How much truth exists in the old line about girls which seek love outside the couple?

[Who Dares Win]

Just wondering what is your opinion about that line about women which seek love outside the couple when the boyfriend/husband is not providing enough.

The example of an alpha male which is a cop and spends most of his time at work and even when he is at home he doesnt really give any particular attention to her, probably he still fvcks her good but lack to satisfy her emotionally.

Do you think that such woman would seek love outside and get a lover or she would rather suffer emotionally but still thinking about her alpha man?
Would she get a real lover or simply an emotional tampoon while still dreaming about her man?

 

[Mike32ct]

I vote for the emotional tampon / orbiter / nice guy / or gay buddy.

For simplicity, let's call the cop guy the "alpha" and the nice guy orbiter the "beta."

I always said that the beta actually helps the alpha get laid, AND more importantly, the beta keeps the woman from breaking up with and/or divorcing her alpha man.

It follows this cycle.

1. Woman Fs hot alpha.

2. She has great mindblowing sex.

3. But he's distant, aloof, and doesn't provide any tenderness, caring, and/or emotional support afterwards.

4. She is genuinely tempted to break up with the alpha because he isn't emotionally available to her.

5. She calls her beta and vents.

5. He's desperate for female attention and secretly wants to F her so he gives her a shoulder to cry on. He listens to her b@tching session.

6. She feels better and tells him what a great guy he is, and he will make "some girl happy someday."

7. She has mixed feelings about the beta. On one hand, she knows he's a good guy. But she secretly resents his unattractiveness, perceived weakness, and inability to date and/or get laid. In short, she starts to feel disgust at her mangina guy.

8. She texts the alpha cop guy and Fs him later to feel some masculinity again.

To make a long story short, women seesaw between beta emotional support and alpha rough sexy masculinity. They balance each other out.

If the beta told her to F off (not likely lol) and she couldn't replace the beta, the alpha may EVENTUALLY lose his gf. (Unless she got her emotional support from a gay dude or her gfs.)

The funny part is the beta will wonder, "You keep b@tching about this alpha jerk and talking about breaking up with him, but you never do" lol. He doesn't understand that he's an enabler that keeps her and the alpha together.

 

[Gro0ver]

It certainly does happen but depends on the character of the woman and availability of male who will provide what she needs. Men do it as well sometimes because *shock horror* men have emotional and validation needs too.

 

[NobodyCares1]

One question... where the fvck did you get the idea that an alpha male never shows any emotions? A great guy likes the girl and appreciates her, but he also knows when he has to be tough and cold, he rewards good behavior with good emotions and bad with bad emotions.

This trying hard to be an cold emotionless alpha will get you nowhere. Go and try to be cold with a woman and get her to bed. You might sometimes get a one night stand but your chances of something more meaningful are very low.

 

[rhythmic]

The funny part is the beta will wonder, "You keep b@tching about this alpha jerk and talking about breaking up with him, but you never do" lol. He doesn't understand that he's an enabler that keeps her and the alpha together.

Nailed it. A girl I'm seeing at the minute has this other guy eating out of the palm of her hand, turning up at a moment's notice, texting her all the time to make sure she's OK... Works out great for me!

And in the insanely unlikely event that she "comes to her senses" and actually get with the other guy?... Oh well! Indifference and having options are king.

In the past, I've been the beta guy, listening to these *****ing sessions. And from the other side, I can confirm that the girl becomes SO much more receptive when you just tell her to b1tch to someone else. I actually ended up nailing a girl that way; I just literally one day realised I didn't need to be listening to her talking at me about her terrible life, and told her to get out of my face.

 

[SamTheHobit]

It all depends, but let's go with the discretion op provided..

I'm not sure on the correct definition of Alpha, but I believe different traits are attractive to different women and therefore "alpha" varies.

Ok, well whatever you guys Beleive the lack of attention he gives her will surely end badly.

Either in divorce or cheating.

Women feed off attention and emotion far more than physical contact.

Let's just put it this way, it may be intriguing at first and "mysterious" but it will end badly.. She will actually begin to hate him. That's how much women crave attention.

Ok if you don't believe me..

Put yourself in her shoes for a minute imagine your wife is distant and hardly pays attention to you.. Unless you are emotionally stunted you won't want that kind of relationship. In fact you would think she's banging other guys even though she's not.. and it will just spiral out of control.

 

[Who Dares Win]

The question is not created from my imagination neither is the behaviour of the "alpha guy", its a couple I know which made me think since such girl has many orbiter many of which gets some petting with her, so my curiosity arised.

Just trying to see the dinamic of such if her behaviour was to make sure to keep them in her orbit or if she needed extra emotional attention.

I implied that her guy neglect her because she complained to one of those orbiters (a guy with which I train often) about how her guy doesnt even text her when she doesnt come back home and some other stuff I dont remember.

What doesnt make sense to me is that this guy once in a while meet her and they do foreplays togheter, he told me it was her to initiated.

Something doesnt match to me, I totally agree with what Mike said plus I believe in the attraction lead the way and nothing else matters concept.

 

[bigneil]

Infidelity is normal human female behavior. It optimizes their odds of reproducing and having children that are taken care of. They seek out a younger male and/or older male. Not necessarily Beta. If a young and old Alpha are available she'll seek both of them.

 

[SamTheHobit]

Infidelity is normal human female behavior. It optimizes their odds of reproducing and having children that are taken care of. They seek out a younger male and/or older male. Not necessarily Beta. If a young and old Alpha are available she'll seek both of them.

Damn wh0res.

 

[pdx1138]

The thread title made me think of the "poly" chicks that post in online dating sites.

In an open relationship but want some cack outside what they have.

 

[BelleSing94]

Omg you guys are ridiculous! Just because we have sexual AND emotional needs doesn't mean we're all filthy *****s who'll sleep around just because we feel lonely!

I was really tempted to cheat on my boyfriend while I was studying abroad this semester, but just because I was tempted to doesn't mean I acted on those temptations.

 

[Vidrio]

Omg you guys are ridiculous! Just because we have sexual AND emotional needs doesn't mean we're all filthy *****s who'll sleep around just because we feel lonely!

That's funny because most women's number one excuse for cheating is "I was lonely!"