How often do you meet a woman you are REALLY attracted to? Just met the latest.....

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My pattern seems to be about one every 1-2 years. If I am in a relationship, it seems to follow the same pattern after I get out of the relationship.

True to my pattern (been out of a relationship for about 1.5 yrs), I recently met a hottie that pushes my buttons.

Was out with friends a few weeks ago, and I look across the bar and see this chick looking over in a not too subtle way. I go about my business an five minutes later she walks up and introduces herself with a cheesy pickup line "Where do I know you from?" lol.

Turns out she's a friend of a friend of the people I was there with that night, so I should be seeing her again this weekend.

A couple of clicks through my Myspace network and I find her page. Come to find out she's a newly minted 21 yr old! :nono:

Damn I'm a dirty old man....
 

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STR8UP, I was just about to respond to your other thread concerning the musings over if there is a sexual revolution taking place. I was going to say that I’m not sure if sexual revolution is the most appropriate wording but rather “sexual ignorance.” We can look into a woman’s eyes and read her soul. If what I see is what I think I see, then this sexual revolution is going in the wrong direction, my opinion. Let me put it this way: I cannot put a number to your question. It's just too infrequent.
 

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Deep Dish said:
STR8UP, I was just about to respond to your other thread concerning the musings over if there is a sexual revolution taking place. I was going to say that I’m not sure if sexual revolution is the most appropriate wording but rather “sexual ignorance.” We can look into a woman’s eyes and read her soul. If what I see is what I think I see, then this sexual revolution is going in the wrong direction, my opinion. Let me put it this way: I cannot put a number to your question. It's just too infrequent.
Thats what I was curious about.

It seemed kind of odd that for me it almost always comes around at about the 1.5 yr mark. It must be ME or something that I am doing. Maybe that's when I become more open to BEING attracted to someone. I'm not sure.

The funny thing is that I meet waaaay more women who are attracted to me nowadays, but the good ol' 1.5 yr rule still holds true regardless, so I know it has nothing to do with the number of opportunities I have.

I dunno, I think I might also have issues with attracting or being attracted to women who don't have much relationship potential. I usually end up attracted to much younger women (as in this case AND with my last g/f) or older ones who aren't really relationship material.

Maybe it's my subconscious mind not letting me get involved with qualified candidates for fear of actually wanting to commit ??

Anyways, I find it interesting to study patterns of behavior, especially when it comes to myself and how they effect my relationships.

As for the sexual revolution thing, I would be interested in hearing you elaborate on what you are saying, cause I think it takes the discussion to another level that hasn't been elaborated on; the idea of whether or not it's a "good" or a "bad" thing.
 

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hey guys

I'm not known around here but who cares living life is what its about right? I was born with some alpha qualities but also with some afc qualities (everyone gets a mixed bag u never know what ur gonna get!) and I have realized like you as well that we must constantly perfect ourselves, and our personality etc etc... So I have done that and paid close attention to this issue of our current society and its sexual behaviours, from many perspectives.

It is pretty clear to me through my experience that not only the sexual trends, but pretty much most of this societies trends are BAD things! The whole way of people relating to sex is destroying the world if you are a deep person and have access to many sources of not just information, but wisdom if I could use that as a way to explain it...

This forum has been a tremendous additional proof for me, because the real DJ's or whatever u wanna call it, all follow certain patterns and notice one has to break through to reach that? It is not groomed in our culture naturally! Women are becoming soooo messed up, the truth is I have no idea how to fix them... Just us guys have to sort thru many women to find a good one!
 

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STR8UP said:
As for the sexual revolution thing, I would be interested in hearing you elaborate on what you are saying, cause I think it takes the discussion to another level that hasn't been elaborated on; the idea of whether or not it's a "good" or a "bad" thing.
Through my eyes peering into their souls, I see soullessness and empty vortexes. I see spiritual death and I don't see a genuine appreciation for men. I see women hoisting themselves up as queens of sexuality conquerers of men, slaying men with their slithering tongues and cash boxes for hearts. The snake with tits, the female land shark, the vagina dentata; men as pawns in their game of chess. Their badly highlighted hair streaks, their purses which hang in their armpits, their "woot! woot!" calls of the wild; their relationship monkeying, their stringing along six men at once, their compartmentalizing men into different roles, their amoral wasteland. Women are entirely sexual and it floods out to every corner of our doughnut shaped? universe. It is endless and knows no bounds. Nowadays with sexual expression freeing up, along going the hypothesis, finding girls gone wild is so commonplace it's stupid and uninspiring. Really, where are awe-inspiring women?

Regardless of if women are passive receptors as venus fly traps or Napoleon on the march for new victories, women are the devourers of men. Sex destroys beauty—it loosens the lips but it also stops mental development; the female personality stagnates and men waste away in idle pursuits. Even though I have always disagreed with social conservatives who promote waiting until marriage to have sex, I respect their intentions and the disagreement is solely methodological. There must be erected a "wall" between women and their sexuality, and sadly the floodgates have fallen.

A sad moment of realization was not so long ago. There is this lady who I "really" liked for years. We were co-workers from that Italian restaurant we've eaten at twice and she seemed like a real quality woman. She left for another restaurant and that was that for about two years. Some time ago, I began running into her and I still do because we have mutual friends and mutual hang-out places. As I grew to get to know her better, how she aspires for the entertainment business, still works in the same restaurant and plans to bartend, and how she gets banged by guys I'm buddies with; and after a year there was the sad moment when I realized that possibly her whole idea of career motivation is sleeping around to get ahead.

There is only one woman I've ever met—other than relatives of course—who still garners much respect. I also worked with her at the restaurant and she was so compassionate and warm, graceful, so well-refined and cultured, not to mention the hottest redhead. She always hinted the door was open but I was too shy. (Hindsight is always a bytch.) I actually looked her up recently and found a picture of her on Google; turns out she moved to LA and is now a producer of a show on the SPEED channel.

My point is, I think, that the sexual revolution neglects the humanistic side to human relations. The American sexual lexicon is full of terms—friends with benefits, fvck buddies, booty calls, etc.—and vague definitions—e.g. going out on a date isn't a date it's "hanging out", etc.—just to avoid the idea of commitment. We are Eskimos who have 50 words to say "ice"... but in the process what is happening to humanism?
 

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Deep Dish said:
It is endless and knows no bounds. Nowadays with sexual expression freeing up, along going the hypothesis, finding girls gone wild is so commonplace it's stupid and uninspiring. Really, where are awe-inspiring women?
I would say "in other countries, more specifically poorer and less developed countries with more traditional values", however, I have seen the other side of these women as well.

There must be erected a "wall" between women and their sexuality, and sadly the floodgates have fallen.
So I assume that you agree with what I am saying.

There's nothing I would love more than to KNOW that I have found a nice, innocent woman to have a relationship with, possibly even long term :eek: But how does one really know what they are getting?

A sad moment of realization was not so long ago. There is this lady who I "really" liked for years. We were co-workers from that Italian restaurant we've eaten at twice and she seemed like a real quality woman.
Yea man, you were the MACK DADDY at the restaurant! The chicks loved you from what I could see. You need to introduce me to the ones you dont have time for!

As I grew to get to know her better, how she aspires for the entertainment business, still works in the same restaurant and plans to bartend, and how she gets banged by guys I'm buddies with; and after a year there was the sad moment when I realized that possibly her whole idea of career motivation is sleeping around to get ahead.
Funny you mention this, cause as you know I am involved in a new biz that has the potential to make me the target of women like this. I actually had one of the models thats in my commercials over at my place at a party not too long ago. By the middle of the night she was asking about my relationship status, by the end of the night she was flashing me her t!ts and talking about how she wasn't getting laid and going into graphic detail about how she masturbates.

I promise not to take advantage of my position ;)

Back on topic for a moment (but still on the side topic), looks like there might be another prospect coming down the pipeline that I met awhile back and was attracted to.

The girl that introduced us messaged me the other day on myspace and said that her friend "J" wants us to hang out sometime soon.

This is one of the long line of chicks that I have met recently that have boyfriends, yet have no issues with expressing their attraction towards me. Actually this one's b/f happens to be in a rock band that is pretty well known, so who knows what her motivation is. Maybe he isn't home enough to take care of business??

She is a real cutie with an amazing upbeat personality, but (here we go again) she only 24 yrs old.

So we will see how this one pans out. Honestly I wouldn't mind a casual fling with her but not much else.
 

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Deep Dish said:
Through my eyes peering into their souls, I see soullessness and empty vortexes. I see spiritual death and I don't see a genuine appreciation for men. I see women hoisting themselves up as queens of sexuality conquerers of men, slaying men with their slithering tongues and cash boxes for hearts. The snake with tits, the female land shark, the vagina dentata; men as pawns in their game of chess. Their badly highlighted hair streaks, their purses which hang in their armpits, their "woot! woot!" calls of the wild; their relationship monkeying, their stringing along six men at once, their compartmentalizing men into different roles, their amoral wasteland. Women are entirely sexual and it floods out to every corner of our doughnut shaped? universe. It is endless and knows no bounds. Nowadays with sexual expression freeing up, along going the hypothesis, finding girls gone wild is so commonplace it's stupid and uninspiring. Really, where are awe-inspiring women?

Regardless of if women are passive receptors as venus fly traps or Napoleon on the march for new victories, women are the devourers of men. Sex destroys beauty—it loosens the lips but it also stops mental development; the female personality stagnates and men waste away in idle pursuits. Even though I have always disagreed with social conservatives who promote waiting until marriage to have sex, I respect their intentions and the disagreement is solely methodological. There must be erected a "wall" between women and their sexuality, and sadly the floodgates have fallen.

A sad moment of realization was not so long ago. There is this lady who I "really" liked for years. We were co-workers from that Italian restaurant we've eaten at twice and she seemed like a real quality woman. She left for another restaurant and that was that for about two years. Some time ago, I began running into her and I still do because we have mutual friends and mutual hang-out places. As I grew to get to know her better, how she aspires for the entertainment business, still works in the same restaurant and plans to bartend, and how she gets banged by guys I'm buddies with; and after a year there was the sad moment when I realized that possibly her whole idea of career motivation is sleeping around to get ahead.

There is only one woman I've ever met—other than relatives of course—who still garners much respect. I also worked with her at the restaurant and she was so compassionate and warm, graceful, so well-refined and cultured, not to mention the hottest redhead. She always hinted the door was open but I was too shy. (Hindsight is always a bytch.) I actually looked her up recently and found a picture of her on Google; turns out she moved to LA and is now a producer of a show on the SPEED channel.

My point is, I think, that the sexual revolution neglects the humanistic side to human relations. The American sexual lexicon is full of terms—friends with benefits, fvck buddies, booty calls, etc.—and vague definitions—e.g. going out on a date isn't a date it's "hanging out", etc.—just to avoid the idea of commitment. We are Eskimos who have 50 words to say "ice"... but in the process what is happening to humanism?
DD. How thoughtful.

I mean for reals here. You are talking about something real.

On the other hand, in terms of finding high-quality chicks, I will say this: you need to get OUT of the hospitality/restaurant/entertainment industry.

Everyone in that industry ****s everybody else. Accept it.

But in terms of mainstream society: if you want committed "traditional" girls, go join a church.

(And be prepared to buy her a ring to get into her p*ssy).

Sorry, don't mean to be harsh, but that's the way society is divided up right now: small minorities in extreme corners....gaping vacuum in the middle.

Guys like me just roll with it and take the opportunity to indulge the sexual appetites of these "snakes with tits"....

(...who I find are often just scared little girls inside looking for love....)

...Do you really want US to be sucking up all these girls' attention and love?
 

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To the OP, don't take any offense, but I don't see the point of your post. The guys on sosuave can't help you make a decision about whether to have sex with the 21 or 24 year old or not. It's up to you. It's just mental masturbation going back and forth about whether this woman can or will be your soul mate. Life is passing you by as you mull it over.

Chances are, she'll get bored with you and let some other guy(s) fvck her brains out. Why torture yourself with this back and forth in the meantime. Good luck.


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NorPacWolf said:
To the OP, don't take any offense, but I don't see the point of your post. The guys on sosuave can't help you make a decision about whether to have sex with the 21 or 24 year old or not. It's up to you. It's just mental masturbation going back and forth about whether this woman can or will be your soul mate. Life is passing you by as you mull it over.

Chances are, she'll get bored with you and let some other guy(s) fvck her brains out. Why torture yourself with this back and forth in the meantime. Good luck.


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Huh? Decision about having sex? Soulmate? What???

The post was about how often you find women you are really attracted to. I stated that my "magic" number was approximately 18 months, and I gave an example of the latest attraction.

I don't know what post you were reading.
 

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chics that i have some kind of inexplicable amazing attraction to happen probably three times a year at most.

otherwise there are TONS of chics i find myself attracted to, but not with that added magical spark.
 

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When I was in college and took a Sex Offenders class, I learned there six different sexual philosophies:

Traditional Repressive Asceticism
Social conservatism; wait until marriage to have sex; the traditional nuclear family; think 1950's.

Enlightened Asceticism
Monks; sexual transmutation; use all that sexual energy on other things to become someone great.

Humanistic Liberalism
To each their own. It's up to the individual to decide what is right and wrong. (This is where I stand)

Humanistic Radicalism
"Don't knock it until you try it."

Fun Morality
If it feels good do it. Reminds me when I was reading a book on Buddhism and it had a brief mention of a philosophy that you must have sex with a woman because if you didn't then you would be depriving her of feeling good!

Sexual Anarchy
I think this is self-explanatory: hedonism.

Of course, since I fall into the middle category, I must acknowledge that people are free to have whatever sexual revolution they want.
STR8UP:
I actually had one of the models thats in my commercials over at my place at a party not too long ago. By the middle of the night she was asking about my relationship status, by the end of the night she was flashing me her t!ts and talking about how she wasn't getting laid and going into graphic detail about how she masturbates.
And from what I hear, a part-time stripper. I have a fatal attraction towards strippers, even though I've never had one.
thirtyplus:
in terms of finding high-quality chicks, I will say this: you need to get OUT of the hospitality/restaurant/entertainment industry. Everyone in that industry ****s everybody else. Accept it.
True that. I was in the restaurant industry for the better part of four years and did always marvel at the 80% rule. Four out of five people either smoke, are alcoholic, or do drugs; and there was always the token fifth person who was clean. Sex, drugs, booze, and rock 'n roll. I do firmly believe the industry disproportionately attracts chaotic people like moths to a porch light, probably due to the industry's inherent chaos.

I did finally leave the industry a year ago and now work in a serious career. By night, though, I'm well connected to the music scene and know a ton of disk jockeys.
 
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That's a great post, deep dish. However, I wouldn't use the term "chaotic" to describe people in the entertainment industry. I think the term "sensate seeking" is both more accurate as well as less judgmental. There was a feature on some news program earlier this week about extreme risk takers, and how to note the tell tale signs. This personality type becomes evident very early on in life, so there is a genetic basis. There is research which indicates that brain physiology differs for risk takers/sensate seeking types and others.

To put it simply, some people's brains are not easily aroused; therefore, they seek to maximize sensation where say, another person might simply find a daily commute on the freeway home to be more than enough risk and even sensory overload.

So you'll see sensate seeking types at loud clubs, experimenting with drugs, engaging in risky activities of all kinds, or in the case of women, seeking out extreme risk taking guys: drug dealers, criminals, etc. Frequent sexual encounters sometimes mixed with drug consumption and/or sexual activity in clubs, is not at all unusual for these types of individuals.

If you are attracted to that type of person or lifestyle, you'll get along swimmingly at least for a period of item. If you are the shy, retiring type, you'll be better off looking for a partner in a bookstore, cafe, or in a class at the local college.


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joekerr31 said:
chics that i have some kind of inexplicable amazing attraction to happen probably three times a year at most.

otherwise there are TONS of chics i find myself attracted to, but not with that added magical spark.
Thats interesting.

I meet or see chicks I would fukk all the time, but serious attraction only comes once every year or two.

Must be me!
 

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And from what I hear, a part-time stripper. I have a fatal attraction towards strippers, even though I've never had one.
Heard it from an outside source but I think she's a waitress. Wouldn't be much of a transition to the stage for this one though!

I seem to attract my share of the strippers for some reason.

I actually fukked one back in the day. Kissed another one a couple of times and had a trip to Daytona planned with me, her, my friend, and her friend. Heard through the grapevine that she was prepared to fukk my brains out once we got there, but the trip go t canceled for some reason. She was one of the hottest chicks I've ever known (definitely would have been the hottest I would have bagged) AND she was really sweet too, believe it or not. That was definitely my greatest missed opportunity of all time.

The latest one I met a few weeks ago. She basically carried me to and from the bar after she made me drink the absinthe :crazy:

A song came on the radio when she was at my place and I commented on how I liked it, so she goes out to her car and brings in the cd to let me borrow. Think she might want to see me again sometime?

Young AND a stripper. I should marry this one...haha
 

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STR8UP:
I seem to attract my share of the strippers for some reason.
Well then you need to introduce me to the ones for which you don't have the time.
 

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NorPacWolf:
I wouldn't use the term "chaotic" to describe people in the entertainment industry. I think the term "sensate seeking" is both more accurate as well as less judgmental. There was a feature on some news program earlier this week about extreme risk takers, and how to note the tell tale signs. This personality type becomes evident very early on in life, so there is a genetic basis. There is research which indicates that brain physiology differs for risk takers/sensate seeking types and others.
Oh quite yes, there indeed is the sensation-seeking personae. When it comes to stimulatory lives, I think some people are born that way and it's just who they are, while many others are hard-wired that way through abusive or abandoned childhoods.
If you are attracted to that type of person or lifestyle, you'll get along swimmingly at least for a period of item. If you are the shy, retiring type, you'll be better off looking for a partner in a bookstore, cafe, or in a class at the local college.
I certainly am attracted to party girls and do engage to a certain degree in the party lifestyle, although I'm just like that kid in the movie Almost Famous, traversing in-between two completely different worlds. It does present a bit of a conflict though, as I'm too boring for many of those in the fast lane, and too much for those leading conservative lives. There is a happy medium of people who are just like me and that's what keeps me happy. :D
 

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STR8UP said:
Thats interesting.

I meet or see chicks I would fukk all the time, but serious attraction only comes once every year or two.

Must be me!
naw, 2 or 3 a year is a LOT. hehe. when you think of all the things that have to line up to create a strong sense of attraction its rare. we're talking much more than physical - its personality, look in the eye, looks, etc. A high quality "the whole package" woman for any given man is rare to find.

what would be interesting is to know what the frequency is among women. I suspect that women experience this less than men.
 

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Well then you need to introduce me to the ones for which you don't have the time.
I'm considering doing some cross promotions with some of the strip clubs in the area. I'll keep you in mind!
 

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I actually agree. I meet plenty of women that are hot. The sort of attaraction that you are talking about is pretty rare for me. About once every couple of years. I'm overdue but I'm actually with the last girl that I have felt this way about so it may be a while :D
 

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Well, well, well.

I'm certainly attracted to this chick (physically) and it looks like she's into me too.

Ended up back at my place last night, both of us were pretty pickled. Another drink and a 4a.m. make out session later, come to find out she moved to FL a couple of months ago for REHAB! Didn't ask her what KIND of rehab, but we were all drinking like fish so I'm assuming it wasn't alcohol.

Is it not a good sign when the first time you are together she tells you she was just in rehab and she was raped when she was younger? WOWWWWWWW

Oh well, not looking for a wife anyway!
 
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