How Should I Deal With This Liar?

[soulforge]

Need some advice guys..

Been seeing this chick for around 3 months.. good looking and has a hot body, but she is defo not relationship material.. I am having fun with her, but have no intention of getting into a serious relationship with her.. ever lol


Anyhow, I, m a pretty busy guy, working 10 hours a day, plus in the gym alot.. the only free night I get is either friday or saturday night..

Anyhow, had arranged to go over and bang this chick on Saturday night, but she sent me a text saying, she has to look after her daughter, and she cant see me saturday, so could I come over sunday night instead?

Told her straight, sunday night is not possible, as i have work early in the morning, so best just leave it for another night..

Anyhow come saturday night, she starts sending me drunk text messages late at night...


She forgot and slipped up.. she told me she was staying, at home to look after her daughter, but in fact she was out drinking, on a night out.

She even admitted lying about it, but tried to play it down as a little white lie...


Anyhow, I dont give a rats arse about her going out drinking.. but i feel somewhat disrespected because she lied to me, and made up excuses not to see me that night...


I hate bieng lied to...

Should I call this bi#ch out? Tell her straight I dont appreciate bieng lied to?

Or ignore her lies, and just carry on banging her, if and when I can...


What do you do in a situation, when you catch a plate out, lying? ??

 

[apprenticedj]

IMO, and it's just my opinion, disrespect is disrespect. You felt disrespected and a man of value shouldn't feel that way.

I would personally go ghost on this one, I wouldn't make any declarations or let her know I was pissed, my silence would speak for me. She'll reach out to you soon after and I would stay aloof, say you've been busy.

 

[soulforge]

I feel somewhat disrespected, also if I don't call her out on this, could I be setting myself up for more lies and more flaking by her?

 

[soulforge]

But by going ghost for a while, I really dont think she will make the connection, on why I am not talking to her... is it not better to just let her know that she was out of order, and I do not tolerate disrespect?

How about I ignore her for a couple of days, then if she asks me, what is the problem? I tell her straight that I dont appreciate bieng lied to or disrespected?

I could tell her, I dont give a rats arse about her going out drinking, but do not try to pull the wool over my eyes?

If she does not like what I say.. then she can find some other chump, she can lie to, or manipulate..


Give me your opinions guys...


Carry on banging her, and say nothing?

Or call her out for showing disrespect?

 

[Starfvcks 64]

You already said she's not relationship material, so there is no reason to explain the obvious about that. You want her around to fvck on your days off, and I understand that because I work five nights a week too. It's nice to have a plate that requires no effort, and easy sex when I want it. I don't know what your relationship is like with this girl beyond sex, but it's obvious she showed you disrespect in this situation - you only know she disrespected you because she was drunk and thinking about you (which has good and bad elements in itself). It's not the same as flaking because she wasn't interested, and I can even understand a girl not wanting to say she made plans, but you need to let her know you won't tolerate it again. She probably will do it again, only more carefully so you don't find out, but still, this will probably be exactly what she needs to take you more seriously, and become more comfortable with you as well.

Tell her what you said here: I dont give a rats arse about her going out drinking.. but i feel somewhat disrespected because she lied to me. Let her know you expect better and mean it. If she does it again, then it's a problem.

 

[Roni_88]

Its all about what you feel and think. if you really feel disrrspected let her know as something for your own well being f`@#% whatever she can think or say.

 

[Donnie Darko]

Single moms are always pump and dump and never relationship material.

Only treat her like a FWB/fvck buddy and nothing more.

 

[Donaldinho]

You can't be reactive to her sh1t. She knows she ****ed up so don't even say anything.
Like someone above said, I'd go no contact and let her chase you. You get the upper hand and then you can go back to just banging her.
If she doesn't chase you back in a month, drop her completely.
If she comes back but flakes again, drop on the spot.
My 2c.

 

[soulforge]

You can't be reactive to her sh1t. She knows she ****ed up so don't even say anything.
Like someone above said, I'd go no contact and let her chase you. You get the upper hand and then you can go back to just banging her.
If she doesn't chase you back in a month, drop her completely.
If she comes back but flakes again, drop on the spot.
My 2c.

Here is the thing.. she really has not made the connection, of why I am pissed off...


Going ghost for a couple of days, then going back to fuking her.. how does that teach her not to lie or disrsspect me, of she does not even know why I went ghost??

Does not make much sense

 

[soulforge]

That does not make much sense..

She could be thinking I am busy.. or banging another chick, or just lost interest in her...

I dont see how that would teach her not to lie or disrespect if she does not make the connection

 

[Donaldinho]

She knows why you went NC, unless there were other issues.
And if she does come back and hasn't learned her lesson, like I said before, just drop her.
If you make a big thing about being disrespected, it shows you care too much.
You already said she's not ltr material, so why do you care?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

If she is truly just a phuck buddy you can't get mad, because you shouldn't have any actual feelings or emotion invested in her.

You said she pretty much admitted it, so move on and hit her up when you want to bust a nutzzz.

Calling her out is pointless because a) you already know she's not relationship material 2) it won't accomplish anything because she doesn't owe you $hit, just as you don't either.

You can pull back a bit and see if she hits you up, but don't go complete NC because this isn't a girl you should be taking seriously anyways.







PIMP

 

[Fireballs]

Women respond best to covert communication. Don't call her out... Doing so is pointless. She may agree with you and apologise but I guarantee she will do it to you again.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Pimp nailed it. She's not your girlfriend, she owes you nothing.
I've caught plates lying but I didn't give a fvck because I was banging other women.
Just laugh it off and don't mention it. I tip she'll give you an outrageously good fvcking next time you bang.
As long as she's riding your pole, that's all you have to worry about. Anything she does outside the bedroom is truly none of your concern.