How powerful is "IGNORING"

[BangBus]

Alright guys how much of a powerful tool is ignoring a woman? When is the best time to ignore her?

For ex: Take her out, spend some time, hit it then ignore her making her come to you right?

I just dont understand how powerful ignoring her is, when she could easily just dump you and move on

 

[Driven2Succeed]

Ehh.. mostly depends on her interest level and the type of relationship you guys are in or the type of relationship you want..

I mean you definitely wanna stay busy with other interests other than her, but you also have to know how to balance it. I've found I do my best when I am busy with the Army, working out, doing stuff, and chillin with my other friends.. thats key IMO, just having a life outside of her. If you are staying busy you don't have to ignore her, you truthfully just don't have time to be on her ass 24/7, but she will appreciate that if shes a woman with other stuff going on, ya know?

As far as her just "leaving", it goes back to her interest level. If she's like most girls and actually likes you, then she will crave seeing you. I think its all about how you make her feel when shes with you. If you guys have good times and she likes you, than just do your thing and include her in your life.

I dunno man, everyone is gonna have different views and opinions, based on their personal experiences with girls/women.. I try to keep the games to a minimum, no need if you guys have a good thing going..

but like I said, thats based on my past relationships and trial and error.

Hope that helps..

 

[JJMcLure]

Ignoring is an extreme. Withdrawing attention is more the kind of thing you can do. It won't work unless you have demonstrated value to her, and she has attraction to you.

Ignoring her (blanking her) won't get you far and you'll come off an ass. Paying her less attention, but still being friendly when you do see her is how to play it. But if you overdo it, or let her know you're doing it deliberately, she'll just think you're a jerk and hate you.

 

[vp171s]

The problem with ignoring is that you can't just ease your way into it. You are either not ignoring her, or ignoring her. I find it difficult to walk a line there. And ignoring is a bad idea period. If she does/did have interest she'll think to herself (assuming you like girls who CAN think) "what the hell happened? well fine, two can play that game". And suddenly you have a problem you didn't even have to worry about.

 

[NoNickname]

I met this Argentinian girl on the web one year ago, and after having sent some pictures of me, she seems to be very interested. She's always the one who says hello, and I'm like ignoring her a little. Then, yesterday, she said to me: "you know I love it when you are like ignoring me". So, I think it can work pretty well sometimes, to somewhat ignore an interested girl.

 

[GaryUranga]

Ignoring is like my basic tool, I not all that skilled in the other ones so I use ignoring, when I see some girl I like I just do the opposite of what a guy that liked her would do, if shes around I dont stay there till shes go I'll actually be first to live if shes talking to my friends I'll just actreally uninterested, while Im ignoring I just sorta proyect myself at her, with body language and all the attractive cues, this usually gets their attention and after like the firls 2 times I see her she'll be like staring at me or playing with her hair, thats like my basic all around aproach, if I get to talk to her like she asks me something I'll just play t cool, act relaxed answer or say somethign witty, whatever comes to mind and back to the ignore.

I would reccoment showing bit of interest you might want to look at her and make eye contact just so that she doesnt think that you have no interest, send the mixed signals. Works for me at least.

 

[Lovesorrow]

Paying her less attention, but still being friendly when you do see her is how to play it.

Yeah, this is what I like to do!

 

[BangBus]

Well i was seeing her, then we just stopped seeing eachother (been 2 weeks) but we have spoke on the phone couple times ( i called once, and she called once) I know she'll call again, and i should'nt take the call = voicemail? Yes i was hitting it

 

[DreamyChick]

Why must men and women play games? It's absolutely ridiculous. Most recently one of my guy friend's has been returning my calls and emails and we spoke weekly. Well then all the sudden he got busy taking classes and work and didn't speak to me for 3 weeks said that wasn't that long in his eyes. Yet he still encourages me to continue calling him on a regular basis....What is up with that? I told him since he was so busy I was going to stop calling and wait for him to call me. He was like no please call me.

 

[GaryUranga]

and here you are talkign about him, so who's winning the game?

PS, do you have an email?

 

[chandidas]

Why must men and women play games? It's absolutely ridiculous. Most recently one of my guy friend's has been returning my calls and emails and we spoke weekly. Well then all the sudden he got busy taking classes and work and didn't speak to me for 3 weeks said that wasn't that long in his eyes. Yet he still encourages me to continue calling him on a regular basis....What is up with that? I told him since he was so busy I was going to stop calling and wait for him to call me. He was like no please call me.

he likes you...but guess he made a mistake there! :crazy:

 

[Tom Juan]

Women tend to want what they can't have, especially beautiful women. Since they are so used to AFCs just drooling over them and putting them on pedestals, if you ignore her she will be more responsive to you.

 

[Boschy]

I don't ignore, but rather I try to be nonchalant. Subtle difference. In some of the duller conversations I get from women (pretty ditzy types), it's not difficult at all, LOL.

 

[DreamyChick]

and here you are talkign about him, so who's winning the game?

PS, do you have an email?

He is. He always does. There's the background.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=950928#post950928

 

[Remulak]

Why must men and women play games? It's absolutely ridiculous. Most recently one of my guy friend's has been returning my calls and emails and we spoke weekly. Well then all the sudden he got busy taking classes and work and didn't speak to me for 3 weeks said that wasn't that long in his eyes. Yet he still encourages me to continue calling him on a regular basis....What is up with that? I told him since he was so busy I was going to stop calling and wait for him to call me. He was like no please call me.

Yea games are a b1tch don't ask WHY people play them because it's never going to change. The only way to respond to any game is with indifference.

 

[jakeyboy]

Women crave affection and attention. i give them some, i romance them, i show them how wonderful life with me is... then i leave, and their world is cold and gloomy. (mind you, i don't do it on purpose, i'm genuinely too busy with school work and other things in life.) then just when they are at the brink of despair, i pick up where i left off. it messes them up big time. someone who is constantly there for them loses value as time goes by. so give them the gift of missing you ever so often.