How to ask out a totally random chick???

[shaggy84]

So I took my aunt and cousin to the health clinic to get my cousins immunizations done. The receptionist was a hot latina who I made small talk with. My aunt was right there so I didn't really do much but even if she wasn't there I don't think i would've asked her out.

My ? is this: How do I ask her out when it's totally random? It's not like I work with her or talk to her on a daily basis. I'm thinking of going back and saying something like "I want to make an appointment for Friday night @ such and such place with you." What do you think? I personally think that's smooth but not 100% sure.

Looking for some "professional" input. lol

 

[King_Supreme]

not sayin ur way wont work but it sounds wack and goin back to her job without a reason other than to ask her out is somewhat stalkerish and it may come off to her like that. u might just have to cough this one up as an opportunity missed. now if she worked at a retail store or something then i would say do it ur way cuz then she wont suspect that u just came in there 2game her but the clinic wont work. u gotta have a real reason to go in there.

 

[shaggy84]

Why the only way to ask out a totally random chick is by being totally random!

Also, we have a HS forum lil' buddie!

are u kidding me? I'm asking for some genuine advice and this is how you respond? HS? I'm a college graduate dude. You don't have to be condescending

 

[shaggy84]

not sayin ur way wont work but it sounds wack and goin back to her job without a reason other than to ask her out is somewhat stalkerish and it may come off to her like that. u might just have to cough this one up as an opportunity missed. now if she worked at a retail store or something then i would say do it ur way cuz then she wont suspect that u just came in there 2game her but the clinic wont work. u gotta have a real reason to go in there.

k well for a next time how could I have handled the situation?

 

[Von_S]

This is what you do: Make sure you're dressed well, not dressed up, just clean and put together, walk in there, walk straight up to her desk and say "hi you want to get a drink sometime". She may remember you she might not, but if you had good conversation the last time her subconscious will like you. It might work, it might not, but given the situation you don't have much of a choice, you can go and DO and maybe fail or you can sit at home dreaming about her and certainly fail.

 

[Skydiver43127]

She's not random. She's a girl you chose to ask out. (but didn't)

You should have asked her out regardless of your aunt - it would have shown confidence. Anyway, I'd recommend forgetting about it - it's in the past.

If you intend to pursue this line of action at least pretend you're in the hospital for something else, then open with "how're you doing?" and after the small talk close the conversation with "gotta go, want to meet up on .....?"

Opening with "Let's go out" is not in any way smooth. It translates to "I wanted to ask you out last time we talked, but chickened out. Then I spent all the time after our last meeting thinking about it, then went all the way to the hospital to do it, and here I am waiting for your responce, oh, love of my life". Not a very sexy invitation.

 

[King_Supreme]

k well for a next time how could I have handled the situation?

im no expert so hopefully one of the other DJs can give u some good advice but i would say a no bullsh!t direct approach. ive never tried to get a chick at a drs office cuz im usually there to get std tested and they know it so it would just be weired. lol. what imma say "hey baby if my hiv and chlamydia test come back neg would u wanna go out" lol.

seriously i'd say just be direct, "youre very attractive, i would like to give u acall sometime so i could get to know u". yeah it sounds cheesy but its str8 2 the point and chances are she doesnt get hit on much in there so she'll be flattered

 

[cola]

Nike , just do it..
SoSuave can give you the basics but nothing less than speaking with and approaching hundreds of random women will teach you the information you need to know. Work on being attractive, which doesn't neccissarily pertain to looks. Its the way you walk, the way you talk the way you maneuver thru life. I guarentee you if you would have asked her out and she said no then you'd have felt better than if you didn't try at all.

Ofcourse, as stated thousands of times don't take rejection personal and just have fun in the interaction, be natural and don't ask, expect.
Next time you see a hot girl where ever you are, just remember "Nike" -- JUST DO IT!

 

[shaggy84]

I hope you're a troll .

If not.
Wake up.

For a college grad man your typeing makes you look stupid.
Your name is shaggy.
You come to a 'PUA scene forum' and make just about the lamest thread ever.

If you are serious, you should have just included the relevant information.
I.E, you want to ask out a stranger.
We call that trying to get the day two here in online nerd land.

Your question is vast.
I can tell you now I could give you the answer but you aren't equipped to use it, this one is lost but unless you try at this girl the next one won't be any better.

Ok.
I'll try flow this for you, I find these answers are the most helpful not posting some philosophical cra>.
Escalate, doesn't matter if your da>n grandma is there; to combat that all you need to do is rewire your thinking.

You're just socialising, not gaming her, not trying to get her digits or a date, just socialising.
Oldschoolers Ladder start in chronilogical order.

SMALL TALK

The greeting: (you already have talked to her before assumedly so it's a greeting not an 'opener'): Hello/ hi/ how are you?/ how's work going/ how's your day going/ you look [insert observation].

Now most of those greetings sucked, I'll show you why.

You: Hello.
Her: Hello.

You: How are you.
Her: Good.

In other words, the answers are closed unless you can think on your feet, that's why you must use only open phrases and simply feed them back to her for more info on what to say next, only asking questions is boring.

You: Hey, I haven't seen you for a while. How have you been Sue, dam you look good behind a desk.
etc, etc

That will cause an open reply and it contains statements, this is how friends talk to one another.
Now simply build from it build from it and ask her from a high-point in conversation.

You: Yeah and that is what I've been doing! I mean it's not as glamorous as sharpening pencils but dam I try babe really; hey speaking of doing and sharpening what's your number. = date from there; it's a more natural way of getting the date than asking her to go out with you that night.

This is all about escalation and timing my friend, if you ask a girl something when her mood is high. She'll just about agree to anything.
Even kids understand that when they time asking their parents for something.

You can't say I never do nice things for you!

wow you're a pretentious ****. Not only that but you criticize my typing while you can't even spell typing.

 

[shaggy84]

I wasn't refering to grammar or spelling.
I was refering to tlkn lik dis

Also, thanks for the advice Oldschooler .

Oh!
It was nothing, really Shaggy.
Anytime mate, anytime.

thanks for the advice...I do appreciate it

 

[chrisgoodrich25]

I wasn't refering to grammar or spelling.
I was refering to tlkn lik dis

Also, thanks for the advice Oldschooler .

Oh!
It was nothing, really Shaggy.
Anytime mate, anytime.

i have to agree with this..a little of coarse..old school..you were good about giving the advise..it took your time and thought..this other guy should be gratefull..even if you did dis him..although initially you told him his thoughts were crap..ande you must understand we are all at different levels...and come here for help...trying to brak another up and comming dj..isn't very suave...as a matter a fact you should be apprenticing these cats..cause you know better..