This girl has shown a lot of interest in me the last few months, so the past four weekends we've hung out alone (we're both seniors in high school). Each date ended up with us hooking up, going a little further every time (furthest we got was hooking up with our shirts off). She was going on vacation with her family from last Friday (2/13) to this Tuesday (2/17), so I set up another date with her for Thursday. After dinner, when we were hooking up in the back of my car, she started with the "what is this"/"what are we" type of questions. Eventually we decided to be boyfriend/girlfriend. We continued hooking up after this talk and she gave me a hand job in the car. Just before I dropped her home, she asked me if I only agreed to a relationship for sex. I laughed and told her it was sincere. She's a good/respectable girl type (I doubt she's kissed more than 2 guys, including me, and that was definitely the first sexual act she's done) so I was expecting her to ask something like that.
Another thing that she mentioned on Thursday was how we only really talk on the weekends. Because of our class schedules, I don't see her much in school besides the occasional walk by in the hallway (and even then I normally don't notice her or say anything to her). I mentioned to her that we text during the week sometimes, but she responded by saying that they're usually very short conversations. This is accurate, as normally it's just a few texts back and forth on one day of the week for me to set up a date (with the exception a couple of long conversations at some point). I used to be the type to have long non-stop text conversations with girls a couple of years ago, but it doesn't really make sense anymore as I'm always busy with stuff now and I'm the girl has their own things they need to do. I made a joke about her being a bad texter, and somehow the topic ended up changing, and we didn't come back to it the rest of the night.
My question is, how often should I be talking to her? I like her and enjoy spending time with her, but I'm not really the type to give her a lot of attention. I don't want to start texting her or talking too much and come across as needy, but I also don't want to think I'm just using her for sex. She texted me on Friday, and we talked until she fell asleep. She texted in the morning, and we continued until I eventually fell asleep, but I didn't respond when I woke up. I'd probably end up texting her on Wednesday to set up another date for this weekend, and maybe see her in school on Thursday or Friday. Th only contact I normally have with her is when I set up the date, and the date itself. Should I increase the amount of contact now that we're in a relationship, or just continue what I'm doing?
Another thing that she mentioned on Thursday was how we only really talk on the weekends. Because of our class schedules, I don't see her much in school besides the occasional walk by in the hallway (and even then I normally don't notice her or say anything to her). I mentioned to her that we text during the week sometimes, but she responded by saying that they're usually very short conversations. This is accurate, as normally it's just a few texts back and forth on one day of the week for me to set up a date (with the exception a couple of long conversations at some point). I used to be the type to have long non-stop text conversations with girls a couple of years ago, but it doesn't really make sense anymore as I'm always busy with stuff now and I'm the girl has their own things they need to do. I made a joke about her being a bad texter, and somehow the topic ended up changing, and we didn't come back to it the rest of the night.
My question is, how often should I be talking to her? I like her and enjoy spending time with her, but I'm not really the type to give her a lot of attention. I don't want to start texting her or talking too much and come across as needy, but I also don't want to think I'm just using her for sex. She texted me on Friday, and we talked until she fell asleep. She texted in the morning, and we continued until I eventually fell asleep, but I didn't respond when I woke up. I'd probably end up texting her on Wednesday to set up another date for this weekend, and maybe see her in school on Thursday or Friday. Th only contact I normally have with her is when I set up the date, and the date itself. Should I increase the amount of contact now that we're in a relationship, or just continue what I'm doing?
