How to act when she tells you that she went out with some other guy?

[sam21]

Rite, when she tells you that she's been saturday night with this guy. I don't know what to say..

ask questions about it? avoid the subject?

Please, some advices to learn how to play it cool in that situation.

I must say that me and her have a possible future relationship.

 

[Ace of Flames]

its a test. she wants to see how u react to it. if u freak out, its not good. if u dont do or say anything about it, its not good. u need to be straight up about it, just tell her if she doesnt wanna be with u, then she wont. let her know u arent gonna take her crap.

 

[DonMEgaHoss]

I have had a girl that I work with pull this $hit about the middle of this week. She was like " Alot of these highschool guys have been hitting on me." I rolled my eyes and said, " I dont care about what those little kids say.. Be my guess go with one, but dont come complaining to me that they bust a nut within 10 secounds.."

Im getting annoyed with her. Needless to say she's an attention hoe. But I have to work with her... Yeah its all a test. That this girl as been doing.. She has done it several times in the past...But know she's been touching me more often but I dont want any of that hoe. I have heard she did some 16 year old kid and she's 23 so Im like trick ass hoe

 

[NYtomb]

Originally posted by Ace of Flames
its a test. she wants to see how u react to it. if u freak out, its not good. if u dont do or say anything about it, its not good. u need to be straight up about it, just tell her if she doesnt wanna be with u, then she wont. let her know u arent gonna take her crap.

Agreed. Remember, you arent anyone's 2nd choice.

 

[Jariel]

My girlfriend was doing this kinda thing a lot to me before I made any commitment to her. She'd comment about being single and going looking for men, talk about hot guys in front of me etc.

Basically, it was her way of letting me know she wasn't going to be there forever and kinda pressuring me into committing to her (Wyldfire wrote a tip on this in the tips section, which stuck in my head during this time).

I'm assuming you haven't made your move with this girl, right? Well, unless you are in a relationship you can't justify getting annoyed. Afterall, it's not like she's cheating on you and this is what she's trying to express.

The way I handled it was to play it like I was cool with it and call her bluff. I even offered to pass on her number to one of the guys she was checking out. Then she said, "err, he's not that hot really".

If you like this girl, make your move before she gives up on you and hooks up with some other guy.

Generally, if a girl seems to be making an effort to make you jealous it's a positive sign, but if you lose your cool and she can see it working, it will become her way of controlling you.

 

[MightyMate]

Say that she wont see him anymore.,

 

[sam21]

Cool, tnx

I didn't act cool when she told me that... I wasn't prepared for that sh1t

it was on the phone like an hour ago.. the rare thing was that I use to ask her a lot of question, and when she told me she went out with this guy, I made just a few, trying not to get too deep into it. She noticed I wasn't cool about that..

I still don't understand how to pass the test, how not to get trapped by it.

so you better ****ing tell me. or I'll have to spend time and women trying to figure it out by myself..

greetings

 

[sam21]

Originally posted by MightyMate
Say that she wont see him anymore.,

I didn't see this.

That's a cool advice.. I like it. not enough to learn, but I like it

 

[sam21]

man, I love this game =)

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by sam21
I still don't understand how to pass the test, how not to get trapped by it.

The way to pass this test is like passing all women's test - you give them no merit and don't let it faze you at all (or at least act that way).

Or try to reframe it. Women test you usually because they see potential in you. So every time you're tested, made to feel jealous etc, take it as a sign of interest and feel confident.

 

[ScrewIt]

all women want attention in one form or another. whether they make up b.s. about who hit on them, it's a good sign that they want you to be jealous.

afterall jealousy are signs that you care.

you shouldnt let it phase you, because confidence in keeping your cool indirectly tells her that you're able to get your pick of women without it being just her.

Altho im good friends with this girl for 3 months, in that time period she has mentioned her past guy friends, the ex, the bf. i have not once let it phase me.

just go with the flow, and transition to changing the topic. women will know when you lose your cool, and its not cool.

 

[sam21]

cool, tnx..

besides and after lol:cheer:

 

[Warlord]

Originally posted by sam21
I didn't see this.

That's a cool advice.. I like it. not enough to learn, but I like it

I also like this advice. It tells the girl "Oh well, see ya!" which shows confidence and the ability to walk away as a man not as a little boy who says "Wtf! You go out with me!"

 

[sam21]

yeah.. but it also shows a bit of insecurity, so it's not that easy.

btw, is it good to say to her that I've been out with some other girl? just as if..

Like.. I told her about this new female friend of me.

:woo:

 

[dpw]

Originally posted by sam21
yeah.. but it also shows a bit of insecurity, so it's not that easy.

btw, is it good to say to her that I've been out with some other girl? just as if..

Like.. I told her about this new female friend of me.

:woo:

saying that seems to me like it would be a bluff of some sort-- you trying to make her jealous.

Umm, this same thing just happened to me. this chick i was supposed to hang out w/ fri night told me she was spending quality time w/ another dude by txt. I got pissed but kept my cool. I replied "I see". By saying this, i let her know it didn't bother me and prob got her thinking, "wow why didn't he freak out?".

I'm glad i played it cool coz i ended up hanging out w/ her the next night. Just my $.02

 

[sam21]

Originally posted by dpw
saying that seems to me like it would be a bluff of some sort-- you trying to make her jealous.

Umm, this same thing just happened to me. this chick i was supposed to hang out w/ fri night told me she was spending quality time w/ another dude by txt. I got pissed but kept my cool. I replied "I see". By saying this, i let her know it didn't bother me and prob got her thinking, "wow why didn't he freak out?".

I'm glad i played it cool coz i ended up hanging out w/ her the next night. Just my $.02

Nice. Thank you.

 

[backbreaker]

look, and i Know you aren't going to listen, because.. well, you just aren't.. but if you have to find out "how to play" the siutitution, you need to cut off contact with her


FOR YOUR OWN SAKE

because she has the advantage over you.. the advantage of her knowing that you know that her possibly spreding her legs for antoher guy ****s with your head.. and make no mistake, she knows, if she has been with enough or around enough guys.. there isn't much you can do she hasn't seen.. women are vastly, vastley more experienced in courting then men.. that's why it's best that you don't play, you are

In other words, you don't act like you don' tcare... you actually don't care. and if you do care, already, you need to move on for your sake

 

[sam21]

cool, tnx... that was good