Gangster Of Love said:
You still don't get it, do you?
Why do you put so much stock in what women say they want? Go with what they do before what they say.
You acted, and apparently keep acting needy and treating her as the prize with your desperation on this one.
Nothing she does should or will explain why she does it. Get over that part. The fact you are so perturbed over her actions or lack thereof, should tell you you got a lot of work to do. Take this as a learning experience of how women dangle the carrot, then toss you if you act like a salivating, deperate doggy on a leash, at the thought of sex.
Of course she's not even that hot. Feeds her ego even more. Doesn't matter how hot or non-hot she is, the fact remains, any woman can get most men to act like desperate, needy tools.
if we want to judge her actions.. when i contacted her the next day by text to get her address.. she sent it. that's a pretty clear IOI. ok she cancelled 2 hours later and i've learnt to be cynical about everything but it doesn't make sense to me how something so little has completely changed her mind.
to update the story after i called her last night i left her a text saying what i wanted to say asking jokingly: hey so where's my offer of a time?
im pretty busy this week but i can do tomorrow, thursday or sunday. you pick the day and offer me the time.'
this followed on from the earlier text in the afternoon of 'tut tut.. if you've cancelled it's your responsibility to offer another time..
not mine. you're losing points with me now.'
obviously i called/texted too much yesterday and surprisingly she didn't get back to me.
if we're going on what you're saying which i believe is true.. i called her just now she hung up on me before she even answered.
but then she texts me straightafter: 'hey, got your messages sorry, been crazy busy. i'd love to meet up sunday. just name the place and time.'
is she just toying with me and is gona cancel again?
i made the mistake of offering too many free days.. i should have suggested just 2 maximum. but that's neither here nor there.
i felt i needed to seem less available and somewhat tell her not to cancel again cos it's like im her lapdog.. if i agreed to sunday outright im just demonstrating my availability.. even tho it was offered.
so i told her: 'you're too late, sunday afternoon is already taken (evening might be possible.. we'll see) what about thursday 9pm? (p.s. u better not cancel again
, you've already done that twice now and u only get 2 of those with me (whatever the reason
) then it's over. its the 3 strike rule.'
she hasn't got back to me yet.. (maybe cos she knows she'll try to cancel and expects me to just take it so this stops her from trying it)
i know you'll probably criticise me for writing that bit but it's worked before cos it c0ckblocks them from cancelling again knowing that if they do i'll walk.. (allbeit some may try it to just test you but i have to stick to my guns)
under the circumstances i think it was necessary i communicate that cancelling isn't acceptable for me.. which is maybe why she hasn't got back to me.. i left in the sunday evening might be possible so i can follow it up if she doesn't get back to me about thursday.
see, if i agreed sunday and everything was all rosey me thinking i got a meeting then she cancels i'll wish i did it this way.
even tho she accepted sunday and i told her it was too late, and offered thursday if she doesn't get back to me i can't follow up with the sunday evening like i said can i?
the worse thing i could have done was say i cant do sunday then offere thursday.. not get a reply, panic and say i cancelled my plans sunday and can now do it.. by me semi saying im busy sunday afternoon it gives me that option open.. not ideal i know but better.
is she likely to just cancel u think?
i told her not to so her hands are tied.
i could have just agreed sunday
