How often to date same girl?

[wonderer]

Hi All,

Just wondering how often is a good time to be dating the same girl, date once a week? went on a date with a girl two days ago, and will be scarcely texting in the lead up to the next one but just wondering when that should be, do you do a few days in-between?

I am spinning other plates too.

Thanks

 

[wonderer]

Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot

 

[Yewki]

No rules. See her as much as you want.

I definitely don't advise this. If OP doesn't know what he's doing, then doing what he wants isn't a good idea.

Ah okay fair enough, wasn't sure if I should leave time for her to miss me, or just go with it while the flames hot

Yes, strike when the flame is hot during the date. But in regards to contacting and scheduling dates, you want her to value your time. You want her to value you. Guess what happens if you're overly available? Your value lowers. Sorry that's just the way it is. As much as we'd like to contact a girl whenever we feel like it, we should respect basic human psychology. This involves playing "the game" to some degree

In general I would not recommend more than one date per week. Even if she seems highly interested and responsive, making her wait can do wonders and is something every DJ should practice.

 

[ubercat]

Yep yewki s right. Self- control is a muscle.

 

[LiveYourDream]

strike when the flame is hot during the date. But in regards to contacting and scheduling dates, you want her to value your time. You want her to value you. Guess what happens if you're overly available? Your value lowers.

^^^^^^^^^^^ This, with every woman, every time. Anything else simply will diminish your potential returns.

 

[Serenity]

I do as often as I want if she has the time. If a woman doesn't want it that often she's not a woman for me. If she claims to want it but on most occasions don't have time she's not a woman for me.

Trying to make it together every day is unrealistic, unless none of you have a life. Less than once a week I consider too little, especially if the delay is on her part I assume she's too busy for anything or not interested enough. Anything between that is fine by me, I'd want to see someone I like a lot as often as possible and so would a woman.