How should I manage the transition?

[golf299]

i'm sure a lot of you guys have been here, but this is my first time...here's the situation:

i see this girl nearly every day. we've gone out plenty of times in a group-type setting. a couple times it was just me, her and another friend. we've even done some leisure activities together (just me and her). she has reciprocated kino and doesn't seem put off by me.

the problem is this: we've always just hung out casually.

what is the best/easiest way to transition to a date? what's the easist way to make it clear that i am in fact asking her out on a date?

thanks guys!

 

[golf299]

someone, anyone??

 

[Desdinova]

Give a little more info. Do you ever talk to this girl, or do you just talk to your friend(s)?

 

[golf299]

i talk to this girl all the time...nearly every day.

i just want to approach this in the best way possible and any suggestions would be helpful...thanks.

 

[DeathDealer]

Whatever you do, DO NOT ask her out on a date. You've already shown your interest in kinoing and she probably knows it too. She's just waiting for you to make a move.. but ONLY in an isolated situation.

Why not ask her out for a date? Well let me tell you why, if you call her up and say.. Hey you're cool let's go date. She might LJBF or it might put her in an awkward position because you cannot do friends then lovers just "by asking."

Ask her to hang out with you one on one "So I hear there's this interesting event that I'm thinking of going annnd I was wondering if you wanted to come along" - she'll say yes. Please make a move during this time if she says yes.

However, if she says YES and wants to bring a friend along. She doesn't like you that much.. and you are in the abyssmal friends zone. Why are you in the friends zone? She's already hung out with you several times with you and her friend(s.) She should be at this point comfortable being one on one with you.

Oh, and please stop talking to this girl everyday.

 

[Kaine]

I agree with DeathDealers advice, go for it and let us know how it goes.

 

[golf299]

we will both be attending the same party tomrrow night... im going with a different girl that im not interested in, but the target girl will be there...

any advice for the situation on how i could isolate there?

 

[golf299]

suggestions?

 

[Desdinova]

im going with a different girl that im not interested in, but the target girl will be there...

Flirt with the ugly one. The hottie will take notice and start to desire you. That's called social proof. It doesn't matter how unattractive the woman you're flirting with is, what matters is you chose her instead of the hottie. At least that's how the hottie will see it.

 

[Maverick001]

golf299,

If you want to have the girl go out with you on a one-on-one date, do it in a confident and manly way.

For example, "I'm going to event such and such at such and such time. If you want to have fun, meet me there at such and such time."

Don't ask. Tell and lead.

If she says ok, then it's on. If she says no, GO ANYWAY and have a good time yourself.

Definitely use other girls to crank up this girl's jealousy and up your social proof.

Tell us what happens.

Cheers,
Mav

 

[FunnyCide]

Too much thinking invovled here...you want her...go get her. Sounds like she's already waiting for you to make a move so do it before her IL drops.

 

[flexion_]

Yep - make a move. Its the only way you'll be able to tell. Ask her along to something you do that is fun and that you both have have in common.

 

[golf299]

UPDATE

so here's what went down last night...it wasn't a lot.

i got to the party late, as she was already there. i saw her right when i walked in but proceeded to go around to all the people i knew and said my hello's. i then sat down with my drink and some food and she came over to me and started chatting. we talked periodically throughout the night. there were a ton of people there and it was pretty loud as well. she ended up leaving early b/c the girls she was with wanted to split.

i saw her leaving but did not attempt to go over and tell her goodbye. instead she came back over to me, we said our goodbyes and i gave her a hug.

that was it. there really wasn't a good opportunity to isolate her and set something up. i was debating on calling her tonight to see if she "wanted to help me go shop for my parents for x-mas".

good/bad/suggestions?

thanks guys!

 

[DeathDealer]

we've already told you enough man. do you need someone to hold your hand?