How much of attraction is "compatibility"?

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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
 

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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
First a woman that is not compatible with you will stress you with suggestions and requests to do stuff you dont want do to and create drama when you dont comply...that alone kills libido in many cases.

Second when there are shared hobbies and values, it's much easier to let yourself go then it comes by itself that you are able to release the most inner part of yourself without the conscious brain working non stop as a supervisor.

In order to be attracted from someone you have to let the animal inside you to work.

A 6 that likes to train with you at the gym, have a barbecue together than bang in the swimming pool is much more attractive than an 8 that calls you mid training cause she doesnt want you to be late for that couples date at the modern art theatre.
 

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Compatibility is a reddit blue pill term that is thrown around a lot by simps and feminists. It means nothing.
 

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I think men care about compatibility and for good reason, assuming it’s with someone he wants to date. For a ONS, it’s much less important.

I don’t think women care about compatibility much at all when it comes to attraction. Her tingles have nothing to do with having stuff in common. Oddly, having too much in common can lead to friendzone.
 
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Compatibility doesn't mean having things in common, but having the right type of dynamic that fuels the attraction. Like a Dominant and a submissive have a dynamic that is compatible because the Dominant wants someone to dominate and the submissive needs someone to dominate them. And those dynamics often juxtapose opposites rather than commonalities.
 

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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
Physical attraction is part of it but it's not the only factor. Being compatible means that you enjoy spending time together, that you have a similar sense of humour, that you don't argue too much.
 

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I don't think compatibility has anything to do with attraction...however, I DO think it has everything to do with any sort of partnership BEYOND attraction.

For example, I met this really hot girl down at the beach a few years ago and visited her on the way home to hang out and f***. I think I'm very attractive, and I thought she was very attractive - however, she was painfully liberal and spiritual, whereas I lean more to the left and wouldn't consider myself religious or spiritual in any capacity.

Needless to say, we didn't see each other again after that.
 

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Compatibility is a reddit blue pill term that is thrown around a lot by simps and feminists. It means nothing.
So if a hot girl came your way but she was a feminist, would you consider yourself compatible?
 

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This is an open-ended question. But you hear the word compatibility thrown around. What does it mean and how much does it have to do with attraction?
Similar goals, values, and character.

Has very little to do with looks. For women, initial attraction (man's looks) can sometimes be the lead-in but other factors are far more important for a LTR or marriage.
 

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So if a hot girl came your way but she was a feminist, would you consider yourself compatible?
Isn't that what ballgags are for?
 

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Hi BPH,
"Needless to say, we didn't see each other again after that."But i hope you still Fvucked her,Huh?
 

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Hi Captain,
Back in the day,perceived wisdom was,Opposites attract,but having things in common,is what keeps people together.
 

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So if a hot girl came your way but she was a feminist, would you consider yourself compatible?
Yeah, almost every girl I meet is a feminist nowadays so I'm over it. What women believe in means nothing anyway.
 

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At some point sex gets old. Hell, there’s sexual compatibility too.
For me it's mostly about sexual compatibility. While I appreciate when a woman shows that she's literate and worldly, if she doesn't like to have kinky sex, it's all for naught. I mean, I'd still talk with her, but if she's a prude or asexual, she'll end up in my friend zone.
 
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