How Often Do Girls IOI You?

[kody_starr]

I haven't been keeping track per se, just trying to notice it and act on it, when it happens. Although I don't go out to bars or clubs (at least not very recently), I've noticed at least one new girl a day, just about, will IOI me. As in, stare at me, or check me out, or start up a convo.

I'm wondering, is this unusual?

 

[trajhenkhet02]

Its normal. You are not as unattractive to the female side of the species as you believe yourself to be. All you need do is learn how to strike while the iron is hot to take advantage when these situations do occur.

 

[Allurre]

If a girl gives you the IOI's, don't get overexcited.

Being where I am with my career as an artist + ceo, I get it all the time.

You can easily increase the level of IOI in how you your external presence is communicated. The way you dress, body language, invisible radiance of 'charm'.. and even to the ways your eyes move.

 

[Kerpal]

Never.

 

[Poonani Maker]

All the time. I get tested all the time.

 

[War Against Betaism]

All the time, though never read too much into an IOI. Just last Saturday I slipped up and did read too much into her IOI, had blue balls for a good 3 hours and it hurt like hell.

 

[snowdog]

All the time, and obivous too; but that's only since a month or two.

 

[Natural Vibe]

Very regularly. But perhaps I'm imagining things, perception is projection. no?

When I walk into a crowded room I like to eye lock all the girls looking my way, and mentally say BOOM, BOOM, BOOM, attraction.

I'm probably just assuming that they're attracted, but who cares. Perception is projection.

Fun hobby, makes you feel good, thought it could build a "I'm good with girls ego" which is bad in the long term.

 

[edger]

From hot women, I get them once in a while. Most of the time, they'll pass me right up looking straight ahead as if I don't exist(the common scenario all guys are used to no matter how good-looking they are). And I'm an above average-looking guy who looks confident and displays it in his body language.

That's why I always say your looks don't mean crap to most attractive women. If your good-looks mattered, you'd most of the time be getting vibes from them everytime they passed you up on the street...but that's usually not the case. You can't rely on "vibes"(IOI) from a woman, because if you do, you'll be waiting the rest of your life away, because you'll rarely get them. That's why it's essential to cold-approach. You have a better shot with cold-approaching, than you do getting "vibes".

 

[kody_starr]

You know, that's to be expected. The thing is, if you notice later, they'll be checking you out when they think you aren't looking! Caught red handed!

 

[Darth]

When I walk into a crowded room I like to eye lock all the girls looking my way, and mentally say BOOM, BOOM, BOOM, attraction.

Me too. It's really fun. Especially walking down the street, locking eye contact with all the girls. BOOM. Looks down. Attracted. BOOM. Hand reaches up to brush hair.

And then there's the quick head turn where they pretend they don't see you right until you're about to pass them, and then they quickly turn to look at you. BOOM. Attracted.

Those are the 3 signs I notice, and I see them so often it's become really entertaining now.

 

[edger]

To top it off, I met a guy last night in NYC who's a f*ckin' model, and even he said MOST of the time he doesn't get "checked out" by most attractive women. Good-looking guy too.

Being a good-looking guy from my experience, still won't get you far. As far as I've been able to see, it works that way for women, not for guys.

 

[speakeasy]

Virtually never.

 

[snowdog]

To top it off, I met a guy last night in NYC who's a f*ckin' model, and even he said MOST of the time he doesn't get "checked out" by most attractive women. Good-looking guy too.

Being a good-looking guy from my experience, still won't get you far. As far as I've been able to see, it works that way for women, not for guys.

I can also tell from the same experience that that is true. I know I'm a good looking guy because a lot of girls told me that literately, many times actually. Hot girls too.

There is one moment I'll never forget. I was at some party, and I noticed a girl. She was pretty hot, a good 8. She was looking really seductively at me, and slowly really obvious licked her lips, porno style, while holding that eye contact. That's the biggest IOI you can think of if you ask me. Too bad I was the biggest chump in the world back then and I didn't knew what to do with it. I just smiled politely and kept drinking beer.

It's all about how you carry yourself. It isn't about looks or money at all. That stuff isn't important. I know the ugliest guys who hook up with almost any girl they want because they're smooth.

 

[countermart]

You know almost every day, but I work in the city. The funniest thing is girls licking their lips. I get that a lot. The other day three times in a 10 minute walk. It was like ha, looked into my eyes and licked lips, ah again, ah again...I almost laughed in the street. It seems almost an involuntary reaction from some girls.

The most interesting thing is the huge variability depending on my inner game. If I’ve had a tough time at the office with my confidence down then IOIs entirely vanish. If I’m walking around with a “I’m busy, I know what I want, don’t mess with me I would f you to the bed post”, or lighter “play boy” as in “fun and sexy” mindset I am amazed how women pick up on this attitude instantly, it is like they have some type of 6th sense.

The guys that say this is all about inner game and confidence are correct. I don’t think this actually has much to do with how you look, it has more to do with your inner attitude or strength and this seem to come out in your actions and be very obvious to women. Inner game, confidence and courage..imagine the possibilities!

Countermart

 

[#41]

Rarely -- maybe I'll get one or two IOIs from girls per month (going out twice a week).

The only time women ever get near me or pay attention to me without me walking up to them is to ask how tall I am.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Arrived to a happy hour get-together an hour late tonight. In the beginning, I'm on the steps, I'm on the wall, no one really talking to me except the older woman I met when I first got there. I'm standing while watching TV. Other guys are mackin on the girls at these island tables, and at the bar. About 30-40 mins in, I go to sit on the couch next to two mmm about late-30 year old girls who I kinda know, and Suddenly 4 girls descend on me to my left like hawks. They ask me if I want their company or if I just want to watch TV. I say their company is fine by me, that I don't really care for basketball.

So the one to my immediate left begins the onslaught of ?'s about me. I refuse to tell them who I work for, just telling them generally and self-defacingly what I do. I basically lie, because I don't want women to want me for my job or money. It pisses me off when they assign a value to me right off the bat.

So I'm talking mainly with the one to my left for a good hour, then she tells me that the girl to Her left is "cute" and I disagree with her assessment. We talk about nude body painting, that it's a waste of my time. I throw in crazy stuff (but real-life experiences) into the convos from time to time, and they laugh.

Then the one to my left gets up and goes to the bathroom, the one to her left scoots over and starts "building rapport" with me trying to find out all about me. I tell her that I don't trust people from Wisconsin (she's from there), but we talk for a good 45 minutes, her hanging on my every word. She's 5 yrs younger than me and a little too short/fat, but a lively A-type personality. The other girl comes back talks with me a little longer, but "gives way" to the girl who wants her gone, so she shakes my hand waves and leaves with 1 of her girlfriends. We'd talked about dancing but I never invited her, though she was highly interested in where I was going, what I was doing.

So, in the middle of all this 5, 6, and eh, maybe 7 flock of chicks, I stand up and part ways with all of them leaving them a little dumbfounded, but I had to get back to my truck as I was already an hour expired parking.

I got NO numbers. I'm a fool. Had plenty of opportunities. They were interested in everything I did, where I lived. One, the hb7, I caught looking at me the whole night tonight, but she didn't even get a chance to talk to me, but of the pvssy-blocking girls around me.

During this time on the couch, I caught hotter girls, not of our group, staring from a distance, this included the hot waitstaff girls, but mostly girls there with their boyfriends or at the bar with a small group.

I'd like to meet the hb7 that I didn't get a chance to talk to later someday, because she just seemed Happy, simply being seated 2 girls over from the right of me. The only time I talked to her was when I was leaving.

They all probably left right after I left.

 

[edger]

I am amazed how women pick up on this attitude instantly, it is like they have some type of 6th sense.

I've experienced the same thing as you Countermart. As crazy as this might sound to some people, I strongly believe they have a "sixth sense" the way animals do...and I believe we as men lack it.

Or, I think science has yet to discover that women either use a different part of their brain or more of their brain, that enable them to know certain things.

Whatever it is, all I know is, it's f*ckin' strange and really trips you the f*ck out.

 

[Captain Harlock]

They are usually just checking me out. Occasionally I get assgrabbed or felt up in another way.

 

[Darth]

I've experienced the same thing as you Countermart. As crazy as this might sound to some people, I strongly believe they have a "sixth sense" the way animals do...

Whatever it is, it's pretty creepy....

Like I said, I get a lot of IOI's walking down the street, but not the friendly types as much as the intimidated, submissive types. I'll rarely get smiles, I'll get quick turns away, repeatedly stroking her hair as she gets closer and closer, etc. I don't know what that means. I need to be in a more friendly mood I guess.