How should I tell her I've never had sex?

[alboh]

Well I sure as hell ain't gonna try to fake it. That's something I'll really regret forever. Having VIRGIN stamped on my forehead would be nothing compared to having to lie to lose it.

I'm gonna go on a few more dates and just mess around (I'm anxious to work on my going-down skills anyway ). Build up some trust/rapport until she wants to screw. Then I'll break it to her.

Maybe she'll tell my friends but if they're good friends, open minded, very cool, I KNOW they'll understand. Maybe her group of friends will gossip, but if I cared what a bunch of chicks thought of me I'd still be an AFC. My cousin is dating one of her friends and he lost his virginity to her a while back, and he didn't face any gossip.

I am NOT going to strap a f***ing condom on that will freeze my ****, I am not going to pretend I've fvcked 100000 girls but still can't remember where to stick it in, I sure as hell am NOT EVER going to hire a prostitute to "show me the ropes".

Maybe when I am more experienced I will write a guide on what older virgins should do when it's time...right now all the advice sounds like I'm back in grade 7!

 

[Lionheart]

I wouldn't tell her.

But I can see your quandry, I personally would say, it's my second time, as then you can partially save face, she'll probably guess that it was your first, but at least you can call her a lying ***** if she tells anyone and she'll come out looking like she tried to slander you.

 

[HighLowJack]

I was 21 when I lost my virginity. I remember not being able to keep it hard enough to get it in. I had massive performance anxiety. I can usually whack golf balls with my wood. So keep in mind that it may happen. Here’s another question. Would you rather her tell her friends that you were awkward and fumbled around? Most guys are awkward and fumble around on their first try. You know She’s going to tell her friends. . Or would you rather tell her your big secret? Then tell her that is between the two of you, and no one else needs to know. Is she a virgin?

The bottom line is you need to get laid. Here’s your prime opportunity. You know your going to have to go for it no matter what.

Looking back on it, I don’t even remember if my girl told anyone or not. So in the long run, it doesn’t matter. Whatever bad became of my losing my virginity to at 21 to an experienced girl has long since been forgotten. I went on to have sex with lots and lots of other girls. You have to start someplace.

 

[leoncour]

Originally posted by miscombobulated2
Hey, me too; sans the part about actually having actually found a girl.

Me three. Lets start a support group.

 

[StuartScott x 2]

Alboh, just tell her to do all the work by getting on top. USe the extended pleasure condom, leave it on for a few minutes (whoever said that was right) and let her do the work, then hopefully if you last for more than 3 3-5 minutes, change positions by laying her down and have her put her legs over your knees (while your kneeling of course) and hold her waist up while pumping, this combined with her riding on top should get her off. anyway the lubricant should have kicked in my now and your diik will be numb..and then you can bust whenever you want to. Forget what that girl said about her knowing it's your first time, she doesn't have to know. Just act like you've done it before.

 

[assasin]

And for godsake don't say something stupid like "Is it in"

Oh the shame!

 

[NoMore]

I was a bit worried because the girl I lost my virginity to (at 24) was told by a "friend" that I was a virgin. Well, I long ago dropped the attitude of "I am proud to be a virgin" because it didn't work. This time I played mysterious. I didn't tell her that I was and i didn't tell her I wasn't. I used alot of maybe's and how do you know's. I had her thoroughly confused after a little dry humping, she even said "You don't move like a virgin".

Whoever said that the girl is selfish and thinks its all about her....they are correct, but probably just the same as guys. But, that doesn't mean you cannot please her. Spend plenty of time with the foreplay and oral, be responsive to what she does, her movements, her sounds, everything. If you go down on her right, it won't matter very much what you do during intercourse.

 

[Bungo Pony]

I think a lot of people are forgetting one of the major positives of being a virgin - virgins don't have any diseases.

It was mentioned above - we all have to start somewhere. Now that I look back on it, 20 isn't an old age to lose your virginity at.

Another thing that you're worried about is what if your friends find out? Who the hell cares! You should be more concerned about what you think about yourself, not what others think of you.

 

[Brad23]

Will we care what these women think 15 years down the line, when they look like s.hit and nobody gives a fcuk about them, and they're practically begging us to settle down with them?

No, then it'll be our turn to laugh in their faces.
Ha ha!

 

[alboh]

That sounds a little overly bitter. After all men judge women on just as much superficial **** as they do to us, right? I think its funny that we only go after 8's 9's and 10's and when they turn us down because of something we call THEM superficial.

 

[Unbridled_1]

you're in Montreal dude, one way or another you should be getting laid.

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

Originally posted by alboh
That sounds a little overly bitter. After all men judge women on just as much superficial **** as they do to us, right? I think its funny that we only go after 8's 9's and 10's and when they turn us down because of something we call THEM superficial.

Well you're forgetting one thing. At least most men are pretty much open about being superficial. Women try to hide behind this facade of being "complicated".

 

[Ladiesssman]

what's wrong being a virgin? Enjoy it. Don't you know how to fyck? You can bang her whether you're a virign or not.

Haven't you learnd from videos? What's taking so long?

Are you scared of early ejack. Just follow the advice of umbra. You'll make her enjoy you. Porn teaches you a lot of good shyt. Have fun.

 

[ogre]

for what it's worth.......

I DON'T agree about jerking off your wanky first. reasons below:

it took me a year or two longer to lose my V. at the time I didn't tell the girl I was dating until sometime afterwards. shortly thereaftre we broke up, I guess one thing led to another and she finally figured out what a loser I was. I was such a chump, how I ever managed to score this hottie was a miracle. a gift. so don't tell her. not now. not ever.

At that time, everybody told me that when I have my first time I'll get all nervous and go limp and mess it all up. the good news is that didn't happen in this case. it has happened since then, but that's another issue....

in this case, my virginity worked towards my advantage. we dated 7 times before we had sex, and each time we grew gradually more intimate. I didn't rush her for sex. I was so grateful to finally have a girlfriend that each little increment of intimacy was a gift to me. this gave me time to adjust. on the 6th date I jizzed all over her and she loved it. she kept saying "oh my God, that's a lot!" and on the 7th date my V days were over.

Fertility is definitely a turn on. and take it really slow. it'll crank up her IL besides....

next problem: you will probably come too fast. two things you can do to get around this. one is to foreplay her until she begs you to jam it in. the other thing is, after sex, clean up the mess, take a break, grab a snack or a smoke, hop in the bath with her, and do it again. whoo-hoo! it will be a lot more work for you 2nd time around but a lot more fun for her. sure beats spanking your wanky, yes?

I just wish I thought of that when I was dating the hottie......

 

[Trance]

Everyone has a first time.

My tips for you:


a) DONT tell her before!!

b) Do as much prelims you need to get it hard as a rock. She'll just think you're pleasing her, and making a lot of prelims like women like cause its your first time together

c) Rub it up and down between her **** and her puss, and press it a bit against her, that way you cant miss to find the secret spot. Or if you are unsure you're doing it right, touch her before with your finger, massage her, feel her wet, and search the spot with your finger

d) Have fun with it

 

[Roscoe]

The last time alboh wrote here was back in March 2003. I am a bit unsure about the importance of your advices to him at the moment

Tho, it would be interesting to learn what he eventually has decided to do.

 

[TizZle]

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[7 Virtues]

A little anecdote;

During the summer I was at with my friend at his buddies place getting drunk. His buddies fiance (which is another story in itself) invited her Croatian friend over. Stereotypical eastern european woman. I remember her asking me if I was a virgin, and I value my honesty far more than getting laid, so I told her the truth. I really need to work on that mystery thing.

So she gets up, goes to the fiance and they call up this guy. What I remember, their conversation went like this;

"Hey Guy, come on down"
Argue for a bit to get him down
Fiance "Come on down Guy she needs a REAL man"
Blah blah blah
Guy comes down a few hours later after girl has locked herself in the bathroom.

Yeah that was a slap in the face.

Remind me to work on the mystery part.

 

[englishman]

Dont tell her, crack open a bottle of wine and go for it........

 

[johnny_chase]

If she's the right girl she wont mind and she'll just want to spend time with you. If she's gonna be selfish about it and just assume that you'd suck, well, then next her. Sure, the first time might suck, but every time will just get better and better.