How often do you hit up your plates after smashing?

[Zarky]

Sorry man I just don't know. Odds are if you completely change your behavior at this point.. like do a 180 with no explanation... it'll just confuse her. You may have to "wean" her out of the frame you already set for her slowly.

 

[ColonelKilgore]

Couldn't agree more.

So heres the question. Its Friday. I have been controlling the when we get together frame by always asking her the day of if she wants to come over. So should I

A) Ask her to get together this weekend or

B) Wait and see if she brings it up like "what u doing this weekend?" etc

Which is the better move at this point?

Man, you are overthinking this one for sure. Snap yourself out of it. You're acting like a little bi.tch. Don't ask her out if you are going to behave like that.

 

[spiegel549]

Crap hit the fan

thanks for putting me in check everybody today at work was pretty crappy. i've been playing it so cool and smooth then she hits me up at lunch through text asking me how I'm doing. etc Long story short I asked her if she wanted to get together over the weekend and she responds "maybe" so I basically was my normal self with her and said "lol u either do or don't"

she responds "im gonna be tired" I said u can stay over no worries she goes "I cant do that anymore...I decided where better off as friends." I was like "lol you decided that so quickly huh even though we talked about taking it slow enjoying each others company and no pressure see where things go lol." "if thats what u want. cool."

2hrs later she comes in my office like heyyyy if u want where getting drinks me
and kelly (another co worker) I said "I got plans but thanks. have a drink for me." she goes I will!

fuking biotch. wtf happened??? why do I care so much about what she did? We already smashed, she bought me breakfast the next day and then friends me wtf?

How should I act here on out with her? sorry guys havent been so vunerable in a while wtf...

 

[Zarky]

so I basically was my normal self with her and said "lol u either do or don't"

That was poor. You'd already lost her interest but the proper response would have been changing the subject. And then nexting her.

"Wanna hang out on Saturday?"
"Maybe"
"So how 'bout them Redskins..." change topic then end convo then don't ask her again.

she responds "im gonna be tired" I said u can stay over no worries

Bad response. She was telling you she was done with you and you didn't get the hint.

she goes "I cant do that anymore...I decided where better off as friends." I was like "lol you decided that so quickly huh even though we talked about taking it slow enjoying each others company and no pressure see where things go lol."

Lotta butthurtness here.

fuking biotch. wtf happened???

If your responses above are any indication, you were waaaay too needy with this chick. And you were missing major things awhile back that we can only guess about at this point.

It's really tough getting dumped after you've boned. Makes you feel like there's something wrong with you. But, it happens. Live and learn. You can't let up your game even after boning.

EDIT:

Just reread your prev posts. Yeah you got too puppy dog. With all the asking her out and sh*t you became quite unattractive in her eyes. If I remember my younger days, hot 23 year olds have to be trained like pit bulls. They're fearless and you gotta really hold frame and be the coolest, most assholish guy around. Can't do that with 40 year old chicks but a 23 year old HB8? YOu gotta be a badass.

I remember when I was 18 I got this 17 year old chick into me when I was smoking a cigarette after school and she was bugging me and I said, "Get the f*ck away from me" and blew smoke in her face. She was totally on my jock from there on out. Banged her soon thereafter. Was only my second lay too.

Point is... hot young women need to be treated like sh*t, basically. You didn't do that.

It's like the old Beavis and Butthead cartoons where this one character Todd just totally abuses Beavis and Butthead but they still love him because he's just so f*cking cool in their eyes. That's how young women are.

Actually, I take it back about 40-something women. They even go for that sh*t. Especially if they're just out of a marriage. But it has to be toned down juuuuust a little. Not much though.

 

[spiegel549]

That was poor. You'd already lost her interest but the proper response would have been changing the subject. And then nexting her.

"Wanna hang out on Saturday?"
"Maybe"
"So how 'bout them Redskins..." change topic then end convo then don't ask her again.

Bad response. She was telling you she was done with you and you didn't get the hint.


Lotta butthurtness here.

If your responses above are any indication, you were waaaay too needy with this chick. And you were missing major things awhile back that we can only guess about at this point.

It's really tough getting dumped after you've boned. Makes you feel like there's something wrong with you. But, it happens. Live and learn. You can't let up your game even after boning.

EDIT:

Just reread your prev posts. Yeah you got too puppy dog. With all the asking her out and sh*t you became quite unattractive in her eyes. If I remember my younger days, hot 23 year olds have to be trained like pit bulls. They're fearless and you gotta really hold frame and be the coolest, most assholish guy around. Can't do that with 40 year old chicks but a 23 year old HB8? YOu gotta be a badass.

I remember when I was 18 I got this 17 year old chick into me when I was smoking a cigarette after school and she was bugging me and I said, "Get the f*ck away from me" and blew smoke in her face. She was totally on my jock from there on out. Banged her soon thereafter. Was only my second lay too.

Point is... hot young women need to be treated like sh*t, basically. You didn't do that.

It's like the old Beavis and Butthead cartoons where this one character Todd just totally abuses Beavis and Butthead but they still love him because he's just so f*cking cool in their eyes. That's how young women are.

Actually, I take it back about 40-something women. They even go for that sh*t. Especially if they're just out of a marriage. But it has to be toned down juuuuust a little. Not much though.

Appreciate it brother. At least I boned her. The worst is when you get that friends line and you haven't nailed her yer...just the worst.

So for sake of work etc. when I see her be friendly etc. but don't go out of my way, text or anything anymore? Leave it alone. If she initiates text?

 

[Greasy Pig]

Go ghost. I've been in this situation numerous times and just ignored them until they left me alone.
If I did reply to their texts or emails it was always a "closed" reply, meaning I didn't ask them any questions or write anything that indicated I wanted a reply.
Don't be nasty, just be busy. If she accuses you of being a pryck, just laugh and tell her you've been super busy building a boat or anything to give her the impression you're not butthurt and generally unaffected.
If you see her at work, be pleasant, professional and courteous but continue declining her invitations to go out.
Basically, tell her with your actions - not wirds - that you're not interested in being friends with her but don't completely burn the bridge by being an overt azzhole.
She might get drunk one night and be DTF. If so, you pound the bejesus out of her and continue being aloof.

 

[spiegel549]

Most Recent Update

Go ghost. I've been in this situation numerous times and just ignored them until they left me alone.
If I did reply to their texts or emails it was always a "closed" reply, meaning I didn't ask them any questions or write anything that indicated I wanted a reply.
Don't be nasty, just be busy. If she accuses you of being a pryck, just laugh and tell her you've been super busy building a boat or anything to give her the impression you're not butthurt and generally unaffected.
If you see her at work, be pleasant, professional and courteous but continue declining her invitations to go out.
Basically, tell her with your actions - not wirds - that you're not interested in being friends with her but don't completely burn the bridge by being an overt azzhole.
She might get drunk one night and be DTF. If so, you pound the bejesus out of her and continue being aloof.

So yesterday at work (the day after she said she just wants to be friends) since my response was basically "no worries" and I have played it cool and busy, she has been going out of her way to get my attention...check it out.

Yesterday at lunch she came into my office (which she never does) and goes "hey there he is! I was looking for u hows your day??" We made small chit chat and she was being flirty as hell. Saying "what would I do if you left this place?" I laughed most of what she said off and then went back to work. She after a few short minutes went back to her section of the office.

There is a new sales girl at work she recently has been hanging out with, funny enough the new sales girl has taken a liking to me and asks me out for drinks recently. She even came in my office and put on my suit jacket because she was cold, then went back to work with the girl I already banged. So you KNOW when she found out this new sales girl was wearing my jacket the jealousy started flaring up lol...so..

A few hours later I get a text from the girl I banged and it reads "Ralph misses u " (a stuffed animal I gave her recently on her bday that she named ralph) and I responded with "Ralph knows where I'm at " she responds with "hahah"

So at the end of the day I had to drop something off at her section of the office and the second she saw me she was like "Hiiii Jack!! How are u? How was your day???" I made a quick joke, dropped off the package and gave her instructions on what to do and said "have a good night." winked and walked out. She was staring me down smiling the entire time I walked out still trying to make jokes and make convo with me. :crackup:


So let me ask u this. She "wants to be friends" yet seems to really want to gain my attention. I think I can squeeze another bang out of her if I keep being distant and playing it like this. Wait for HER to finally ask me to do something then strike BAM.

Do you guys agree? Thoughts?

 

[Zarky]

No, at this point she's just playing for attention. And the last advice I'll give you about this situation is the old one: Don't fool around with co-workers. It's never worth the trouble. Ever.

Go get interested in women you don't have to see every day. Work should be boring.