How much do you help an EX

[SAYNO]

As Much As I hate To Agree With You

You made a good point with this statement:

The message I want to get across is: LOVE your child MORE than you hate your ex.

I don't know what I would do without my little girls, I love them to death, if me and wifey ever split up I would be devestated.

Okay, back to my usual self..

Wlydfire shut the hell up, your wrong, wrong, wrong. Nope im just joking. :cheer:



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[Wyldfire]

Re: As Much As I hate To Agree With You

Originally posted by SAYNO
You made a good point with this statement:

The message I want to get across is: LOVE your child MORE than you hate your ex.

I don't know what I would do without my little girls, I love them to death, if me and wifey ever split up I would be devestated.

Okay, back to my usual self..

Wlydfire shut the hell up, your wrong, wrong, wrong. Nope im just joking. :cheer:



SAYNO'

Why are you even here if you're married? If you don't want to split up with your wife then I'd highly advise that you not cheat on her. It's men who cheat on their wives and men who leave their wives that end up dealing with the bitter, greedy "take him for all you can get" exes. And frankly...if you violate your vows you have no one to blame but yourself. The one who gets left or cheated on is almost always the bitter one in a divorce...and they do tend to try to hurt their ex through the children, which is disgusting.

 

[Lost In Translation]

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[hithard]

First and foremost...if anything you do to help benefits your child or prevents your child from suffering hardship then you aren't really helping your ex, but rather helping your child. As long as the things you do are being done for the sake of your kid and not in an attempt to get your ex back then I'd say do whatever you feel like doing to help.

I think we might have missed the part where I said I had him for more than half the time. I wanted to keep the whole who’s more of a deadbeat out of this. I do more then my piece for my son. Not to score brownie points, or to impress anyone. Simply because I love him. And no I’m not including stuff that helps my son.

I don’t want to go through all the stuff she did. For all anyone knows I might be trying to make my self look like a victim or a saint. It was a case of she was going backwards. And I was focused on moving ahead, while trying to drag her along to. In the end I knew her IL was down, and she was about to cheat. I broke it off with her. I walked out with the clothes on my back. That night she had a ONS(which may or may not have been setup beforehand)

The first week I was bitter about the whole thing. Called her every name under the sun. But I realized I needed to change my focus from her to me. And start working on bettering myself instead of worrying about things that are out of my control. Not to mention it was a rough ride. And no I do not want her back at all.

Take it from me (someone in the same boat for 7 years). I do too much, and if I give and inch, she'll expect a mile tomorow. It starts off w/ a ride to the grocery store, next thing you know she wants to borrow your car.

This is the situation now.
Rollo Tomassi excellent post.And I think that is the danger of being to friendly with an Ex.At this point she acts like we have not broken up when we are together.Hugs trying to grab my hand.The whole I love you lines.Im just not into it and want to move on.Why waste anymore time
Rollo Tomassi,Desdinova,MacAvoy,SAYNO,Wyldfire and everyone else thanks for the tips.

 

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by hithard
I think we might have missed the part where I said I had him for more than half the time. I wanted to keep the whole who’s more of a deadbeat out of this. I do more then my piece for my son. Not to score brownie points, or to impress anyone. Simply because I love him. And no I’m not including stuff that helps my son.

I don’t want to go through all the stuff she did. For all anyone knows I might be trying to make my self look like a victim or a saint. It was a case of she was going backwards. And I was focused on moving ahead, while trying to drag her along to. In the end I knew her IL was down, and she was about to cheat. I broke it off with her. I walked out with the clothes on my back. That night she had a ONS(which may or may not have been setup beforehand)

The first week I was bitter about the whole thing. Called her every name under the sun. But I realized I needed to change my focus from her to me. And start working on bettering myself instead of worrying about things that are out of my control. Not to mention it was a rough ride. And no I do not want her back at all.


This is the situation now.
Rollo Tomassi excellent post.And I think that is the danger of being to friendly with an Ex.At this point she acts like we have not broken up when we are together.Hugs trying to grab my hand.The whole I love you lines.Im just not into it and want to move on.Why waste anymore time
Rollo Tomassi,Desdinova,MacAvoy,SAYNO,Wyldfire and everyone else thanks for the tips.

So she's basically trying to get you to take her back? Meaning she will come up with any excuse to get you to go over. That's what you should have said from the get go. In light of the situation, you are at high risk for having a very ugly situation on your hands if you aren't careful. You have the potential to become bitter over her cheating and she has the potential to become bitter because you left her (even though she deserved it.)

Try your best to be patient while also making it clear that it's over between you. Keep things as cordial and friendly as you possibly can because that is what your child needs from the both of you.
If there is a valid issue she needs your help with that can impact your child at all...you should try to help as it sounds like you're doing. Beyond that, don't feel obligated but also try not to be an ass when you say no...for your OWN good and for the good of your kiddo.

 

[MrLuvr]

Re: Re: As Much As I hate To Agree With You

Originally posted by Wyldfire
Why are you even here if you're married? If you don't want to split up with your wife then I'd highly advise that you not cheat on her. It's men who cheat on their wives and men who leave their wives that end up dealing with the bitter, greedy "take him for all you can get" exes. And frankly...if you violate your vows you have no one to blame but yourself. The one who gets left or cheated on is almost always the bitter one in a divorce...and they do tend to try to hurt their ex through the children, which is disgusting.

Who the hell let this woman back in here?

I thought we had gotten rid of her.

 

[Wyldfire]

Re: Re: Re: As Much As I hate To Agree With You

Originally posted by MrLuvr
Who the hell let this woman back in here?

I thought we had gotten rid of her.

Whining and crying to have me banned will get you nowhere. I'm a long time member who is respected by many members here. I have posts in the DJ Bible. If you can't cope with me being here you have the option of leaving.

 

[SAYNO]

Re: Re: Re: As Much As I hate To Agree With You

Originally posted by MrLuvr
Who the hell let this woman back in here?

I thought we had gotten rid of her.

Only heaven knows, but chalk it up to my discretion or lack thereof.

Just put her on ignore, like everyone else does! :woo:


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