how not to be boring?

[BES]

How not to be boring?

I have been talking to women and it seems i am boring. i need help.
talking about school,movies,and i ask about how many bf she have.
and i told her about my ex too.

what are the conversation should i talk?
talk about myself? be boastfull?
I heard make them feel special? how do I do that?
Give me some exapmple please!

what else should i say if i cant say anything?
talk about what?? i need help.
seems that i am the one asking a lot of question.
How do i get a girl to open up to me?
How do i make her laugh? damn i am boring i need to change it fast.
I am a quiet man so my conversation skill is not that good.

please help all the DJ in here!

thanks in advance.

 

[tactic]

You should try the DJ Bible.

If you want to start a good conversation, you need to find something that she is interested in. Humor is one of the best ones out there. Make her laugh and she would want to talk to you. It all depends on what you want to talk about and her. Don't think too much when you have nothing to say to her... It's natural and there is nothing wrong with it. I used to have that too, all you need to do is just relax. Don't try too hard.

 

[jaybeezi]

Yea you should check out the DJ Bible

and I wouldn't make it a point to try and talk about her bf's or your ex.

 

[popcorn]

Maybe its the girl thats boring and so you cant be bothered putting any energy into the convo.

 

[Dirtheart]

Not so much a DJ tip, but a tip for maintaining a conversation with anyone: ask them lots of questions. Most people love talking about themselves, so sit back and learn what interests them most (i.e. what they like talking about most).

Ask what they like to do in their free time and then ask questions about it as though you're genuinely interested. You don't need to give any info about yourself (unless asked) and she'll think you have everything in common.

 

[red sky30]

Seems like lighthearted, fun, conversation where you get her giggly and laughing like she's drunk..

the question thing stated above is best used in moderation. I've definitely used it to the max sometimes and it doesn't work at all. It just seems like you're pounding them with questions like a detective trying to get into a criminals head.

Good for finding topics of interest, but for keeping conversation going, you must go somewhere else...


and forget the bible..

Field Experience for this one.

 

[CLOONEY]

First thing to do is relax and realise that NOBODY is boring. There will NEVER be another you in this world. Everyone is different. You have friends right? They are interested in you and dont find you boring. Because around them you can relax, show your sense of humor (everyone has one, it is part of being a human being).

 

[ManOMan]

One thing I notice about Great conversationalists is that they Know a little bit about EVERYTHING

They know culture, travel, education, food, drinks, science, yoga, business, current news, snowboarding, etc

They know a Little bit about EVERYTHING, they are informed people who can relate to others

Try to educate yourself more to these things, READ, Experience new things, Go to new Places

When you meet a new girl, you will always have a story to tell about anything she brings up

If she says she is a Masseuse, start talking about the best massage you've ever had, about how she started, what her technique is

If you have experience and knowledge you will never run out of things to talk about and wont be boring

Another thing that is related to this is to TRY to get INTERESTED in what other people talk about

if a girl says she is a yoga instructor and you know nothing about yoga, ask her about it in a way that shows you are INTERESTED to LEARN something new

Then she will do all the talking and you will be listening, learning and having more questions to ask

Ask me a question about any topic, and I will have at least 20 questions about it resulting in about an hour of conversation

 

[ScrewIt]

the key is to keep them interested in you and make them laugh.

most afc and other guys out there will try to stay serious. but you, you are differnt, you'll be the guy that's made her smile and laugh in sad times. this is what makes you special to her.

any girl that im friends with or classmates, i will one way or another make htem laugh. whether i intended to make them laugh or not, it has become my personality. that way, they see me as a fun guy with a bright personality.

im not saying to be class clown or a guy that cracks jokes.
you just need to have what you have to make them laugh.
such as being witty, c&f, or other many things...

u just need to realize what makes htem laugh

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

DJ ManOMan is right on the mark!!

Don't try to 'act' funny, if you are not!

 

[Ol'BlueEyes]

the way I do it...

Once you're talking with a girl for a while, asking her questions about what she does, where she's from, etc. Do this...
Take something she says and blow it way out of proportion.
For instance, there were two girls who I met last night; they were both nurses. I immediately launched into a spiel about candy-stripers, giving patients sponge-baths and just laying into the porn-nurse-stereotype. I had 'em in stitches.
They both gave me positive body language to begin with (kino, touching hair), so it was like icing on the cake.
I wasn't nervous at all; these two girls weren't THAT hot, maybe 6's or 5's, and I wasn't on the prowl, I was just relaxing and having fun. Ever have the feeling that sometimes practicing can be better than the game? That's the way I felt.

Try this also; it always gets a cool response from any HB:
Ask her, "If you could describe yourself as a dessert, which would it be?" Every time I ask it the girl looks at me with wide eyes and says, "Wow! Nobody's EVER asked me that before!" Plus, she'll usually answer something like cheesecake or honey--that you can easily turn into sexual innuendo.