How Strict Are You About Disrespect?

[soulforge]

01. How many incidents before you dump her?

02. How do you deal with smaller offences?

03. Are you likely to forgive and overlook disrespect, if she is hot and is of high value, successful etc?

From my own experience, it's better to cut your losses and get rid, sooner than later.. A girl who is going disrespect you, doesn't actually care about you, or value you..

Don't drag it out, hoping for change..

Some woman are just bichy by nature, and will say and do things, that will feel rude or insensitive.. They don't even realise how disrespectful or rude they are, it's just the way they are.. TOXIC

 

[Glassguy]

It depends on the degree of what we are labeling disrespect and how long you've dated her.

On a couple occasions I have gotten up in the middle of a first date and walked out. Once the chick was constantly on her phone and the other time the chick saw her friend and invited her to sit with us for a drink. After 45 minutes of them having their own little drama/gossip convo, I got up and bounced.

Both of them texted me later asking if I wanted to meet up again lol. I declined.

In a relationship, you will soon find out if a woman has bitchy/manipulative personality traits. At that point you make the decision to shrug it off or ditch her.

Calling me out in front of others, flaking, always thinking they are right all the time and being disrespectful about it, rudeness are all immediate dumps.

 

[dude99]

01. How many incidents before you dump her?

02. How do you deal with smaller offences?

03. Are you likely to forgive and overlook disrespect, if she is hot and is of high value, successful etc?

From my own experience, it's better to cut your losses and get rid, sooner than later.. A girl who is going disrespect you, doesn't actually care about you, or value you..

Don't drag it out, hoping for change..

Some woman are just bichy by nature, and will say and do things, that will feel rude or insensitive.. They don't even realise how disrespectful or rude they are, it's just the way they are.. TOXIC

1. One. Then they are history. Letting it happen more than once lets them beleive it is ok to treat you like garbage.

2. Nexting them.

3. No. All women are to be treated equal. Never reward bad behaviour. Never.

4. You are the prize remember ?

 

[TheGambino]

Very strict.

Read my last thread about my little afc rampage after making out and almost f8cking my former oneitis. She saw my afc me years ago and it came back out after all the pvssy, bullsh1t and wins with loads and loads of women the last years. Im still not cold as ice like I claimed to be.

But after the disrespect of my male buddies in the house that came in while knowing I like that girl I left the joint eventually and deleted them everywhere.

They know that they disrespected me but they also know that they lost me.

I told my former oneitis while making out with her this is going to be the last time that you see me. Because you did drugs (first time in her life that night).

I told her a woman that is going to raise my kids used drugs? Never.

She said ''I knew you didnt like that, I knew it'' (5 times in a row)

She was undressing on top of me when the idiots came in the room to f8ck sh1t up for me.

She left to sit on the lap of my buddy and I left the joint. Her friend told me to leave and that she was fed up with talking to me.

I removed them all from my life. This is a good example of walking away for good and never ever look back.

People won't respect you if you don't respect yourself. I made a statement and I will carry it for the rest of my life. I devalued her in the end even though she knows I have a weak spot for her, couldn't hide that I was drunk.

But the statement and living by that choise you made is all you got as a man. Even though she works at a bank and makes a lot of money, even though her a$$ is perfect, even though she got style and her face and shes a model. She hops from my lap in 2 mins to another ones lap. A true DJ knows he can seduce a better girl who doesn't disrespect him.

Word.

And this makes me stronger, all of my plates know that they can't disrespect me, if they do, im gone.

Remember to f8ck them hard always, make them ***, be the bad boy that they crave for. If you walk, they will always keep fantasizing about you. And if you play it well, the hamster will explode and they will start to come back.

 

[dude99]

[QUOTE="TheGambino, post: 2464597, member:





People won't respect you if you don't respect yourself.

[/QUOTE]

Indeed. Respect starts with yourself first.

 

[FMCSMT]

In Mystery Method it talks about "no big deal" and how we are supposed to treat everything that way.

I start a counter. If I have to say no big deal early on, I dump her. If I have to say it once a week or more, I dump her.

No big deal

 

[Glassguy]

Amen brother

The one that was on her phone 60% of the time later asked me if I wanted to hang out again. My response was "If I wanted to watch someone be glued to their phone I would call my ex wife".

I normally dont give them a reason when they are disrespectful, I just ghost and ignore. However in certain situations where I know I lost all interest in the woman, I dont care to tell her exactly why.

 

[bigneil]

How do you define disrespect? If you expect 6am calisthenics that might be pushing it.

In hindsight, I don't recall my last girlfriend ever disrespecting me (she may have got a little into her cell phone once but that was after we were away 48 hours), so there is a very low threshold if any. Girls in the past that did disrespect me stopped initiating as did I, so that self corrects.

In general, you reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior. So if she does disrespect you she gets crickets. She will learn not to if she wants to keep you around.

Signs of disrespect would indicate that her interest level has plummeted, so you should have read it way before that.

 

[soulforge]

I look past it like 8mo-1yr in once I have invested emotionally, otherwise I can be pretty strict.

It's much harder to dump 8 months or 1 year into it.. This is why it is key, that you deal with it immediately.. If it continues, then DUMP

Getting over a chick 3 months in, is easier than getting over a chick you invested 2 years in.. plus disrespect

 

[Glassguy]

I look past it like 8mo-1yr in once I have invested emotionally, otherwise I can be pretty strict.

I agree, thus I said it depends on the length of the relationship.

At the 8+ month mark, you have already seen MOST of their true colors and have made a self conscious decision that whatever she does that could be deemed as disrespectful is also tolerable. The pros certainly outweigh the cons. There are certainly no perfect women out there and all will do the occasional things that frustrate men. The big difference is if they do it naturally without knowing it or they intentionally do it to p!ss you off. One is correctable, the other is not. Its just a open wound oozing with problems later on.

Some women do things that we could take as disrespectful without even realizing it. Example: Being glued to their phones.

I do not expect a woman to never check her phone. Heck I dont even mind if she checks her phone on occasion if we are out. But doing it like crazy on a first date or very early on tells me that she is either an attention wh0re or she cant stay off it for any reasonable time period and its an automatic next. Why continue if thats what she is telling you that you'll be dealing with if you continue seeing her?

I agree with @bigneil that if its not something THAT disrespectful, just ignore it and her and reward the good behavior with attention. If she is a total retard she will figure it out if she wants to stick around. But there are certainly things that qualify for auto dumping early on.

Women can be very manipulative as we all know. My last relationship was great until about the 8 month mark when she started doing certain little things to p!ss me off and frustrate me. Rolling her eyes if I said something she didnt agree with, correcting me in front of someone, stuff like that. In hind sight, the sechs was great, everything else was great most of the time and the pros out weighed the cons.

Eventually it got to the point that I was frustrated more than satisfied, at that point you have to cut your losses and bounce.

 

[soulforge]

How do you define disrespect? If you expect 6am calisthenics that might be pushing it.

In hindsight, I don't recall my last girlfriend ever disrespecting me (she may have got a little into her cell phone once but that was after we were away 48 hours), so there is a very low threshold if any. Girls in the past that did disrespect me stopped initiating as did I, so that self corrects.

In general, you reward good behavior and ignore bad behavior. So if she does disrespect you she gets crickets. She will learn not to if she wants to keep you around.

Signs of disrespect would indicate that her interest level has plummeted, so you should have read it way before that.

Yes niel it could certainly be a sign of decline in interest..

However it could quite easily be that the chick just settled for you, and did not have REAL interest in you, or valued you much right from the offset.

She may see you as the safest guy to be with, especially if she has been mistreated by other alphas..

A girl that settles will always treat you with a certain amount of disrespect, as you are not her first choice.

Then again, some woman are just plain nasty, rude, narcissist & selfish & uncaring.

This is her personality, so a decline of interest may have nothing to do with it.

It is who she is..

 

[RangerMIke]

Disrespect = Low interest
Low interest walk away. I guess my tolerance for 'disrespect' is zero. But I don;t differentiate disrespect from low interest.

If a chick isn't treating you the way you believe you should be treated then you should just walk away and find someone that will treat you well.

 

[Trump]

If a chick isn't treating you the way you believe you should be treated then you should just walk away and find someone that will treat you well.

What if the chick treats you well in public, and everyone can see you have a good looking girl and it helps with your image, and she gives you good sex, but doesn't treat you great at home? Still walk away?

In laymans terms, go out with a good looking girl Friday/Saturday and be somewhat beta, or stay at home Friday/Saturday night and be alpha?

I think 99% of the men on this site, heck 99% men in the North America, would take enormous hits from a young good looking girl if she was giving him sex and helped his image.

This site acts like young good looking girls wanting to have a boyfriend to have sex with grow on trees.

 

[Urbanyst]

I've come to terms with that fact that everyone doesn't view disrespect the same way. Which is why communication is so important.

A woman might do something that she doesn't believe to be disrespectful. You have to educated women on how you expect to be treated and if you're not on the same page you can agree to disagree and part ways.

I have a zero tolerance policy for the most part. If a woman disrespects me I tell her that her behavior is not something I will tolerate. If she becomes defensive, b*tchy or argumentative, she is out the door. If she apologizes I give her another chance.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

I've come to terms with that fact that everyone doesn't view disrespect the same way. Which is why communication is so important.

A woman might do something that she doesn't believe to be disrespectful. You have to educated women on how you expect to be treated and if you're not on the same page you can agree to disagree and part ways.

I have a zero tolerance policy for the most part. If a woman disrespects me I tell her that her behavior is not something I will tolerate. If she becomes defensive, b*tchy or argumentative, she is out the door. If she apologizes I give her another chance.

Can she apologized and do it again ?

 

[soulforge]

I've come to terms with that fact that everyone doesn't view disrespect the same way. Which is why communication is so important.

A woman might do something that she doesn't believe to be disrespectful. You have to educated women on how you expect to be treated and if you're not on the same page you can agree to disagree and part ways.

I have a zero tolerance policy for the most part. If a woman disrespects me I tell her that her behavior is not something I will tolerate. If she becomes defensive, b*tchy or argumentative, she is out the door. If she apologizes I give her another chance.

This is a great point.. It's how she reacts to you, when you point out her disrespectful behaviour..

If she is negative, defensive and argumentative.. You can bet your last dollar, things will get waaay worse..

If she does not even recognise her own her own chitty behaviour.. TIME TO DROP THAT CHICK

 

[soulforge]

There was several occasions where my ex behaved towards me in a rude manner..

No apology, always defensive.. Infact would blame me instead..

I learned the hard way.. You CANNOT win with a person like this.. Getting is the only option!

 

[soulforge]

I agree, thus I said it depends on the length of the relationship.

At the 8+ month mark, you have already seen MOST of their true colors and have made a self conscious decision that whatever she does that could be deemed as disrespectful is also tolerable. The pros certainly outweigh the cons. There are certainly no perfect women out there and all will do the occasional things that frustrate men. The big difference is if they do it naturally without knowing it or they intentionally do it to p!ss you off. One is correctable, the other is not. Its just a open wound oozing with problems later on.

Some women do things that we could take as disrespectful without even realizing it. Example: Being glued to their phones.

I do not expect a woman to never check her phone. Heck I dont even mind if she checks her phone on occasion if we are out. But doing it like crazy on a first date or very early on tells me that she is either an attention wh0re or she cant stay off it for any reasonable time period and its an automatic next. Why continue if thats what she is telling you that you'll be dealing with if you continue seeing her?

I agree with @bigneil that if its not something THAT disrespectful, just ignore it and her and reward the good behavior with attention. If she is a total retard she will figure it out if she wants to stick around. But there are certainly things that qualify for auto dumping early on.

Women can be very manipulative as we all know. My last relationship was great until about the 8 month mark when she started doing certain little things to p!ss me off and frustrate me. Rolling her eyes if I said something she didnt agree with, correcting me in front of someone, stuff like that. In hind sight, the sechs was great, everything else was great most of the time and the pros out weighed the cons.

Eventually it got to the point that I was frustrated more than satisfied, at that point you have to cut your losses and bounce.

My ex would do this all the time.. We would go to the most beautiful Nature Reserves..

Beautiful landscapes all around us, out in the open air and countryside.. I turn to look, she is glued to her phone, texting away.. Social media, Whatsapp etc etc

She was also in a work group chat on whatsapp, with around 15 other people on it. Constant ping ping ping ping ping grrrrrr!

When pointed out how annoying that is.. Offcourse she got defensive!

Constant messing around on the mobile phone, is a serious pizz take as far I am concerned.

 

[soulforge]

What if the chick treats you well in public, and everyone can see you have a good looking girl and it helps with your image, and she gives you good sex, but doesn't treat you great at home? Still walk away?

In laymans terms, go out with a good looking girl Friday/Saturday and be somewhat beta, or stay at home Friday/Saturday night and be alpha?

I think 99% of the men on this site, heck 99% men in the North America, would take enormous hits from a young good looking girl if she was giving him sex and helped his image.

This site acts like young good looking girls wanting to have a boyfriend to have sex with grow on trees.

Lets just say we go along with that narrative..

So when you are out in public, she treats you well around other people.. and looks good for your image!

When your home with her, she treats you with disrespect and you act all beta an tolerate it..

Why? So you can keep the sex, and it looks good for your image right?

Bettter than being alpha and home alone at the weekend?

How long do you think she will stick around, when she does not respect you? Not long..

Eventually her vagina will dry up, when she gets sick of dealing with a beta, spineless excuse of a man, who cannot stand up for himself..

That value and sex will only be TEMPORARY up untill she finds someone more attractive who has self respect and is more of a man..

What are you left with after she dumps you? Nothing man!

Your self esteem will have tanked, your dignity in ruins.. Is it really worth it?

 

[RangerMIke]

What if the chick treats you well in public, and everyone can see you have a good looking girl and it helps with your image, and she gives you good sex, but doesn't treat you great at home? Still walk away?

In laymans terms, go out with a good looking girl Friday/Saturday and be somewhat beta, or stay at home Friday/Saturday night and be alpha?

I think 99% of the men on this site, heck 99% men in the North America, would take enormous hits from a young good looking girl if she was giving him sex and helped his image.

This site acts like young good looking girls wanting to have a boyfriend to have sex with grow on trees.

I say again... if you do not like the way you are being treated then you should walk away. If you are willing to tolerate behavior in the interest of getting regular sex... well.... then I guess it doesn't bother you enough to get rid of that trade off. I'm not going to judge anyone on that. Men should do what they want. But if you have more than one chick then you won't put up with anything except fun and happiness because you don't have to. One chick stops being fun, go get another one.