cyalater28r
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Ok, I am not that great at this DJ stuff. Ive been reading the bible as much as I have time so that I wont be posting crap on the board but I could use a quick response so please bare with me if this question is redundant.
Im sorry if this is long but ill try to make it readable. You see, im not confident in my ability to evaluate my skills or her interest level and time is working against me so Id like your guys opinions.
I usually have a huge problem ending up meeting girls I like and getting stuck in the friend zone. I am looking at a girl currently that I want to end that problem with.
I have been over at her place alot, maybe a bit too much im not sure. But we built up a real good rapport and I think I see some levels of interest. This is what I think im doing right according to the bible:
1. Kino is working good, she is comfortable touching me and resting her head by my lap while watching tv.
2. Mystery is working excellent, she says im a great listener b/c in just 2 weeks she has told me pretty much everything about herself and she knows only one thing about me ( I put myself in a good light as a tough but sensitive guy) and even said how im a mystery
3. She seems to be inventing reasons why i should come around and visit, i.e. helping her with things she can easily do herself.
4. I am trying to bust out of my being an androgynous asexual guy and throwing in comments as much as I can teasing her about her ass and jokingly hinting at sexual stuff. She seems to enjoy it. And in general im giving plenty of neg hits but doing them right- she doesnt get offended.
5. Sence of humor, she is always laughing her ass off and saying how im the funniest guy shes met in a long time, etc. I have a good humor.
Here is where I may be screwing up / things that make me wonder about her IL let me know:
1. I am over alot lately. She is used to me comming over 9 and leaving at around 12 watching tv and talking (90% her talking) and stuff. I dont think this is smart on my part to always be around so i should cut back.
2. She repeatedly has been asking to tell her about my past relationships (i wont talk about them) and once asked me if I am interested in a mutual friend of ours (i wasnt so I said no)
3. Here is the big one. She has been with a guy for awhile but they have been really on the rocks lately. She doesnt seem happy but at least said (i know actions speak louder though) that she wont cheat if they are still together. In my opinion they are more together than apart if for no other reason than because its kind of routine. BUT, I know for a fact that when they have their breaks she will be with a guy she is interested in in hopes that he will be her new bf.
4. She has tried hard to get me to listen to her problems with her bf/ get my opinion and advice. I think it would be bad for him to be a subject of conversation so I flat out say thats not my department. - I think if I become her shrink and listen to bf problems that ill be friendzoned for sure. However she did insist that i listen to one thing which is that she is pissed that they arent officially together yet he feels he can do whatever and she has to be faithful (is this her trying to tell me something?)
SO, the end goal for me is to get out of the trap of being a substitute boyfriend but with no sex/friendzone crap.
Based on what Ive told you, do you think and how do you think i should proceed so that I can get her when the boyfriend and them temporarily split (this i think will happen soon). I dont want the type of girl that would cheat on a long term boyfriend so I wont try that stuff- but if they are breifly separated I dont feel its wrong.
Can I do it? I think im doing more things right than wrong but my problem is going to be clearly moving out of the playful flirting and testing her interest.
Im sorry if this is long but ill try to make it readable. You see, im not confident in my ability to evaluate my skills or her interest level and time is working against me so Id like your guys opinions.
I usually have a huge problem ending up meeting girls I like and getting stuck in the friend zone. I am looking at a girl currently that I want to end that problem with.
I have been over at her place alot, maybe a bit too much im not sure. But we built up a real good rapport and I think I see some levels of interest. This is what I think im doing right according to the bible:
1. Kino is working good, she is comfortable touching me and resting her head by my lap while watching tv.
2. Mystery is working excellent, she says im a great listener b/c in just 2 weeks she has told me pretty much everything about herself and she knows only one thing about me ( I put myself in a good light as a tough but sensitive guy) and even said how im a mystery
3. She seems to be inventing reasons why i should come around and visit, i.e. helping her with things she can easily do herself.
4. I am trying to bust out of my being an androgynous asexual guy and throwing in comments as much as I can teasing her about her ass and jokingly hinting at sexual stuff. She seems to enjoy it. And in general im giving plenty of neg hits but doing them right- she doesnt get offended.
5. Sence of humor, she is always laughing her ass off and saying how im the funniest guy shes met in a long time, etc. I have a good humor.
Here is where I may be screwing up / things that make me wonder about her IL let me know:
1. I am over alot lately. She is used to me comming over 9 and leaving at around 12 watching tv and talking (90% her talking) and stuff. I dont think this is smart on my part to always be around so i should cut back.
2. She repeatedly has been asking to tell her about my past relationships (i wont talk about them) and once asked me if I am interested in a mutual friend of ours (i wasnt so I said no)
3. Here is the big one. She has been with a guy for awhile but they have been really on the rocks lately. She doesnt seem happy but at least said (i know actions speak louder though) that she wont cheat if they are still together. In my opinion they are more together than apart if for no other reason than because its kind of routine. BUT, I know for a fact that when they have their breaks she will be with a guy she is interested in in hopes that he will be her new bf.
4. She has tried hard to get me to listen to her problems with her bf/ get my opinion and advice. I think it would be bad for him to be a subject of conversation so I flat out say thats not my department. - I think if I become her shrink and listen to bf problems that ill be friendzoned for sure. However she did insist that i listen to one thing which is that she is pissed that they arent officially together yet he feels he can do whatever and she has to be faithful (is this her trying to tell me something?)
SO, the end goal for me is to get out of the trap of being a substitute boyfriend but with no sex/friendzone crap.
Based on what Ive told you, do you think and how do you think i should proceed so that I can get her when the boyfriend and them temporarily split (this i think will happen soon). I dont want the type of girl that would cheat on a long term boyfriend so I wont try that stuff- but if they are breifly separated I dont feel its wrong.
Can I do it? I think im doing more things right than wrong but my problem is going to be clearly moving out of the playful flirting and testing her interest.
