don't let her push your frame one little bit then she will automatically think you are a (jerk) If your not being sh!t tested then you are doing it wrong.

 

[RickTheToad]

****'s probably fake or all the profiles belong to same person. If it sounds too good be true, guess what? It probably isn't. I'm surprised how easily guys get suckered by this crap that is conjured up by degenerates. You can't even ask a woman "You're really going to go out wearing that?" but you can just open one by telling her you are going to **** her lmaoooo.

Anyway onto the *******s. If you have to ask how to be one, then you can't be one. *******s don't become *******s, they simply are. You need to forget about what other guys are doing and become a man people like and want to be around.

Can't see this working. I may do an experiment with a profile of a dude who's amazingly good looking and see if this works.

 

[JonnyX]

Can't see this working. I may do an experiment with a profile of a dude who's amazingly good looking and see if this works.

If you want to see what you can get away with take a look at these first:

1) The Good Looking Child Rapist

https://cheezburger.com/3017733/guy...fake-child-rapist-and-gets-horrifying-results

2) The Good Looking Nazi

https://forum.bodybuilding.com/showthread.php?t=174682741&pagenumber=1

You're going to have to work pretty hard to top those.

 

[skinnyguy]

I’ve been nice my whole life and I’m starting to change.

You know what helps me? Criticizing other people.

Instead of thinking “wow that girl is hot” or “dang he’s so Chad” I find faults in other people and make it seem like I am better than everyone else. This helps my mental health and also makes me lift harder at the gym.

As Chris rock says “people ain’t shyt.” Don’t pedestalize puss, and act like people are inferior to you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I’ve been nice my whole life and I’m starting to change.

You know what helps me? Criticizing other people.

Instead of thinking “wow that girl is hot” or “dang he’s so Chad” I find faults in other people and make it seem like I am better than everyone else. This helps my mental health and also makes me lift harder at the gym.

As Chris rock says “people ain’t shyt.” Don’t pedestalize puss, and act like people are inferior to you.

I just told a lady her toes was in competition with Shaq. All the other guys kissed her asz and told her they'd suck her toes.

 

[FairShake]

For every "Chad" who burns villages and slays puss with his azzholeish antics there are ten "Stews" who have been fired from jobs and banned from malls for saying the exact azzholeish things awkwardly.

Better to be funny, equal parts self-deprecating and teasing, and gauge their responses.

 

[Infern0]

"*******" just means being real, not bding a pleaser or a suck up.

You treat women the same as you treat a bro, there's nothing wrong with helping them out with something but you arent going to go out of your way necessarily. Also you dont suck up to them you are just real, maybe you roast them sometimes, have a banter.

You won't get anywhere by being an actual **** head or the whole "oh can you pick me up on way to date". "No cos im mgtwow i dont do ANYTHING for women"

She asks you to drive her and her friend 3 hours across town obviously you arent doing that, she asks if you can help her change a lightbulb when you are at her place, obviously thats fine.

Fast track to failure.

So, again. Just treat them like you would a male friend in that regard? Reasonably but not subservient