I've noticed on this forum people tend to generalize because it's politically correct or push back because since they do not see someone like
@BackInTheGame78 for example IRL have that success they think it's cap so it's easier to call Bull**** or project. Empirical evidence does not factor in the fact that when you're dealing with women you're dealing with
X factors of variables that can't be quantified i.e. a woman will smash Chad one day buy next week before her period will smash a guy with a dad bod or a chubby guy. The smoke show got cheated on by Chad so now she wants to date an average or nerdy guy , the girl who likes anime and has daddy issues etc.
Empirical data especially when it comes to dating isn't always accurate and also trends change on a whim. I used to think like a lot of guys here when I had a lack off success due to lack of seeing the reall world and scarcity mindset etc.
The more I level up the more I realize a lot of guys don't know what they are talking about or just regurating redpill talking points. The 5'2 pilot for example has women all over the world, the only thing he spends on them is croissants and coffee but let one of these guys tell it, "it's not possible and he pays girls to fucc" when I know some of these girls personally. Who are not in need of money especially from a guy who is 5'2 pilot. Having EQ and being a great conversationalist isn't talked about a lot on this forum hence the weird obsession with looks, money and status. If you're a 55 year old guy dating 20 year olds you gotta be able to do that if you want them to stay around heck I would reckon even if you're 35 dating a girl in her early 20s cause there is such a gap in reliability. Money alone won't keep her around unless she is a sugar baby or a hooker lmfaooo
However, guys just divert back to looks,money and status cause that redpill trope is all they know. Go out in the real world and talk to women you will see that women aren't a monolith and a lot of women crave stimulating conversation, with someone who is not a doormat and can make her think and challenge her. That is something you cannot quantify in stats!
Like I said there a lot of autistic guys on this forum this is why they rant of stats a lot because that;s the only way they can cope with the reality of their lack of success with the opposite sex
I keep trying to tell people that knowing how to be conversational about a wide variety of topics and ACTUALLY being interested in a woman and what they are talking about and then asking follow up questions on the topic that she gives you nearly endless lead in questions about other things you can ask about is like a magic wand for women feeling comfortable and enjoying being around you because it's such a rare quality in a man these days...it has to do with a "vibe" that can't really be understood exactly why or how but its just there and it's felt and they like feeling it and they want more of it.
But nobody wants to hear it because it doesn't have to do with being over 6 foot tall or being an 8+ in looks or being rich.
Being interesting, fun to talk to and fun to be around will get you a lot farther than you think, but you actually have to LIKE women for that to happen and LIKE interacting with them. The problem so many guys have here is they genuinely HATE women and are doing what they do to "get back at them" for all the pain they have caused them in their life and that's never going to work to get what you want because it's coming from the wrong place internally.
When you are coming from a place of negativity and anger you get that returned right back. That's the way of the universe, the energy you put out there is the same energy that is returned to you, usually many times over. You reap what you sow, same concept.
When you are coming from a place of negativity you have already stopped yourself from succeeding before anything has even happened.
Believe it or don't, it doesn't matter to me, but that's the honest truth, as uncomfortable as it is to hear it for many. Your mentality and mindset is what is causing you to fail, nothing else. You believe all this negative stuff to be true so your mind finds a way to make it your reality. I'm not burdened by any of that. I feel I am awesome and any women would be lucky to be with me and the more they get to know me the more they will like me.
Like in Remember the Titans when he is talking about the Veer offense , I've actually used that line with women who I could tell were on the fence about me jokingly...
"I'm like Novocaine...just give me a little time, I always work."
More often than not they laughed and told me "Well someone's confident in themselves!" and some of them ended up finding out for themselves.
That's the reality that I live in. The one where I believe I can do anything I want to do and then I go after it tirelessly, relentlessly and passionately until I get it. The same way I became a software engineer at age 40 by teaching myself and getting hired with no experience professionally and no Computer Science degree. I apply that same concept to everything I do in life.
If I set my sights on a goal, I pursue it relentlessly and quite honestly obsessively until I reach it or die trying and I don't allow any amount of failures to discourage me or stop me from continued pursuit of it. And trust me there are a lot of failures along the way, but those are what lead to success. People would do well to recognize that. Failures shouldn't be feared, they should be embraced as your greatest teacher as long as you are willing to change and learn from them.
